Mistakes of successful people that lead to failure

In our class children generally divided into 3 types: honors, which are all easily given, the best students, who had to cram day and night and all the others who did not care. Children from the first category was considered talented, from the second - diligent, and children from the third - just lazy. As in any school, successful and talented trained for only academic success, career and life in the style of "Faster, Higher, Stronger." But the higher demands on themselves, the harder it is to cope with situations in which you find yourself is not always "Faster, Higher, Stronger."

desire to please

I think that the reward for good grades in school, received many. That is, you do not pay for something that you are really good students, and for the high balls, which opened the way to the best universities. How exactly do you receive these assessments, parents cared less. At the very least, too, so it was in my family. I'm just lucky that learning was easy and everything I read, settles in my head, but do not take off the next day.

In his book «NurtureShock: New Thinking About Children» On Brosnon suggests otherwise commendable action. Children whose parents are constantly told that they are the best, growing up, afraid to take any challenge in which there is at least a remote chance of failure, fearing for his reputation. They are accustomed to the fact that in the eyes of others they are the best-and the failure would be bad for their public reputation. They are like the air you need universal approval!

The main mistake is that we think that the only way to make a positive impression on people and gain recognition (praise, candy) - wealth, fame and power. But this does not mean that true happiness lies in these three standard indicators.

Fear of failure

Desire to please leads to the fact that we are trying to choose for themselves such cases, where the failure rate is reduced to almost zero. Man chooses to work with which he accurately manage and which will present no surprises. If they choose a new direction, it is only those that they have learned and are confident in their abilities.

But what about new beginnings, that in the beginning of the road go hand in hand with the risk? In this case, the strength of the turns in the weakest - perfectionism and fear of mistakes do not give many talented people to start something new, risky and exciting.

Stop praising yourself for achievements and begin to appreciate a good ability to work and take risks! The truth is that people love to fight. How long can you watch a movie in which everything goes smoothly at a constant pace? I think you get bored after 20 minutes, if not sooner. So if you give others the opportunity to participate in your new, interesting and risky endeavors, get candy sweeter.

inability to retreat

Sometimes you need to step back in order to make progress in the direction you want. Successful people are often so afraid of retreat, in order to take the right direction, they prefer either to continue to do what they do not like, or are excluded from it. This is especially true change in his career.

Really great and successful people have always found the strength to destroy what they had created, and to build on the basis of lessons learned has something new and more successful!

Too many choices

When you are talented and successful, various suggestions and you will hear and from all sides, like a horn of plenty. But is it always good to have such a wide choice? Sometimes a number of interesting proposals turns into a real torment. It is difficult to choose, you're afraid to make a mistake and comes analytical paralysis.

If you give up one of the prestigious offer, you will have to choose another, and suddenly it will not be as good? And if on the contrary? How to convince myself that the dreams that are at variance with the definition of social prestige and success, it is necessary to embody?

You can not control the incoming offers, but you can change their nature and their reactions to them. Be honest and tell people exactly what you want and what you like, what motivates. While others will be easier to offer things that are really interesting for you.

To wish come true, you need someone to hear it!

too impatient

The real secret is that successful people are more focused on efficiency rather than on the outcome. When faced with difficulties, instead of saying, "It takes too much time," they say, "I can not perform it." Some people who have changed their scope of activities, complain that here they do not shine a brilliant career (as in the old job).

The question is basically is not whether it is possible to do it, or not, and how much time it will take and how hard you have to work at it.

You should know exactly what you want. And the only person you have to beg - is you. You can not fail if you do not give up. There is no large number of options, most of them do not even relevant.

We are always more proud of overcoming difficulties than outcomes.