Draw up lists of the New Year right: how not to fall into their own trap

And so every year. In addition, in recent years make such here To Do Lists occupation became very fashionable. Therefore, some do it simply in order to be a trend and that had something to discuss on a Christmas night-school students.

What am I? And the fact that the theme of this is stopping up holes and now almost all the posts and articles that catch my eye, mainly that the time to make your list, and if not managed, how it survive. At first I thought shrug and ignore this topic. And then still I decided to dig a little deeper. Yes, you need to make lists, and follow them, too, need. But it should be done properly. That then, together with the approach of Christmas and New Year holidays to the expectation of something magical and light is not added yet weak pricks of conscience, and the first light bouts of depression due to the fact that subconsciously we understand - a year has passed, and the list is not made even 30%.

Immediately I will say that the composer and singer of the lists I is not very good. And to be precise, I have more turns to follow a given direction than strictly follow the instructions.

At first I was terribly upset and complexed about it. How so? Most of my surroundings is obtained strictly follow the plan, and my sails constantly adjusts the wind of change. When I realized that this self-flagellation to anything good will not, I decided to try a slightly different approach. And, as it turned out, for me it is much better than all these clear guidelines and points. Now, I also found a couple of interesting articles in the confirmation of my thoughts and actions.

So, in the journal «Psychology Today» published several interesting articles on the subject of compiling the list, which I decided to merge into one. The bottom line, as always, is simple and obvious. But we sometimes forget about it.

Compile lists

The first article It was drawing up lists themselves. What do we do before we sit down at your list for the coming year? We analyze the past year, we listen first to our desire, and then pass them through the sieve of reason, Then they go through a rigorous selection of our possibilities (to coincide with the desires) and the actual view of the world. Then we sit down and write down what they wanted to achieve in his new year.

Sometimes we get so carried away that in our notebook end clean sheets. Our lists are too long, we think globally and too many goals from the list is almost unattainable. Plus, we forget that even positive changes require us to go beyond your comfort zone. All this together is stored in huge snowball into an avalanche which covers your head with us at the moment of reckoning.

What to do, so it was not excruciatingly painful, shame (shame?) For "wasted year"?

1. Determine your priorities and then drop those extra points.

2. Try to avoid information overload. Filter the information that goes into your already overloaded brain.

3. And in the end, learn to say a firm "no." You will immediately see plenty of free time for the realization of their own, and not strangers, plans... you'll see.

magic words

In second article it was a magic word and how our words act on our subconscious mind and all that we do.

Christopher Bryan, a researcher at the Stanford Center for Longevity, made one very interesting discovery. It turns out that if a person replaces a noun verb (not "help", and n "assistant", not "Cheats" and "cheater") and pronounces it out loud, he forces himself to think about who he is and what he does.

I agree that it is one thing to say, "Well, yes, I was a little deceived" and stated, "Yes, I am - a liar." All at once appears in a slightly different light. It is one thing simply to invent, think, people almost always something to invent, embellish and lie. And quite another matter when they call you a liar, a fraud and a swindler. In the same way it works in a positive way.

If you replace "I will run in the new year" to "I'm a runner," you will have a much better chance to put a tick in front of the item at the end of next year.

When verbs become nouns, our actions have more opportunities to express their positive identity.

So you somehow would confirm your desired image. Yes, I'm running, I lead a healthy lifestyle. Sports are not just one more thing for which you do not have time. It becomes an expression of yourself, your internal needs, your I, in the end.

Standard list looks something like this: "I am losing weight by 10 kg", "I will pay all the loans," "I'll start saving money," etc. Perhaps we do not always manage to perform these items because saying "I begin," "I," we just identify with the way that all this can be done, but at the same time and do not believe that will become such. But we can become so through our actions.

Our actions and who we become as a result, are inextricably linked. We behave in a certain way because we want to have a certain personality, which for themselves have painted. And to confirm their new and desired "I" we can just start doing something in this direction.

Therefore, Brian gives good advice. He suggests starting with the compilation of lists of what we really want? Who do we really want to be? And stick to this basic way. Then more minor items from the lists to be made, and all unnecessary otseetsya in the making.

results

As I said above, I have experience in the proper preparation of lists and their strict implementation I have a very, very small, so the super-personal tips to drastically change your life, I can not give. But I'm sure this post will be useful for those who is exactly the same unformatted way of life, and those who strictly adheres to the plan. First realize that simply sticking to the main line of its path and clearly defined objectives will help enough, and the latter is finally able to subdue his perfectionism and finally the sections of Making plans.

In the end, in support of all the above written this post I write from the point of the world, which always wanted to be and now I know what I'll do next;)