How to stop the self-destruction and make friends with them
Motivation / / December 19, 2019
Imagine a friend who points out your mistake every constantly repeats that you no matter what, and no good can stop change for the better.
You say to him: "I have decided to quit smoking." To which he responds to you: "Come on, you've got the whole family smokes, friends are smokers, do not make things up, you have no chance to tie." It is unlikely you would be much appreciated if such a friend ...
But often we do with them that way. We know that some habits are harmful to us, but still continue to follow them. We feel that we should do something for their health and well-being, but usually we neglect it.
It turns out that the worst enemy that interferes with normal life, we are.
How do you know that you are preventing yourself live
The first thing to do - is to keep track of bad habits, to realize that they spoil life.
The problem is that any habits become a part of life, like brushing your teeth before going to bed or watching a news feed in the evenings. You do not really notice what you are doing. To fight the bad influence, you need to identify your bad habits.
Consider your day from the beginning. Let's say you used to skip breakfast or eat a quick sandwich and drink it with strong coffee. You do not even notice it, but have heard about the importance of full breakfast. Or, for example, you are used to a sedentary lifestyle and are not thinking about during the day to get up and look a bit like or exercise.
Analyze every aspect of your life and identify bad habits and actions - is the first step to ensure that the start to deal with them.
Find out the reasons
When you have prepared a list of things that prevent live, think about the reasons for his behavior. Maybe you do not meditate, because you do not have time or you get bored doing this? Or you overeat because you want to silence the feeling of discomfort from work or family problems? Maybe you prokrastinirueteBecause you are afraid of responsibility or do you not interested in the work that you do?
Be honest with yourself - iterate over all sorts of reasons, until you find the real conditions of their destructive behavior.
7 ways to get rid of self-destruction
1. Guard against harmful thoughts
Sometimes we have added solid erroneous beliefs, which is extremely difficult to overcome. You would think that they are part of you, but it is not. Man by nature is flexible and can accommodate any setting, if a sufficiently long and hard to shape it. This ability can be useful. Track beliefs that prevent you live: low self-esteem, lack of opportunity for change, and so on.
Ask yourself questions, become his own analyst. For example, if you feel uncomfortable in the company, ask yourself: "Why am I decided that shyness - it is my natural quality? "," What hinders me speak freely? "," I always feel other people squeezed into society? "," When this began?".
None of your negative qualities taken for granted, should not be left without consideration. Avoid answers: "I am by nature a", "This is my destiny," "There is not going to do anything." Remember that everything can change.
2. Create a life that will not have to fight with him
When in your life there is something you do not like it, you begin to somehow fight this. For example, if you hate your job, you are late, poorly perform their duties, quarrels with colleagues and superiors. In this case, you do not fire, and the whole struggle takes place on a subconscious level and spoils your life.
Make it so that in your life there is no room for war with itself. Or accept things as they are, or try to change them.
3. Make a conscious choice
If you choose a business, friend, companion of life, sports or anything else, do it consciously, be prepared for anything. For example, if you want to build your business, then you are prepared not only to the fact that you have the money and independence, but also to risk the possibility of failure and lack of free time. If you decide to get married, apart from love and life with family man you can expect a partial loss of freedom, domestic problems and occasional quarrels.
4. Stop postponing
We do not take over the case, when it is expected that they will be boring, scary or unbearable. In fact, we put what scares us. To conquer fear, start small and do not think about what lies ahead. Perform tasks that take no more than five minutes. So you get rid of the fear and begin to perform more complex tasks.
5. Destroy harmful beliefs through action
In order to overcome negative beliefs and habits, some thought is not enough, we need action. For example, if you feel that your opinion is not valued, often try to speak at public meetings, to propose new ideas and express their point of view. Gradually, your negative attitude will change to positive.
6. Do not pursue an ideal welcome the gradual progress
If you suffer from perfectionism, Any failure can knock you off track and get to think about whether it is worth it to start a business. The pursuit of ideal ends in tears and broken hopes. Instead, welcome the gradual progress, congratulate yourself for any achievement and do not reproach for failure. Remember that failure is success, and is part of any business.
7. Remember that life is finite
We forget that life can end at any time, and no one knows what will happen next. If you are not creating something worthwhile when you do it? And who's stopping you to do whatever you want, but you yourself? Who can forbid you to be happy, if not you? When you think of that will get rid of bad habits later, remember that this can not be.
Tie with self-destruction now. You can become yourself a friend who does not give bad advice and not criticized for miscalculations that always comfort, support and come to the rescue.