Extreme way to acquire habits or get rid of them
Motivation / / December 19, 2019
We often say that the way to global changes is long. However, there is another method: to change lives dramatically, trying to do a lot more than planned, to give himself a shake, at one point began to think differently.
Imagine bricks on a swing. Now they are all on one side.
Changing something in itself, if we shift the brick one on the opposite side of the swing. Something has changed, but this habit not strengthened in you, because too many bricks left on the other side of the see-saw.
What draws you back:
- Lifestyle;
- environment, which has contributed to the acquisition of habits;
- pressure or friends of friends, who try to get you back on track;
- deeply ingrained old habit.
To change, you need to simultaneously shift all the bricks on the other half. It seems that our imaginary swing now look like this:
In fact, you still pulls a rather big load: cultural baggage, identity, habits, and your past. Therefore, the swing is as follows:
Your extreme change to balance what is pulling you back. Now swing bogged down in the ground, that is, changes foothold.
Examples of extreme changes
EXAMPLE 1
You are used to shift the responsibility on others for everything that happens in your life. Do you want to change and try to think like this:
In some ways, I still blame myself, I have to be responsible for certain things.
That is a small step, shift the one brick.
Wrong. Balance is not achieved. Need for extreme measures, so that you felt that you are doing too much.
That's how you have to think:
Absolutely to blame me. I'm to blame for the fact that the world is not what it should be, that the government does not suit me, and the fact that others treat me not as I would like. My duty - to change the things that I do not like.
Once, too, huh? You find that your swing looks like this:
You are trying to think in this way, sometimes you even manage it. But do not let the feeling that something still is not your fault. This is normal, this is a balance.
When he strengthened, you will learn how to take responsibility.
EXAMPLE 2
Do you want to learn how to maintain cleanliness in the home, not to be ashamed, at any time to invite guests to a cup of coffee. Raise the bar: the house must be spotlessly clean, in an upscale hotel. And constantly strive to follow this principle.
EXAMPLE 3
You want to write a weekly blog. So, we must try to lay out articles every day.
Remember that extreme changes require you to exceptional willpowerSo Spread the habits not simultaneously but in succession. Only when you feel that the changes finally took root, proceed to the next habit.