25 excuses that prevent you to be happy

Do you feel like something is holding you back from being able to be happy? Do It often happens that you say 'no', but in fact really want to say "yes"? Do not you give up the opportunity, while they have to grab with both hands? You pretend that you do not notice how your most cherished dreams languish in a corner, having lost all hope of being fulfilled.

Over the years in your mind without your knowledge grow stronger beliefs that you are now taken for granted, and which severely limit the possibilities of your growth. Each time they will emerge in the form of excuses as to why you can not start doing something really important to you. The only way to overcome your consciousness - is to arrange a frank conversation with yourself and understand some of the excuses urgently needs to give up to move on.

Too late

You grow and see how people achieve certain things in roughly the same age: Finish school, Institute, arranged a good job, start to get enough money to get married, have children, and so on. These observations are set in your brain-specific installation: a matter achievement or any age must comply. And if you're in something on this new course slower than the rest, it seems to be a deviation from regulations and keeps you from doing the things that you really want to do right now.

Alternative: now is the time to start!

No need to build their lives on the basis of these, in general, unfounded convictions, that at what time to do it. This is your life - your desires and your event. And only you can decide what and in what order should occur in your life, and age has nothing to do with it.

I have no time

Let everyone in the same number of hours per day - 24. But why does one have time to redo a lot of cases, but not always enough time to others?

Alternative: you need to properly manage your time

Be aware of how you use their timeAnd ruthlessly cut out those activities for which it is not necessary to spend. To schedule cases, prioritize, delegate where possible cause. Emphasize the quality of performed cases, rather than their quantity.

I am a simple and boring

Boring or interesting - it's a matter of opinion and choice. Each of us is given a stage and some props. And the only difference is in how you interpret and play their part.

Alternative: I myself responsible for writing the story of my life!

Simply choose "not be more than boring" and start to act. First, decide what your concept - an interesting person. And every time you feel that "sour", make a step towards your definition of interesting personalities.

I do not deserve this

There are two options. Or do you think that is not worthy of something beautiful: love, success, respect, or think that you befalls too many of life's difficulties. And then, and another slows you on the path to happiness.

Alternative: in front of me a lot of options!

If you catch yourself thinking, "Why me" (whether there is a speech about the problems or, on the contrary, the great success), ask: "Why not me?" We are all equal, and all of its success and their difficulties. There is no higher power, that one generously weighed only positive, and pour all the other ills and misfortunes. Learn to accept and all the good and all the bad things that life presents you with grace.

I am responsible for the [first / fifth / tenth], and because the time does not remain

This justification is especially common among young parents. But remember that, devoting himself to the other, you do not make anyone happy. Life must be lived at full capacity.

Alternative: I'm a priority at

Take time to enough sleep, eat right, exercise and recuperate. This is not selfishness, it's just a higher level of care. And when you are in great shape and frame of mind, you can much better assist relatives who surround you.

No body understands me

Each of us has his own life and everyone has worried about what all busy with their chores. At the end of the day very few people have the time and energy that go into someone else's problem. But if you really need to have someone interested in your challenges and experiences, it is necessary to help the listener to do this.

Alternative: I have to communicate their ideas clearly and act accordingly

Stop beating around the bush and speak hints. Loud and clear explainWhat worries you. And by the way, remember that no one is obliged to agree with you and understand you at all times.

No one is worried about what excites me

Can you imagine what would happen if everyone adhered to this point of view? Yes, we would never have appeared charities, fuel-efficient cars in the area of ​​health achievements of peacekeepers ...

Alternative: I care about this, because it is important

Take a strong position. If you care about something, let it even something personal, find a compelling reason why you do it and help others to understand why this is so important.

I'm not very smart

This belief starts to grow little by little. You are doing something, stuck or even fail, and you think: "Yes, I happen to stupid!" To Unfortunately, over the years, this idea is often only strengthened in the minds because it always learn new things difficult.

Alternative: it's time to practice!

When you catch yourself thinking that again underestimate their intelligence, stop. Identify one area (small), the ignorance of which makes you feel stupid, and spend some time and energy on her studies. Strengthen your confidence that you can understand something if you want. Then take the next small step - repeat, do not need to immediately take up the global volume. The more you learn, the stronger will be your conviction that you are still enough intelligent man.

