Why Generation «Y» miserably
Motivation A Life / / December 19, 2019
Generation «Y» - this generation of yuppies. A yuppie - a "young rich people, built on a passion for leading professional career and material success of an active social life. Yuppies have a high-paying job in the clothing prefer business style, follow the fashion, fitness center. The main criterion for belonging to the "yuppies" - success in business. " To this generation are those born between the year 1970 and the mid 90s. That is it - the majority of our readers.
On one of the US blog published an interesting article on the subject of happiness (or unhappiness) of this same generation of «Y». And we wondered how things are in our business, "home" generation «Y».
Of course, not all who are born in this time - yuppies. This is only a part of dedicated people for whom work replaces all. They just liked the process. Can we consider generation «Y» more miserable (or happy) compared with generation "jajaja"? Good question. But in order to find the answer, you need to dig a little deeper, and ask a lot of questions is not very pleasant to himself.
So why in achieving its main purpose - to career success, we can be unhappy?
Among the standard yuppie has a separate subspecies - are people who think they are special, the main character of a very particular history, the so-called Gypsys.
But they have not always a happy look. Why? For this we must first understand the components of happiness. For example, it may be a simple formula "Happiness = Reality - Expectations."
"Happiness = Reality - Expectations"
Do you agree?
Quite simply, if the result exceeds expectations, all satisfied and happy if, on the contrary - around continuous dissatisfaction with life.
Here, for example, a girl Lucy. She - a bright representative of a particular subspecies of yuppies. And she was unhappy. What's wrong with her expectations? Here, perhaps, is to dig a little deeper and look at the parents of Lucy.
They were born in the 50s (in the United States during the baby boom) and raised by grandparents who lived through the Great Depression and the war, and is clearly distinguished from the generation of Gypsys.
As people who have experienced hard times, they were obsessed with stability. They really wanted to parents Lucy found a decently paid and, importantly, stable and secure operation. And that brought her parents in this way. They taught that nothing can prevent them from reaching those green lawns with a good job as a tasty and juicy grass. But you need to work long and hard.
After Lucy's parents graduated from university and started to work, in the world there was an economic boom, and eventually their careers have developed much better than they could have imagined. After that, their idea of what can be done, have become more optimistic, especially when compared to their parents. And they were not alone. Thousands of these same happy parents across the country have begun to raise their children as the main special characters of history, in which they - the only and unique, and will be able to achieve all that want.
And it provided a generation of lifelong GYPSYs pink glasses. They were worthy of more than just a green lawn with lush grass. They were supposed to get a lawn dotted with flowers!
And this brings us to the first fact of Gypsys: they need a career much more than secure and prosperous green lawn.
The fact that a green lawn is fairly predictable and not so unique. And if the generation of the 50s wanted to live the American Dream, the generation GYPSYs wanted to live their own dream.
Now secure career is no longer in vogue. It is fashionable to "follow their dreams"
Like their parents, they also want to get their careers economic prosperity, but other than that, they want to fill it in such a way that their parents did not even think.
So we need to go back to childhood Lucy for a second "pattern" (an example of the behavior), which she received from her parents:
You are special!
Oh, how much snot and tears were shed while watching movies about such "special" who have achieved everything he wanted out of life, and even more.
And this brings us to the second fact of Gypsys: they may be a little out of it.
Lucy taught that anyone can achieve something in my career and get to the green lush lawns, but you... you... you - especially! You will graze on the lawn unicorns and flowers bloom forever!
As a result, an entire generation thinks that every one of them - a special that he deserves more than others. And certainly it should all get better!
But the same can not be anything special? This is contrary to the very definition of the word!
special
not like anything unusual
But even in such a situation, these guys are thinking, "So what? It is they think they are special, and I'm actually very-very special! Not as special as all other special! "
And this implies the following problem: if the parents Lucy believed that a good climb up the ladder - it's years of labor, the Lucy thinks all it is a matter of course (I'm special, special!), and that its work and the ability to appreciate right away, as soon as she crossed the threshold office. And she will get all the relevant buns here and now or in the near future.
But the reality is that in order to reach the lush lawns with flowers and unicorns, you need to work very hard for a long time. And the lawn - it honestly deserved, and then place the blood. And sometimes it is necessary to plow for those who want to reach lawns with at least more or less decent grass.
The world is cruel, unicorns at all will not save enough, but stubborn GYPSYs unwilling to recognize this fact.
