5 tips for those who feel emaciated
Motivation / / December 19, 2019
Founder of Tiny Buddha site and co-founder of the podcast Next Creator Up.
I'm very tired. After six weeks, I will have a child, and my pregnancy goes with complications. At the same time, I continue to work and to participate in new projects.
It is hard: each small victory this difficult period is in a moment when I felt destroyed. Recently, I realized that helps me to overcome fatigue. If you too hard, my advice may come in handy.
1. Do not compare your fatigue with someone else
Over a year ago my friend was diagnosed with breast cancer. She quit her job, despite the risk to remain without money. Not suitable severed her relationship, despite the engagement. And the cancer, she met with her usual courage. A feat it is not that she was not afraid, and that overcame a difficult period, despite all the fears.
My conditions are much nicer, and sometimes it seems that I really have no reason to worry so. My experience - nothing compared to those that had to go through my girlfriend. I think I should just accept their
But I was too hard. I'm still going through a difficult pregnancy, try to catch all, faced with the unpleasant physical symptoms, and lots of fears. There is always someone who had difficult, but why blame yourself for it?
People fall in different situations and at the same time can be equally in need of help and understanding.
2. Stop focusing on the fact that it does not matter
In difficult times, we need to better understand what really matters and what does not. If we spend all the energy on unimportant things, we do not have the strength that really changed our lives.
Seven years ago, I had surgery to remove uterine fibroids. I knew for a speedy recovery is impossible for me to strain, but the mess in the room was left. I'm a fan order.
It was held the day after surgery. Seam after the cut in the abdomen just started to tighten. And then I see carelessly thrown a pair of shoes by the door. And I knew that there they do not have to lie. It was painful, but I tried to put the shoes in the closet. My mother said that I was crazy, and she was right.
Now I remember the case of shoes every time I feel exhausted and want to do something. I ask myself: this can wait until the morning? Maybe I should not have to do that? What if someone help me? And, most importantly, it will really make my life better?
The case is expunged from the diary is not easy, especially if you're like me, used to take everything on yourself. But sometimes we just need of something to give to save power and to protect themselves from a nervous breakdown.
3. Do not think that the loss of strength you are capable of what we could do before
Maybe before you were more active and productive (I certainly was). Or were you the person who could ask for help at any time of the day. Or excellent conversationalistWho could listen to each other, even if it would take all night.
We experience not only because of the fact that they no longer will be the same, but also due to the fact that these changes are not like others. But we are bound to face new challenges and needs that will not go away if you just ignore them.
I do not romanticize change. Inability to deal with the fact that like earlier - sucks.
I do not go more on yoga, because I do not have time and energy. And I do not do a lot of things more, which previously consisted of my every day. But I was lucky someday I can do it again, even if not soon.
Worry about what you can not do normally. But in the end we still have to accept the reality and ask ourselves how to work with what we have. Otherwise, we strongly feel, and experience this will not change anything.
4. Do not ask yourself what you can do
Many of us make this mistake. We think we can do more: the others are doing! If you feel bad, do not convince yourself that everything is in order. So you do not become more productive. And to reproach myself for emergency respite is also meaningless.
If you are tired, you need a vacation. And if it hurts - compassion. And nothing will change for the better, as long as you do not get it, what need.
We can not drop everything and do what you want, especially if you have taken the responsibility to others. But we can definitely find some time to please yourself.
I recently started to introduce such minute rest in your schedule. If I can not afford to hour daytime sleep, I sleep 15 minutes. If I do not have time to walk 10 000 steps, then at least I take a walk around the block. If I do not have hours in which to write in a diary of all her experiences, I find time to mention there are three important issues and are three ways to solve them.
5. Stop thinking that you are behind
We constantly compare ourselves with others, and think we have to go with them in the leg, otherwise we will spend his life in vain. It is not true.
You do not need to be perfect to be happy. We do not need to be afraid of someone falling behind, because every one of us goes on its way. And now would not happen in our lives, it is a valuable experience.
Many would agree that success is inextricably linked with the overcoming of problems. I would never have thought that my ten-year struggle with depression and bulimia It will cause a change for the better. I could not imagine how my pain will determine the further trajectory of my life and how this dark stage will lead me to new - light filled and exciting.
Take it where you are and who they are now, even if all this does not suit you. The only way you can achieve higher goals in the future.
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