7 lists to help manage life
Productivity Motivation / / December 19, 2019
In 2012, I led the training. At a seminar on time management one of the participants complained:
My to-do list is not working. It allows you to clearly identify what needs to be done. However, this is not enough. I plan goals, break them down into sub-tasks, sets deadlines, prescribe concrete steps... and do not do them. I can not erase the problem in half an hour a month. You have so happens? I blame myself in procrastination, again make a list of cases and again it failed. How to break this vicious circle?
Another student commented, "Just you take and make a point of order." However, all those present, including me, had similar problems. I'm sure they are, and you. Then I added a lecture lists can-do and to-be. About them, and not only today will be discussed.
Problems list of to-do
With the implementation of the list of cases, there are always problems. The priorities are placed incorrectly, you will not have enough time to perform all the tasks, then changed external circumstances. Rainbow Nastya already wrote,
why not work lists to-do. So I'm not going to paint the reasons in detail, but just give a list of them:- Lack of motivation.
- The desire to perform a specific item to-do perfectly at the expense of others.
- The fear that we will fail.
- The fear that the problem will turn out. As a result, then it will be necessary to repeat it again and again.
- You're not a robot dostigator, and only a man.
Each of these problems lies deeper than «Just do it». "Just do it" - calls on Nike company slogan, as says David Allen in his the GTD, as advised participants. Personally, I have enough of this slogan on a couple of items from the list of to-do, and then I stumble again on common problems. I binds the fear of failure or problems of motivation.
A bit of psychology
The above-described problems do not lie in the field of productivity, and in the field of psychology. It is a dark whirlpool only for those who are not interested in her. Six years ago, in the courses of NLP I was told about the pyramid of logic levels. I invented her, Robert Dilts, and it looks like this:
For use in the pyramid suggest using NLP questions:
- Who and what surrounds me?
- What do I do in this environment?
- What use abilities?
- What I still believe?
- Who do I feel myself, who I am?
- In the name of what I have just such?
The answers to the last questions usually worry. Replacing them with those that are motivated, you can change the answers to the first. We climb the pyramid to understand why we live. Going down, we keep this knowledge, strive to change our environment to make our actions meaningful. This heavy psychological work.
Robert Dilts, NLP as other creators, was primarily a psychotherapist. I do not want to delve into your psyche every day with the help of a therapist or one of their methods. Moreover, I do not encourage you to do so. Our brain has to work like clockwork, and the inside of hours, we do not Lazimov to make them. Therefore need simple and effective methods of maintaining motivation, deal with fears and yet God knows what kind of problems that are happening in our souls. We need the same a simple tool, as a to-do-list. He must solve the problem when you can not put a check mark next to a simple task.
lists
It turns out that this tool has long existed. Name - list. In the race for productivity is easy to forget that It is possible not only to-do list. He is only responsible for our actions. You can and should be lists for each of the logic levels. Let's look at each of these lists.
1. The list of friends, relatives, acquaintances pleasant
These people make up our immediate surroundings or can they become. I look at this list of breaks. A three-minute call from an old friend perfectly restores power between places in the list of cases. If you are afraid talk away, send a message. Your loved ones will be glad that you think of them.
This list is useful to look at planning a holiday, so that you have company. Yes, yes, yes, it is necessary to plan a vacation, too. This I did not say, but Gleb Archangel.
2. Wish-list
List hotelok material world. Do not confuse it with the list of necessary purchases or long-term goals such as "buy a car" / "to build a house." The most rarely used all of my lists. I is simply a list of links. Application: give to friends before the holiday or to see the end of the month how to spend part of the earned. Sometimes it is necessary to indulge themselves in what is no need, and just want to.
3. CAN-do list
Can-do - a list of your ability. Making it in a particular situation, we reduce our anxiety. For example, on the first day, no one knows what to do. There are no jobs, there is only the fear of not cope with them. Having made a list of can-do, you will clearly know what is able to do. To meet with colleagues, set up a working computer - here are a couple of items from that list.
4. list of skills
The list of skills or skill-list - is a list of the skills that you want to be different. Ability to be maintained in the desired form. For example, if you want to be able to take pictures, then it is necessary not only to learn, not only to keep your camera in good condition, but also on a regular basis to do so.
You want to speak English - say. It makes no sense to write in to-do list "learn English" when you do not have the need for this skill.
5. list of values
In mentally healthy person it would not be a list in the form of abstract phrases: "Health", "career", "well-being", "family". These words have long zatorty everyday use. The list of values must be the vivid images that push you to move forward. For someone better suited slogans or quotes for someone - pictures. If you experience a problem with drawing up such a list, read my article three years ago. Part of my values have changed during this time. So it should be. Values are changing, just like you.
6. The list of to-be
The most powerful of all the lists. It helps in the self-identification question, answer the question "Who am I?". You write the list of to-be, who you want to be, what role do you win back every day. Clarify, we are talking about the social roles that are "to be rather than to seem."
If your list includes the item "son", then your parents hear your voice on the phone or at the door. Item "a good specialist" will remind to enter in to-do phrase "read a new book," and you really will read it.
You will find how to combine all the coveted role, or strike out those that you do not need. For example, my list has disappeared "pick up artist." It was imposed by the desire to understand women. Items "good family man" and "loving husband" pushed him.
To combine items to-be can use a time limit. Stay two o'clock writer motivates more than write an article for Layfhakera 120 minutes. Perhaps you will use a different situation. In the office - a strict and uncompromising boss, focus on results; Home - patient and loving family man. Many people combine different roles without realizing it. Try to do it consciously.
7. List of long-term goals, a list of your mission
The most difficult list. Many authors have written about the importance of long-term goals, one speaks of them in his own way. And each of them forgets to emphasize how important it is for any long-term goal of understanding, in the name of its reach. Without it, the goal is not just to become a reality.
Using all lists
In addition to the list of to-do, I told you about the seven new lists. To some it may seem like keeping lists of additional unnecessary work. Once we are conducting these lists and so, just do not realize it. Our brain remembers everything: the mini-column for the iPhone, and a review of good photography books and motivational quote, and the nickname that you have awarded colleagues. The question is whether the trust will maintain these lists or your subconscious will do it consciously.
Each of the lists is reflected in our behavior, in our to-do list. Here is an example of communication in my:
- Long-term goal: the book.
- To-be: a writer.
- Value: to share experiences, reflections.
- Ability: to write well.
- Can-do: to get feedback from readers; reading books / articles on good style.
- To-do: article on Layfhaker about the triangle of life; subtract an article about the to-do; to read W. Zisner "How to write well."
- Wish-list: bluetooth-keyboard for the iPad.
If your lists are interrelated, the issues that I mentioned earlier in this article, you will be much less.
Why it works
Pyramid Robert Dilts transfers motivated by the meaning of life and self-determination of the specific actions. The brain is extremely difficult to coordinate all levels within a few hours, as suggested psychotherapy or NLP. Therefore not possible to use the time between Dilts in everyday life. To engage in the restructuring of the mind every day is harmful - it causes extra stress. But what in fact needs constant work on oneself? To do this, it is more expedient to divide life into parts of different lists. Over time, you will achieve as a definition for each of them, and the coherence between them.
conclusion
To your list of to-do work, lead lists. Keep different lists. Keep them connected. This will allow you not to turn into a vegetable of the TV or computer. So you do not become a soulless robot expunged task in the task of to-do. So you'll be the person who achieves their goals, manage their lives and see it as meaningless.