For how I started, my parents have a responsibility

Stop-stop-stop! The term of this excuse for a long time has expired! Yes, your parents have the responsibility to help you get your life story. But how it will develop in the future, it depends on your actions and decisions.

Alternative: now I'm in complete control of your life

Let your past to bring you a favor and not anger. You can not go back and change everything, but now you can change anything you want to continue life was as it should be you.

I do not have the discipline and drive

I do not remember where you came from this belief? Chances are, you were forced to do something that you are not very inspired, and have failed. And every time you do something uninteresting, you again fail. What can be said in justification? I do not have the discipline.

Alternative: I need to understand how to motivate yourself

Instead of forcing yourself to do something you do not like, try to fool themselves and acquire habits that will help easier to perform routine business and to achieve the desired end result. By the way, studies have shown that strength of will - a limited and non-renewable resource, with for all, not just for you. Disciplined people - those who could replace brute forcing himself on a thin motivation and habits.

I am not made for long-term relationships

How many times have heard it or said yourself? Perhaps you are afraid of becoming vulnerable or losing control over their lives. Maybe you're worried about your ability to be loyal and faithful. Or, on the contrary, paranoid fear that betray you. Everyone has their own fears are present to some extent. So ask yourself: why instead of looking in the face of their fears and overcome them, I make them to justify doing nothing?

Alternative: I have a relationship, and I'm ready to deal with their fears

First recognize that you are scared and worried. But all (or at least many) are scared and worried as well as you do. Take a firm stand and deal with their fears, not run away from them. Of course, as in everything in life, in this case, some will have to spend more effort and energy than others.

Now is not the time

Very busy? Just got a promotion and want to deal exclusively with career? Recently severed relationship and are suffering now? But life gives us the possibility of not choosing to do convenient timeWhen you will be fully prepared for it. Take it now or lose.

Alternative: just in time!

Imagine that you are old, very old and getting ready to go into another world. Do you feel bitter regret that so easily buried the opportunities that you get lost? Remember that any opportunity that will make you grow and develop your means out of the comfort zone, which means that it will never appear in the "right time."

Too many have to work

Love, dreams, small victories - all this brings so much joy, happiness and brightness in our lives. But why do you think that all of this must be given to you easily? Why do you believe that it just has to fall on you? Why do nice things must come to you without hard work?

Alternative: I am ready to work hard

Remember that success - it is above all hard work. Make every effort, and then will reap their labors.

This man is too similar to the one who made me very sick in the past

No two people are exactly alike. In addition, you are changed. And if you met a man by nature or action resembles the one who hurt you in the past, it does not mean that this situation will repeat now.

Alternative: I will not judge a person based on the behavior and actions of someone else

Know and be aware of, but keep an open heart. If you catch yourself thinking that the port is communicating with a man because of the fact that someone like something done or not done in the past, stop yourself. If you see that your new friend or partner repeats the same mistakes as the person who offended you, gently try to direct his steps in the right direction. Live in the present and let your current judgment manage your solutions.

I'm doing [something that I hate], so as not to upset their loved ones

Any relationship should give you strength, and not chase you. Do not use them as an excuse to continue to suffer continuously and do something that really should be.

Alternative: the time has come to speak frankly

Remember that using this excuse, you actually reduce the price of their relationship with someone else. depriving them honesty. If you really do not like to do something, find a way to solve this problem. If the decision is not, therefore, think, and all you have to order? Long-term suffering and sacrifice can never be part of a healthy relationship.

My [parent / friend / family member] forces me to exercise my worst quality

Seriously? You decide just like that to shift the blame to someone else?! Remember, you and only you control his actions. No need to use any kind of relationship as an excuse for weakness and negative character traits.

Alternative: I'll let appear the worst features of my character

Your behavior - your responsibility. Yes, you will be my bad qualities, if they themselves afford it.

I so unlucky ...

Shallow men believe in luck, strong men believe in cause and effect. What kind of person you want to be?

Alternative: I'll create myself lucky

Be the creator of your destiny. Yes, failures happen, but that's no reason to not try something new and wither before the threat tolerate failure. Stand up and take action, regardless of whether Lady Luck will turn to face you, or elsewhere.

