5 questions for those who are dissatisfied with their lives

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Sometimes we feel that we are stuck: the usual steps will not bring the family well-being, financial gain, maximize productivity, success and happiness. To improve their lives, and sometimes costs a little to exhale and step back, ask yourself a few questions and give them honest answers. This reflection will help to better understand themselves and their emotions.

1. What prevents you from acting?

Cases, questions and words that we most fear - this is often exactly what we need to do is to ask or say.

Tim Ferriss, author

Most often we do not restrain others, and your own inner voice. He says that we are not smart enough or strong, that our efforts are doomed to failure. If you feel that you are standing on the ground, and your dialogues with the inner "I" do not stop anything good, just ignore it.

Some people let fear take hold of him. One way to overcome them and make the inner voice to shut up - to recognize and verbalize what you are afraid of.

Imagine the worst case scenario, and you will feel as fears start to retreat.

Tim Ferriss

Tim Ferriss has developed an exercise called "pain management». He showed that after his fear moved from thoughts to paper, it was easier to win in real life.

What holds you back?

2. Whose permission do you expect?

You do not need someone's permission to go for their dreams. Just go.

Gary Vaynerchuk, entrepreneur and writer

American serial entrepreneur and author Gary Vaynerchuk believes that the only solution is that you have to get before you do something, - it is your own.

Do not wait until someone approves of your choice. If you want to leave - to dismiss, without waiting for the approval of colleagues. If you want to make contact with the child - start today, not thinking about what will tell your ex-wife. If you want to grow thin, Eat healthy food and do not worry about what will think surrounding.

Vaynerchuk recognizes that a child has been obsessed with the idea of ​​writing short stories, but was too afraid of what people will say about them other people. He waited for someone he chooses pat on the shoulder and asks for it. He was waiting for permission.

"If you want to do something, stop waiting for that someone you are asked to do so. Go forth and do great things. When you could do it, the fans will do, and now worry about them not worth it "- advises Gary.

3. What are you really passionate about?

The most powerful weapon on earth - it is burning the human soul.

Ferdinand Foch, French military leader

If you want to be free and develop, ask yourself: "What is fueling the fire in me?"

What makes you happy? What you really fascinated? Entrepreneur and one of the founders of Apple Steve Jobs I knew the answer to this question from an early age: He is fascinated by design. Designing simple products - that fueled the fire in him.

Think about what you're obsessed. In doing so, you are concentrated, motivated and productive.

4. Do you take on commitments?

Quality of life is directly proportional to its commitment to excellence, regardless of what he does.

Vince Lombardi, American football player and coach

Its commitments and promises data itself - this is the bridge between you and your ideal life. If you are unhappy with their marriage, check whether to perform its obligations as a husband and father (or the wife and mother). If you earn less than you would like, make sure that you are working on the conscience.

If you want to achieve, promise yourself to take steps towards it. Only they can help you go to the success of the plan, and only they will make you do what you want, regardless of the external circumstances.

If you want results, you have to take responsibility for their work.

If you're interested in something to do, then you do it when it suits you. And if you have pledged, that you do it under any circumstances. No excuses, only results.

Ken Blanchard, author

Therefore, if you want to improve your life, do not make yourself indulgences.

5. What changes do you expect?

We always have a choice: to take a step forward or go back where it is safe.

Abraham Maslow, a psychologist and the founder of humanistic psychology

You are trying to find a balance between work and personal life? Do you want to open your business? You need to restore your health? You study to cope with anger? Or maybe try to improve the relationship with your partner? Define your target and specify it as precisely as possible.

The power of goal setting and correct attitude says an exampleWhat Breaking the 4-Minute Mile Taught Us About the Limits of Conventional Thinking Roger Bannister - medical student from London who in 25 years has decided that in whatever was to run a mile (1.6 km) in less than 4 minutes. The yard was in 1954 - when it was believed that a person is not able to.

Bannister has developed its training regime. But even more important was the psychological preparation. He changed his way of thinking in terms of "this is impossible" to "I want to be the first to make it." May 6, 1954 Bannister ran the mile in 3 minutes and 59.4 seconds.

Roger Bannister plugged to your inner voice, and gave myself permission to be great, to realize that running Kindle in it fire, promised himself to become the first man to run a mile in 4 minutes, and clearly understood, what is it target.

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If you can not move toward the goal, ask yourself these five questions. When you answer them, you will realize that the stronger than you thought. Do not let fear get in the way and to society itself. As you have the strength to follow dreams and achieve their goals.

Do not let negative thinking to control your feelings. The self-criticism there is nothing wrong: it helps to recognize that something has gone wrong and correct course of action. But excessive self-blame may lead to the fact that you begin to identify with their shortcomings.

Learn to recognize defeat and disadvantages correctly. Instead of "I'm a loser," say, "I have not been lucky." Instead bitterly called himself a smoker, say, "Now I'm smoking." Instead of "I'm fat" say that you are overweight and you know how to get rid of it.

The essence of positive thinking is not to overlook its shortcomings and is not to revel regret the failures. When you are unhappy, focus not on emotion but on the fact that you can do to change it. Start to think positively, you can dialogue with himself.