Without self-pity: how to push the limits of their capabilities

Without pity

An officer of the Military Aviation School conducted a chalk on a blackboard vertical line. At the bottom he wrote zero. Maximum was marked ten. He pointed to four and said, "You think you can do so much." Then pointed to two: "Your mother thinks you are capable of so much." He again showed up at number seven: "We, the officers and know that you are ready for more" - and looked at us. "The reality is - finger stopped at ten. - You are capable of it, and think about what you can not. "

So Erik Bertrand Larssen remember the beginning of the first lecture on survival rates in 1992. He was nineteen, he had just become a candidate for the position of the Norwegian naval intelligence officer and was going to pass these courses with experienced commandos.

These classes are really tested for strength. he learned to kindle fire using two sticks and scraps rope. Was able to sleep a couple of hours a day for a whole week, swim kilometers in the icy water and even find beauty in the long night crossings. Since then, the phrase "You are capable of it, and think about what you can not" does not come out of his head. He often repeated it to themselves and others. After eight years of service in the army, he became a psychological coach and helps athletes to win gold at the Olympics because I knew what it is - to push the limits of their capabilities. And he could teach it.

His book "Without self-pity"Norway has bought every 20th inhabitant of the country, and now she goes out in Russian. It Larssen explains what "flexibility" to help achieve success.

Forget about talent

Eric is sure that one word should be permanently erased from the list of terms that lead to success. Here it is - "talent". "Talent - this is a word that should not be" - he says.

Anyone can grow geniusIf there is a lot of practice. You can make a genius of your child, as it turned out, Mike Agassi (Mike Agassi) - father of Andre Agassi (Andre Agassi). Mike was very thrilled by man. He constantly coached three older kids with a tennis gun, and when in 1970, was born the youngest, Andre, he has honed his techniques. The little Andre hung over the crib on the turntable are not cars or animals, and a tennis ball. Mike from childhood to "sharpen" the attention of the baby to the tennis balls. When Andre began to walk, his father tied a tennis racket to the hand of his son.

David Beckham (David Beckham) trained from childhood. Tiger Woods (Tiger Woods) led, or rather brought in a golf club before the year. And such examples of thousands, so that cross out the word "talent" from the list of what you need to succeed.

Typically 80% of the attention

What else you have to forget, because it is the balance. Someone told you that it exists? Sorry, but that someone lied to you.

There is such a joke analogy, supposedly our life consists of four burners: one - a friend, the second - the family, the third - and fourth health - is work. In order to succeed, one must turn off the burner. In order to achieve outstanding success, will have to turn off the two.

Of course, it is ironic, but in the initial stage, you still have to send to the goal of 80% of their attention. No, not 30, not 50, and 80, and no less than the percentage.

We'll have to come to terms with the idea that the balance does not exist. It is a myth. And the truth is that there is a balance of power that you are comfortable. So what are you ready to turn off the hotplate?

Learn the rules and disturb them

To invent something qualitatively new, you must first learn to follow the rules. Once you learn them, boldly break and enjoy the process.

In sports, a lot of examples of how people who are not afraid to break the rules, found themselves pioneers.

For instance, pusher core Patrick O'Brien (Patrick O'Brien) Olympic games won and 17 times world records. In the early 1950s he decided to take a chance and came up with his own technique shot put. Before him, no one has pushed the core of this: getting back to him, and then rotated 180 degrees, creating momentum. It is thanks to this technique, O'Brien set 17 world records.

American Bill Koch (Bill Koch) in the 80s first decided to ride on one leg, and this method was revolutionary. A ski jumper invented a new way of soaring into the air from Sweden Jan Boklov (Jan Boklöv).

The conclusion is simple: the rules are necessary only as long as they do not hamper the development. And then - and only to break to break.

a good goal

What is a good goal? In order to determine their "native" target, Eric offers to ask yourself this question: if you met Almighty God, and he said that in the next 10 years, you get everything, dreamed about what would you do further? In other words, if you knew exactly what you could do it, what would you do? Answer this question honestly.

And then check the wording, ask yourself, "So what I want to become? Tennis player from the list of the top 50 or tennis player who tops the list of the top 50? "As they say, feel the difference. If you just walk into the list, then in front of you can be 49 more people, and if you are the best, the one in front of you.

Good advice on this subject gave Donald Trump (Donald Trump): «You have to think anyway, so why not think big?".

Markers on the way

Larssen advises every month to make an inventory of the way. This means to keep abreast of and without self-pity to throw out everything that is no longer true for you. How to conduct an inventory? Very simple. You need to ask yourself questions and spend enough time to answer them honestly. Ask yourself:

• Is everything goes as it should?
• As far as I'm happy with their success in the last month?
• What is the key quality has helped me to achieve this?
• Whether on your way do I go?
• I give all the best to the maximum every day?
• What is my unique?

Do this regularly and be sure to learn about yourself a lot.

Be inflexibility

Inflexibility - a conscious choice. If you You make a decisionYou should clearly realize why did you choose this option. Behind it must be the intention, and it will lead you to your chosen destination. If you want to leave the office early, because on the street fine weather, it should be justified by the fact that You have a goal this week to spend more time with the kids, or you need a rest after a hard work.

Be inflexible - it means to live as you want and feel good, and it does require considerable courage.

The belief that life is simple - a common misconception. Life is hard. But it is not connected with the difficulty of how much adversity you are out, and with how much difficulty you can bear to continue to move forward. You are a man who is often chosen out of their comfort zone. And more often than it works. Sometimes it does not work. But you still go out. And you can not even imagine how much satisfaction you get.

You can do more than you think.

Based on the book "Without self-pity»