Why live here and now - not very useful advice
Motivation / / December 19, 2019
One of the secrets of success of billionaire Peter Thiel is that he asks himself a rather unusual question. It sounds like this: "What only a few accept my beliefs?". It is this belief he considers correct.
Almost a century ago, a similar thought was expressed by Mark Twain:
If you notice that you are on the side of the majority, it is a sure sign that it's time to change.
When you hear something or read about something, well train yourself to expose all this doubt and consider the point of view, the opposite statement. In many cases, if not most, when everything will go right, it is wiser and safer to turn left.
The most common advice is the most harmful
Most of the "gurus" of motivation advise us to live here and now. They say that the only important at the moment, so we have to do only what brings us pleasure.
Although the content of this council is quite tempting and, of course, somewhat justified, in fact, following it often does not make the desired result. In fact, in most cases, it simply destroys our lives. Living here and now, people are often divorced,
go into debtThey lose control over their own health and over itself as a whole.Instead of living in the present moment, it is better to live for the future and "take care" of his past. Do this so that you want to remember it. Time really it flies very fast. For the moment it is impossible to grasp, it can hardly be felt. When you realize it, it is already past.
If you do not want to regret their actions, probably this article is for you. What happened a long time ago, it makes no sense to analyze. But the immediate past is directly related to your choice in the present.
How did the last two years of your life? And the last two months? And the last two days? Think about it.
Today - this is tomorrow's yesterday. Than what you do today can help you tomorrow? Do you give today's solutions for tomorrow's stimulus work? Or are you just putting off the necessary changes to some abstract future date?
Live for the future and take care of the past - to understand that your past you form now, and it determines the future that you'd like to see.
Turned his gaze to the past, you will understand how you live in the present
If you live here and now, you are acting impulsively. In this case, your behavior is a consequence not of your conscious choiceAnd only the current circumstances. As a result, you often do things which later regret.
Conversely, if you remember about the past and the future and understand that now create your memories, you approach your life more consciously.
It may sound strange, but our memories of some events more important of these events by themselves.
Nothing lasts forever. You do not even have time to notice how the day comes to an end. All you will - it's memories of him. Perhaps we agree on certain things for the sake of pleasant memories.
What would you like to remember about today? About the past year? Of all his life as a whole?
Life - it is a story that we write ourselves. This moment - this is only a trace of a pen on paper. We know for sure is that it's the pen can not be stopped: it will continue to write over and over again. In that case, why not take it into their own hands and not to write a story, which will fill the book of our lives?
Your memories determines how confident you feel in this
If your morning passed efficiently, It is likely that the whole day would be the best. Conversely, if you have repeatedly pressed the button and delayed wake-up call to add yourself an extra 15 minutes, and as a result did not have time to do anything scheduled in the morning, the rest of the day, too, will not outstanding.
Emotions that cause us memories of the past, largely determine how confident we feel in the moment. Thus, if you now do so, so proud of themselves in the future, you increase the probability of success in the future.
Taking care of the past allows you to build your perfect future
In his famous book "Seven Highly Effective People Skills"Stephen Covey advises to start something, clearly imagining the end result. For this, he invites the reader to imagine the celebration of his 80 th birthday. At this party all your family have to tell what you are wonderful, to express their feelings towards you and drink to what you have lived a life as it should.
Imagine that you've got a lot of compliments from family. What exactly would you like to hear about you and your life? What should they have to say about your character and your role in their lives? Which of your achievements, they would have to remember? How do you influence them?
According to Covey, keeping these questions, you need to make decisions in this head. And rightly so.
In fact, the concept of "living in the moment" does not consider the nature of time. Past, present and future are not clearly separated from each other by segments. One of them smoothly into another. The error in the present immediately becomes a mistake in the past. It also affects your future.
From this it can be optimistic conclusion. We can build exactly the future that we want. And, last but not least, we have the past, which would like to have. And we are proud of who we are.
Living for the future, we are better able to make the right decisions
Sometimes it's easy to find an excuse not to keep the promises made to yourself. It so happens that we can not take the anger under control and take it out on children. Sometimes cookies looks so appetizing that we can not say "no." And from time to time we'll just lie on the couch instead of having to go to the gym.
Sometimes we all allow ourselves to some weakness. But if we do it too often, then our past will not be what we would like it to be.
James Matthew Barrie, author of "Peter Pan"Every human life - is a diary in which are going to write a story and write very different.
If we always remember our past and future, it will be easier to collect will in a fist and make the right decisions. You will be able to work, while others will have fun, save money, not spend it, and do not give up, even when really want to give up some business.
You go untrodden path. And everything will be different. Everything will be the way you want to.