Paul Harvey, a professor at the University of New Hampshire, studying gene «Y» and generation GYPSYs long time. He believes that the main source of frustration these people are over-inflated expectations. They are unable to critically look at themselves and their ability to believe in the feature and the unicorn, so they always waiting for a miracle, or a fairy godmother, which is sure to see in them the true talent and hold the handle in the magic country. GYPSYs always believe that we deserve more, no matter what they may have received the award.
Employers who are dealing with these candidates, Professor Harvey advises to ask two questions: "Do you feel that outperform their peers / odnoklassinkov / classmates / friends? And if so, why? "Usually, the first question they readily answer" Yes! ", But to get them to articulate, reasoned answer to the second question is quite difficult. This is because all their confidence is based on the often unjustified praise and confidence in features and superiority over others.
And as in the real world access to magically lawns provide only for services, a few years after graduation, Lucy and her kind exhibit themselves in the same place where they were - on the lawn with sparse grass and lush pastures are in an inaccessible level somewhere behind the clouds years of hard work, trial and errors.
Reality Lucy is on the minus level compared to its expectations, so life does not seem so wonderful. It is difficult to be happy in such a situation.
And this leads to another problem, which concerns the whole generation: GYPSYs extremely caustic.
Of course, some people have graduated and found a job better than Lucy's parents, but they know about them only from other people's stories, and even then only fragmentary information. Few of them know what is really going on in the careers of others.
And then connects the modern Vanity Fair: Social Networks!
All write only about what they manage, and very few people wrote about errors or failures. Lucy walks into a tape of your friends and see solid pictures posh dinners, cars, sea and sun, happy tusovochek and smiling children and spouses. It reads solid, "we held an unprecedented action," "we have the most important customer," "I bought a new car / house / dog / wife." And in the end all these people are often composed entirely erroneous picture. It seems that everything around succeeded, but not Lucy. She still continues to sit on its sparse lawn and fend the fact that it is growing. While in the real world, not in the social networks, these "happy and successful people" may well be neighbors Lucy lawns.
So, Lucy feels undervalued and unhappy. And it seems that the reality never coincide with its expectations. What was she to do?
- It continues to be terribly ambitious! But while these ambitions need something to eat. Now there are always new niches and directions. People themselves create them. So why not try to do something there? You just need to plunge and assiduously dig, dig, dig in this direction.
- Stop thinking that she was special. Special can become, but only if you work hard for a long time and become really professional in their field.
- Ignore the rest and stop constantly mown lawn on other people. At the neighbor is always greener grass and fence whiter, but it does not mean that it has no problems and everything goes smoothly. Moreover, sometimes lawns Lucy might be better than his neighbor, but she is always looking for flaws in them, and it just seems that someone better. Nobody ever tells everyone how in fact it all happens, how it works and whether he has doubts or fears. And if they tell you it's not the same all through.
And now I would like to go back a little into our reality. Compare one to one with the reality is quite difficult in the US, but these elements are present in our country. Our parents grew up and were educated in the spirit of "the party and united." They knew that if you are guaranteed to learn, the State is guaranteed to provide you work, and then the apartment, if you work well. But not at once. Everything was stable and predicted - a planned economy and all that. But after the collapse of the USSR everything was upside down, and those who were born in the 80s of the 20th century, already saw themselves in a completely different way: no stability, tear, grab, go to the head, as long as there possibility. Just we have started to appear the first corporations and cushy place in them. Due to the shortage of personnel with the necessary education in the majority of those who stood "at the foundations", had a meteoric career rise and eventually at some places there were people who would never have got there at a normal level competition. They began to look more and want to improve the here and now.
Those who were born in the 90s, seen enough genius Zuckerberg, Durov and the like, and also imagined themselves the same Durov and Zuckerberg. Somehow, none of them looks at Larry Page and Sergey Brin, Arkady Volozh or late Ilya Segalovich - too long to build. All come to fashion startup tusovochki, write letters with offers "a unique application that has no analogues in the App Store, not in Google Play», look at investors puppy-dog eyes, roll out totally inadequate budgets and very offended and stomp her foot in his blozhike in sotssetochke if they are somewhere hurt or underestimated.
Of course, this does not happen in all areas, but only in accordance with certain trends of the fashion world and demand, but these people are still there. Even more appropriate is sometimes glancing sideways at the adjacent "social field", see there dummies unicorns, sighing to himself, and then a long and cruel torture themselves because they all wrong and "what am I worse?!".
What do you think, whether we have the representatives of the generation of the «Y», a subspecies of "special» GYPSYs? In your present themselves at least part of the gene? Were the rosy childhood, stories about the features and genius? Why so many are now simply can not achieve a state of peace, happiness and satisfaction?