Simple pictures, which will help to develop the necessary habits

Natasha invented and Vitaly Babayev dostigatory already helped so many children and adults. Someone through this funny picture does his homework, and someone shakes the press or learning English.

The birth of the idea

Natasha Babayev - mother of two children. Like many in her family periodically arose everyday difficulties: the son does not brush her teeth or adults are arguing over who did not wash the dishes, and resent each other.

Then Natasha and her husband came up Vitalik dostigatory.

Dostigatory help with brushing, lessons, reading and in general with the exercise of children's willpower. I resolved the issue with the hook or utensils. Today Acne shakes on dostigatoram press.

In the fall of 2016 Natasha told in Facebook about this method and invited volunteers to participate in the experiment.

My daughter and I fit. For a month she had learned about making the bed in the morning without the 100 500 reminders. Then it became a habit, and dostigator not become necessary. Adult participants set different goals: drink every day and a half liter of water, make the bar, draw - and most of them successfully reached.

So I asked Natasha's permission to tell Layfhakere dostigatorah about, how it works and what pitfalls should be considered.

Natasha Babayev

Development director of the publishing house "Mann, Ivanov and Ferber". leads blog marketing and common sense.

The general principle

Dostigatory help to see every step of the way to the goal. Hang the picture in a prominent place and decide what counts as achievement (eg, morning exercises). Paint dostigatora one element after each completed job.

Think of the prize that I want to get you or your child. You can receive a reward every day or at the end of the week. Not painted the picture - the prize is delayed for a day. Children should make small concessions, depending on the situation.

You can collect power-ups to earn something more solid. But better to start small and eventually take over long distances.

Dostigator not immediately, but it helps to develop a child's patience to pass marshmallow test. This famous study that impatient children who eat little zefirku rather than wait and get more chocolate, become less successful in life.

types dostigatorov

Walker with planets

Simple dostigator for beginners (the picture was above). No time limits: you can paint everything in one day or take a break for a week, and then continue. I got to the last planet - your prize.

treasure

You can compete with a friend, a child or a spouse. Who is the first get to the bottom of the chest, and he will receive a prize.

Sprockets

Print the stars to develop as many as five habits. One ray - a habit. Asterisk - a day. Three or four habits should be simple: like brushing your teeth. More one or two - a little more complicated. It is the most difficult dostigator.

How not to hate dostigator

1. Do not force your child (or yourself) prize. Understand what is actually desirable. Sometimes you think that your child is dreaming of a big and cool toy, and he will willingly brush their teeth for a simple machine.
2. Abstract aim is not working. Do not start to paint dostigator before mechtalka selected.
3. Dostigator hang in a prominent place. Leaflet should hang where the job is executed. To not forget about it.
4. paint over immediately. Pencil must lie or hang next to the leaf.
5. Show by example. The best way to teach a child to dostigatoru - fill it yourself. Natasha and her husband used a competitive dostigator "GOLD" for washing dishes, and children can see it.
6. Do not use dostigatory for hobbies child. All the best in the world created for a reason. Dostigator for "nehochuhnyh" problems when just does not work.
7. Do not use dostigatory for creative tasks. Objectively assess the quality in creative tasks difficult. A child may do them anyhow. In other cases, set clear quality requirements, for example, brushing teeth for three minutes. Or doing homework on a human, not stretching a single word for the rest of the line to quickly finish.
8. Do not equate the planets and stars to money. The child decides that he could buy for achieving anything.
9. Make sure that the jobs are not repeated. Once Natasha noticed that her son Yaroslav paints a ray of a few stars in the day to work only with scissors and glue. Great if the child loves crafts, but there are other tasks. Try to explain it.
10. Caution is used to read dostigatory. Correctly when the child is reading for pleasure, not for a prize. Although in some situations dostigatory helpful. There was a stage when Jaroslav knew the letters and was able to put the syllables, but have not yet understood the meaning of what is read. A vicious circle: he did not like to read because they do not understand what is reading. And I did not understand because it is not a well-read volume for informed reading. In overcoming this gap dostigator just helped.
11. Do not overdo it. It may be wrong to stitch a child's life with something too systemic. Especially if he is just a baby. Natasha uses for his son no more than two dostigatorov simultaneously. For school - one.
12. Catch the moment when dostigator no longer needed. If you broke the barrier or developed the habit, A new train.

Begin to change your life

Some psychologists have criticized such techniques. They believe that the prize motivation displaces the interest of this target. For example, the child begins to do homework without much interest, for another toy. While the ability to solve math problems, writing and other subjects is the best reward. Developing brain and willpower.

Of course, it should be considered. But a lot of things we do not even begin to permanently set aside.

If a leaflet with a pencil will help to do exercises or to learn English when another did not work, it's cool!

Initially, you'll motivate yourself painting of stars and prizes. It is difficult to love what does not work. For example: I once taught others to roller skate. He could not understand why I like it, because he hurt his feet, he fell and felt clumsy idiot. It was therefore necessary moral compensation.

But when you start getting, and you like it, then the real purpose and will be the main prize.

An important postscript

Sometimes a person can not develop a habit, not because he's lazy and stupid. For example, a child with spelling problems. If he has dysgraphia, dostigator not help. Help neurologist and other childcare professionals.

Adults also sometimes useful to be examined. The organism may be exhausted more than his boss thinks. Hence, fatigue and decreased concentration.

In general, take care and develop good habits!