Why we do not curb the data itself and promises to get rid of this habit

You may have found themselves in one of these situations:

• You want to stick to a particular diet, but after a day of eating something harmful and decided to drop everything.
• You promised yourself seriously to take up a project and not prokrastinirovat, but you have something distracted, as a result of the whole plan went awry.
• You gathered every morning to do yoga (meditation, reading, writing), but once you were late and missed the lesson. And the next day you no longer had the motivation.

Often it is impossible to single out one cause of this behavior, they may vary depending on the situation. Here are the ten most common causes.

1. We do not take promises seriously

We tell ourselves that we will adhere to the new plan, and we believe that one application is enough. We think everything goes like clockwork, even before we get to fulfill the promise, only if we have made for this significant effort. Most often, we take the promises serious. No wonder that in the end we did not hold back.

Consider whether it is really important to you. If so, make a plan and write it down. Highlight a particular time, which is devoted to this cause. Put reminders. Be prepared to provide everything you need. And then report back to the someone in his progress.

2. We just forget

You with complete seriousness promise yourself to meditate in the morning. But then because of the rush forget about his decision. And you remember only in the middle of the day when you do not have time. The next morning everything is repeated again, you give up on yourself and decide to no longer try.

But you must remember that the time has come? Where you will be and what you will do when you want to meditate or exercise? Leave the sticker in sight with a reminder that he rushed into your eyes. Put a reminder on your phone and computer. If the case for you is really important, it's worth the effort.

3. We avoid discomfort

For example, you started to play sports, but when complicated exercise, you become hard and uncomfortable. You are no longer enjoy the classes and found a reason to throw them. Or you do not know how to approach complex tasks at work, so put it off until later.

Suppress the urge to panic and throw everything at the first sign of discomfort. You will not die if eat broccoli or do some push-ups. Try to use the discomfort as an opportunity to learn something new and develop their skills and accept the discomfort.

4. We give in to the temptations of habit

Temptations surround us on all sides, you are going to go on a diet, and you are treated to chocolate cake, you want to go to bed early, and on TV interesting program. But in fact, the temptation - it's just kind of discomfort, and we give in to it out of habit.

Think of the temptation as a signal notifying that you have time to practice. You are on a diet, and guests are offered a sweet? Discard it and take the opportunity to spend one-on-one with the discomfort, not trying to get rid of it. Feel the pleasure and pride from the fact that did not succumb to the temptation.

5. We find logical reasons

When it becomes difficult, the brain searches for the reasons why there's nothing wrong with that, to do what we have promised myself not to do. These reasons sound quite rational: "From one time there will be nothing," "I worked hard, I deserve it," "It just does not count, I'll start tomorrow", "Today is a special case." As soon as we begin to believe such a study, to keep his promise impossible.

Set strict boundaries. For example, if you say, "I only eat from 11 am to 6 pm," you'll notice that tries to break his promise if will be going there at 9pm.

6. We are changing the terms of the contract

Are you ready to start, but all of a sudden discomfort or temptation to postpone the matter. You immediately set new conditions for yourself, "I'll do it, but after 5 minutes, but first check the mail," "I'm tired today, better rest, and everything to do tomorrow." It's just an excuse.

Habit change the terms of the contract with itself one of the most harmful when you are trying to develop self-discipline and self-confidence.

Make a plan in advance: the night before, at the beginning of the week or month. Do not make a decision just before the action, you may want to postpone it. Instead, promise yourself that you can change the terms of a week or month.

7. We do not like feeling

If you do not like vegetables, you will not eat them. If any business is causing your discomfort, you will postpone it. Only here the unpleasant sensations can not escape. They will inevitably arise when you are doing a complex project or trying to make new habit. Nothing ever happens, if the throw the case at the first sign of discomfort.

Try to change your attitude. Think of what you can be thankful today? What good can be found for themselves in this experiment, instead of focusing on negative emotions?

8. We forget why it is important

Perhaps you took up the matter seriously, but after a week or two have forgotten why it seemed so important to you. you only think about now is how difficult and unpleasant. Of course, in that case you will not have the motivation to continue.

Every day remind yourself of the reasons. Why is this important to you? Why this thing is worth it to devote himself to it? Whether your reason outweighs the discomfort that you are experiencing?

9. We are disappointed in yourself

When we admit mistake or does not correspond to your expectations, we are starting to give up on yourself and throw thing halfway.

The errors have nothing to worry about. Drawing lessons from what has happened and start over again.

And when the notice that your mistake causing you pain and suffering, remember samosostradanii. Instead of berating yourself, take slip about how to thank yourself for your efforts and learn something new.

10. On our way too many obstacles

For example, you want to eat, and even made for themselves a plan. But now comes the morning, you are in a hurry and want to eat. To prepare the salad, you need to cut vegetables, washing dishes, but to make a sandwich much faster. And these obstacles arise on the way to any goal. Overcome them, when we are tired or in a hurry, especially hard. If you need to go to the gym 20 minutes, before meditating, first clean the room, you'll probably give up.

Determine what you can prevent and remove these obstacles from its path. Prepare everything you need in advance. Cook healthy food on a Sunday, on weekdays only to reheat it. Remove the mat for yoga and sports clothes to change after work and immediately begin to engage.