Why experience is more important things
Motivation / / December 19, 2019
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We made a cult of the things
Lamborghini on Wall Street, celebrity handbags from Louis Vuitton, the mansions in which they live successful people. The list goes on.
We deceive ourselves into thinking chtoedinstvennoe, on which depends the happiness - the mark of our car or the number of zeros in a bank account. We have built a financial success on a pedestal and convinced everyone to share these beliefs.
In a society that idolizes material goods, life becomes useless, endless journey.
The key to happiness is not to spend time and money on things. The key to happiness - to invest money and time in your life experience.
MasterCard is telling the truth: "There are things that can not be bought."
Our experience defines us
In December, during a trip to Hawaii, I attended ten-day course of meditation. It was the most difficult, but the most enlightening experience that I managed to get: I've never felt such a close connection between mind and body. More importantly, it has pushed me to change
a life and to fulfill the dream - to leave the company, where I got a job in the past year and move to New York.Every experience brings with it a mistake or a triumph, as well as an understanding of self. Experience helps clear my head, to understand what kind of people we want to see next, and ultimately find what makes us happy.
Abraham Lincoln, American statesman, 16th US PresidentAt the end of the road no matter how many days have been in your life. It matters how many lives have been in your days.
We live in a society where the material is the highest value. We like being able to hold in your hand that we buy. This is because things related to the currency, which dictates its value on the market.
Unable to physically feel the experience of dives off a cliff on a Sunday afternoon. Similarly, this is the case with our first experiences in dealing with partners: we can not sell it.
Abigail Van Buren (Pauline Phillips), American journalist and radio broadcaster of the twentieth centuryIf we could sell our experiences for the price that we got it, we would all be millionaires.
We gather everything that has ever seen, heard, tasted, and felt. This experience teaches us not to be considered working hours in a tiny office, but will lead to a breakthrough idea for business.
In other words, the experience brings with it life lessons. Tangible assets do not bring anything, but put us in the scoreboard.
The experience remains with us
What are our most pleasant memories? I remember not the gifts received for the holidays, but guests who have come to my birthday party, or the smell of hot chocolate on Christmas morning. I remember the first lesson of cycling with my brother and the first date, which, incidentally, went badly. This is something that brings a smile to my face today.
The main drawback of investing in things - their limited shelf life.
When we buy a thing, not only decreases its value on the market: after a while we cease to feel its worth. Quite different is the case with the experience. He emotionally durable and can be multiplied, as we develop throughout life. At any moment the experience remains with us.
According to studies, more than 80% of people are more likely to remember their mental purchases than actually committed. This means that the experience brings us happiness, not only at the time when we get it, but when you just think about it.
How to get experience
We give three tips that will help to give up things for the benefit of experience.
1. Change your financial priorities
If we want a real experience, we have to set priorities, to adjust budget under the adventures that lie ahead. It's as simple as to save on the TV instead of to go to South America.
Think about what you really need and what you need to stay. In fact, we need very little material to enjoy life. Learn rational approach to buying things: one sberezhonnaya fines will gain experience that will change everything.
2. Say "yes" more often
Becoming older, we learn to make decisions, assessing risks, carefully considering everything. If we want more experience, it is necessary to push these principles by the wayside. Top adventure begins when they are least expected. Constantly telling myself: "What if" - a sure way to remain for a lifetime on the couch, watching other people's adventures.
Begin to say "yes." Learn to live in the present. When you next time podvernotsya opportunity to gain experience, ask yourself a simple question: "Will I be sorry if you do not take advantage of this opportunity? Tomorrow, next week or next year? "If the answer is" yes "or" maybe ", the adventure should answer is also" yes. "
The future is uncertain. But you can manage it, less thinking and more doing.
3. Start with a small (and cheap) adventure
Are you one of those people who look the same movie several times in a row, walking the same paths in the same office, eat in the same restaurants?
Do you need a break from the daily routine. Be open to new experiences. Instead of going to the usual Italian restaurant near the office, visit some new place.
The most valuable experience is not worth much. He is near. You just need to find it.
There are a lot of negative reviews about the site of the Council for each day, but you these resources will be helpful. Personally, I have tried everything from salsa (15 dollarovza ten sessions) and cooking courses medieval dinners ($ 39), ending flight lessons (88 dollars). Coupon sites - the cheapest way to get an incredible adventure with friends or by yourself. Start a little risk. You will be surprised how quickly it will blow you away.
One day we will all die. But before that, let us ask ourselves questions:
- I lived?
- What do I regret?
- I experienced everything I wanted to try?
Only you can decide what is most important: mark car or adventure and freedom. But try to invest in something that will give the impression, not bills. Let your assets are minimal, but the experience is rich.
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