I'm waiting for a turning point in my life, or I'm not ready yet

These two justifications, in fact, are based on the same issues: the fear to start something new, apathy and reluctance to change something. Undoubtedly, life crises are very helpful to start a movement, but do not count on them, because you can wait for a very long time. Of course, the changes should plan and prepare (for example, learn something new), But there is a danger that you spend too much time in the preparatory period.

Alternative: I'm ready right now as well as at any other time

Just start - and everything will fall into place. Also, when you take something new, it may be the beginning and the very large living fracture. Waiting and planning will never bring you the data that really works, and that - no. You need to start, and then calculate each step.

Everything has been thought up and done before me. Needless to try

Indeed, with very few exceptions, everything has already been done. But you can use non-original idea and fill it with individual and unique, unique to you. Are you ready to do this?

Alternative: skipping the usual thing through the prism of my personality, I can give it a great value

Just decide to be yourself and do things the way they should look perfectly to your mind. Do you want to make a website for parents? But such projects have a million! Make one that will interest all over for you. Write about what excites you personally. And surely you will find followers.

I am a loser

If someone says that never in his life have failed, it is either the happiest person on earth, or one who is nothing special in my life and did not try to be subjected to even a minimal risk to suffer failed. And because the first is very unlikely (well there is absolutely happy people), hence - the second. Would you like to live such a life? Do not try anything and do not take active measures?

Alternative: I am ready to fail and learn something from this example

Failures - this is normal. Look them in the face - it is just another fear. Get over it, began to try something new. Do you let a few failure knock you out of the way to the dream? Of course, it is terrible to endure the ups and downs, rise and start all over again, but this is life: trial and error, change and growth.

I am too scared

Congratulations! You are a normal adequate person. Even the most seemingly brave people are afraid of something. by contrast wimps strong and brave people it is that they do not allow their fears turn into excuses.

Alternative: the fear is that I'm a man

If you live a busy life, your companion will always be fear. It is designed to protect you from the dangers and serious mistakes. You just do not get hung up on little warning, which he sends you. What you should do is to soberly assess the situation and estimate the risks before you go one step forward.

I'll never do it perfectly, so why try?

Perfection - is a thorough and detailed work. But if fear does not do the job perfectly keeps you from being able to start it, there is reason to think seriously. Sometimes perfection - it's bad for you.

Alternative: best - the enemy of the good

Your perfectionism It should focus on the process rather than the final result. Start doing something, but set the time - when your work will be on public display. Yes, you should try to do their job very well, but do not need to get hung up on how to do everything perfectly right. So you've never done.

I will never reach the same success as that of [someone else], and so why try?

Well how do you know that? Seriously, no matter how cool was that "someone" why are you so sure that you will not be able to beat him? And in general, what to compare their achievements with other people, try to beat their own records.

Alternative: I compete only with myself

Stop comparing yourself to others. The only thing that makes sense: if I became myself better today yesterday? The rest - a waste of time and effort.

My [parents / loved one / children] will not support me,

If you do not have the support of loved ones, you should thank your lucky stars for that. You have a unique opportunity to test their ideas (perhaps unsuccessfully), involving in this process is the minimum number of people to view where you have to build. You try to make the most of this opportunity and will use it as an excuse?

Alternative: how can I win?

Take this as a personal challenge. What can you do to to convince parent / lover / children that they are right? Listen to each argument of your "opposition" and develop. Benefit for themselves from this situation.

I can not

In the words of Henry Ford: "Whether you think you can accomplish anything, or believe you can not - in both cases, you're right." You have total control over himself.

Alternative: I'll start doing it now!

All only in our thoughts. If Helen Keller, Mahatma Gandhi, Beethoven, Thomas Edison, Mother Teresa, Michael Phelps, and many others were able to change the history, why can not you? Answer: You can! If you are willing to spend the time and effort to overcome the barriers that stand in front of you.

And how do you this list? Certainly, as you read it, you're nodding your head, sighing and frowning, finding in some points themselves and their justification. So what to do? Begin to act now. Because now you know what prevents you to be happy and how to fight it.

By the way, what justifications were the closest for you?