As an excuse to help move forward
Motivation A Life / / December 19, 2019
We love to find an excuse for their defeats, often unconsciously. Why do we so need to justify their mistakes and failures, and how to use it to move forward?
Imagine this scenario: you are at school you pass enough light testing. The professor tells you that you can take a drug that improves performance, a kind of a drug or a drug that inhibits performance. What do you choose?
Now imagine another scenario in which you have to pass a very difficult test, and answer difficult questions. Professor again offers to take drugs, one of which increases productivity, and the other - inhibits. What do you choose now?
Scientists from Princeton and Harvard University carried out research on this subject and got the following results: the majority of students who easy task, choosing drugs against doping, and students to solve complex tests, on the contrary, chose lowering drugs performance.
It seems counter-intuitive, but the scientists gave this explanation for difficult tests students chose "stultify" drugs to justify bad results that they thought would have the tests.
Blame everyone except me
In other words, when we expect failure, we are looking for ways to protect their self-esteem. This is a psychological phenomenon that can be called "samouravnoveshivanie", and he is able to pull you back to life.
Overall, the study shows how the desire to justify itself a bad influence on your performance and motivation. Here are a few examples from your life?
- People remain on the hated work, because they are afraid to fail in another area.
- Full of people say that they are overweight - a genetic feature.
- Hypochondriacs say their poor health - is the cause of all the failures in life.
- Athletes accused of his defeats external circumstances.
It is natural that we are trying to justify their failure to feel better. In any case, you can benefit from this psychological characteristics.
How to help justify
Psychologist Martin Seligman conducted an experiment with a group of swimmers. After training, he told the athletes that their performance is worse than it was in reality. After that, he watched as indicators of change in the next time.
Swimmers who thought that poor performance - to their credit, and upset the next time sailed worse. Other swimmers attributed their poor performance to circumstances that do not depend on them, kept the faith in their own strength and optimistic, and the next time sailed better.
In other words, self-justification can really help you,it will not lower your self-esteem and help to survive the unpleasant event, while maintaining confidence in themselves.
How to use it
Let's say you are going to open a business and did not get off the ground. Rather than blame yourself, "I can not do that, because I lazy ass", you can think in a different way: "I'm a man. All we have to fight with them to begin to do something. "
Instead of: "I think I went bankrupt," said: "Even if there will be the worst, and I burned up, it will simply be another lesson, and I'll be fine."
You can not control all the events in your life, but you can control your reaction to them, and your actions that will follow. Just stop blaming yourself for all the troubles, cursing for slips planting and their self-esteem.
But there is one rule: when you have paid off, it is time to move forward. You got a lesson, supported their self-esteem, and now - it's time for action.
Do you often notice for a self-justification?