8 words from which you should get rid
Motivation / / December 19, 2019
For several years I have been watching the manner of speech of other people: relatives, colleagues, acquaintances and friends. These observations allow us to draw interesting conclusions: great results in work, sport and life in general They sought and seek those who avoid the use of words in his vocabulary, which will be discussed in this article. Let's see why you should get rid of the usual formulations.
"Maybe", "possible"
You leave yourself a loophole that do not end up making a decision. "Maybe I'll go to the gym," "Maybe I will read more," "Maybe next month, it is necessary to develop a range of changes in our project? "- all this is hidden excuses, when the face of the inevitability of you still do not want something do. But admit to himself in this difficult, so it is better to give decision someone, and yourself, "maybe", support this decision.
"Tomorrow"
"I'll think about it tomorrow" - said O'Harra Scarlett (Scarlett O'Hara). But you're not flighty girl. 80% deferred for tomorrow will not be executed never though could be solved, done, it said today before the end of the day. Or are you too much of the charge (and you just have to revise their plans the density and structure of the work tasks for the day), or you should kill
procrastinator in itself (it is more difficult, but more importantly from the perspective of long-term perspective)."Never"
"I could never raise a hand against another person." Can, even as if your life or the lives of your loved ones would be in danger. "Do not forgive her" - I'm sorry, just not right away (or at all forget over time). Remember the "Star Wars," and Obi-Wan Kenobi? "Only a Sith still erect in the absolute" Translated into simple human means that only people selfish and self-righteous operate wording such as "never", "for nothing" (as well as "always" "forever and ever"). Life is much more complex and nonlinear than just a collection of units and the division into white and black.
"Future"
The concept, which has not been seen and never will be (because "tomorrow" tomorrow will turn into a "today" and phrases like "In the future I will be more healthy / successful / richer "- it's just samoumilenie not to think about anything and hide what you really worried and did not get away this anxiety" of cabinet "). Think about the best thing you can change today, what would you like to achieve today what one small goal you can achieve before the end of the working day.
"I wish ..."
Of regret starts to develop a huge mountain of adverse experiences that literally crushes you to the ground. You are not the man, how were even six months ago; you already know what can be done and what is not, you have already made or are making certain choices. And therefore regret what was done or not done does not make sense: you do not have a time machine to fix it. Endless "sorry, that ..." - it's just the way around in search of what can not be found.
"It's my pleasure"
"Thank you for helping with the report", - says a colleague to you. "But not for that!" - answer you, and a month later a colleague comes to you as if nothing had happened, except that you just have to help him with the report, because you are a cool dude. Replace "not at all" to "please": provided by your service, your time, efforts made have value, and "please" - the most effective and positive way to convey this value in a friendly form, even if you are really so unselfish and open man.
"Impossible"
"You can not lose weight by 5 kg in such a short time", "You can not quit this stupid job, because I have there is no money "," It is impossible to run 5 km, I have no shortness of breath and walk a difficult "- tell us about the impossibility of people like Nick Vuychich (Nick Vujicic)... No, leave Nick alone phenomenon! Tell us about what is "impossible", your neighbors, colleagues or relatives, who have problems with heart, whose diabetes or recovery from trauma in a car accident or sport injury. They did not give up just because this morning getting out of bed or walk to work, they were hard. Tell us about the impossibility of children (we have already once said that young children We have much to learn). Our experience of past negative events, regrets and habit of putting off all that seems too complicated, tomorrow or in the future - this is what constitutes your "impossible."
"By chance"
"I accidentally made a mistake," "Accidentally forgot", "happened to be at this event" - Oh, come on! You have been careless, and so made a mistake; too loaded themselves, and therefore forgotten; We wanted to go to a conference or a party, and at the last minute found a way to make time and money. Reasonable people make of accidents conclusions for themselves to continue to do / do something that they have for the first time was an accident. case the will not be the best assistant in business, but the tenacity and perseverance - yes.
What kind of "word-blockers" you notice in his speech?