Why it is necessary to do what seems impossible

According to psychological studies, the anticipation of an event is almost always brings more emotion than the event itself. They say: the expectation of the holiday much more pleasant holiday itself.

Fear is to ask your boss increase or a raise can hamper your hands and feet for many months. But when you nevertheless will be going with the spirit and ask your question, it will not even notice how fast everything goes. The desire to get something or to reach a goal can grow to truly impressive scale and even make you a little bit obsessed. However, in a short time, having achieved the desired, you will lose your temper and switch to something new.

We buy things and become happier. But only for a while. New things first, we get carried away, and then we get used to them.

Thomas Gilovich (Thomas Gilovich), a professor of psychology

It is curious that our minds can make us what is already one only thought of owning any thing will bring a lot more fun than the thing itself. So often it turns out that we just enjoy the whole idea of ​​not incarnating it in life. In his new book, the writer Ryan Holiday (Ryan Holiday) explains that one of the main obstacles on the path to success becomes very idea of ​​the possibility of success.

Dream very nice. It's nice to share with other people their plans. It's nice to put long-term goals and to think of ways to implement them. It's nice just to look at yourself in the mirror and realize that there is almost nothing is impossible. Most people are missing and these castles in the air. The very process of dreams seems so pleasant, that begins to interfere with the implementation of ideas into reality.

After we have repeatedly and in detail we lose in my head time of the alleged triumph, we are no longer so eager that he was really going on. We simply lose the ability to act, because they themselves have deceived themselves and believe in what has already achieved something worthwhile.

When we begin to take real steps toward a goal, you will certainly face with all sorts of obstacles. That was not so painful, we compensate for the discomfort different momentary pleasures. American author Robert Greene (Robert Greene) believes that this kind of discomfort is very useful and you just need to learn to love him.

You can find some sort of perverse pleasure to wade through the pain on the way to the goal.

Robert Green

How to get rid of the routine

Entrepreneur and writer Jesse Itsler (Jesse Itzler) in one of his books is divided curious personal example. Itsler felt gradually bogged down in routine and was not averse to a little shake. So he decided to invite me to visit his friend, Marine, and it brought very unexpected results.

Marine Itslera asked: "How many times can you catch?" Writer barely pulled eight times. "Spending half a minute, and do much more," - went on a Marine. After 30 seconds Itsler again climbed on the bar and, overcoming himself, pulled six more times. A US Marine was adamant: "Rest - 30 seconds, and then go to the bar." Cursing everything in the world, the writer pulled three more times. "We do not uydom anywhere from here until you podtyaneshsya hundred times", - said the Marine. "Then we will be stuck here forever. Because I never do it, "- he retorted Itsler. But in the end the writer up to the task, making one tightening at a time. So "seal" Itsleru proved that he can do much more than used to think.

It was a very valuable lesson for Itslera, which he called the "rule of 40%": often people give up too soon just because they feel exhausted physically and emotionally. In fact, this is happening at a time when we actually spend only 40% of the available forces in reserve. When we overcome ourselves and to strain more than 40%, then go beyond the boundaries of their comfort zone.

Learn how to go all the way and achieve goals

Obstacles on the way to the target - a challenge from the mind: whether you will be able to focus on problem and overcome boredom or as a child, give in to temptation and begin to get distracted by short-term pleasure?

Robert Greene, author

Like Itsleru who jumped higher than his head, performed hundreds of pull-ups, you can also say goodbye to routine set yourself specific goals. The main idea is to do something and do not stop until you are finished. It does absolutely no matter how long it takes.

Your goal is to achieve what seems impossible to you. You need to learn to get exactly the perverse pleasure of overcoming internal resistance, which was mentioned by Greene.

As classes are based on the time on this principle CrossFit workouts,: You set yourself a clear target and train until you reach it.

The motto of "sea lion" is: "If a simple task, it is just not worth it for the brethren."

This principle can be applied to everything. You can do household chores until they redo them all. You can write an article and not give up until it somewhere not be published. You can catch a hundred times, to run a marathon or cross the river. What is the difference, how long will it take?

The greatest opportunity in the history of

Nowadays, more and more rarely you meet people who are able to go head to work, while a skill is becoming more valuable in today's economy. It is logical that the greatest success in the career plan will achieve the one who will be able to perfectly develop their skill.

We live in an incredibly paced world with a whole bunch of distractions. It becomes almost impossible to focus on a task for longer than 5 minutes, no matter what no longer distracted. However, it triggered the following law: every action there is a reaction. While the majority is becoming increasingly lazy and heavy to lift, a small group of focused and attentive workaholics is removed from the situation favor.

average performance over time.

Tyler Cowen, economist

You either get those who run their own lives, or merge with the gray mass. You back, when something does not work? Or continue to persistently move forward? The choice is yours.

This is normal, when in the beginning of the road you encounter difficulties. Something truly worthwhile will require from you a lot of effort and sacrifice. In the past, people were willing to sacrifice short-term pleasures for the sake of a better future. Now, we have, on the contrary, are taught to to live in the present moment.

And most people it does so. They live one day. And if they do something does not work or it becomes unbearable to overcome obstacles, they give up. Most people prefer the ephemeral dreams of a better future satisfaction of immediate desires. In addition, there is another widespread justification of his own helplessness and mediocrity: Love yourself for who you are. If so, then why bother to strive for something?

But enough talk about losers. Let's talk a little bit about, and successful people. The main difference is that they have never themselves do not feel so. They know all my flaws and weaknesses and are constantly working hard to correct them and strengthened. All the familiar expression "The more I know, the less I know" accurately illustrates the situation described. But that's the rub: they are particularly acutely aware of their imperfections, and therefore often suffer from a lack of confidence. Most of them were victims of the myth that before you succeed, you need love yourself.

This is not enough. Nothing will change the fact that you just will take in one day convince yourself that you are on the whole not a bad person. Belief in yourself and love yourself you need to make and strengthen concrete actions. Then you get a reward for all the difficulties encountered on the way to the goal.

You get a reward for the work that actually did, rather than empty promises.

Ryan Holiday, writer

Remember one thing: if something is given to you easily, then it is not worth your effort. Only overcoming these difficulties, you will gain confidence in themselves.

Pleasure or happiness?

True happiness is significantly different from the immediate pleasures. No, I do not think that the momentary pleasure - it's something bad. However, they often interfere with something more durable.

Happiness is no bitter aftertaste, because it is not depression, it does not bring bitterness and frustration. True happiness can be experienced in the memory again and again and get just as much fun as the first time. Momentary pleasure is quite capable to cause irreparable harm to make you suffer and regret.

Talmedzh James (James Talmage), scientist

It is the embodiment of what you put a lot of effort will bring much more satisfying than ordinary minute fun. Do not be afraid of obstacles. Move ahead. And then in return you get as much happiness as never seen those who succumb to the difficulties.