How to cope with the fear of making a mistake
Motivation / / December 19, 2019
How many times the fear of making a mistake keep you from actions that could radically change your life? And in a positive way. How many times have you had to feel sorry for that, having been afraid, you miss the opportunity, which has been waiting for? Probably all can give you a couple of examples of such cases.
I wonder, could we have a child learning to walk, if constantly afraid of falling? Is it possible to learn to swim without removing a lifejacket? Skate, holding my father's hand? Unlikely. To achieve something, you need to deal with the paralyzing power of fear.
Where did this fear come from
Error fear is deeply rooted in our minds. It is a reaction to what we perceive as a potential threat. Keyword - perceive. These mechanisms were formed in our minds millennia ago to help protect us from these real threats, such as predators.
Now that we have saved from the lions, it is included in the job when we have to make a decision associated with a certain risk, or simply get out of comfort zone. As a result, now these mechanisms only limit us and prevent us from developing.
The problem is that our internal defense system badly distinguishes real and imagined risks.
comfort zone - it is not just hackneyed psychological concept. To go beyond its borders, it is necessary to overcome the serious neurophysiological mechanisms. Stay within this zone, and you will feel safe. And if you dare to climb out, the internal protection system will include alarms as fear. Has saved you from the unknown and unfamiliar, your mind does what he has learned as a result of evolution.
Previously, this system protects us and our environment from death, that is the real physical threat. Now the threat is largely emotional. We are trying to preserve their emotional security. And defense mechanisms continue to have a paralyzing effect on us.
How to deal with fear to make a mistake
1. Change the angle of view
What is the error or failure? Real failure can be regarded as the only one from which you have not learned any lessons. Facebook has failed several times publicly with their initiatives (for example, an advertising system Beacon and application to share photos, messages and "winks» Poke). The company has succeeded only because it was not afraid of mistakes.
Motto Facebook - Fail fast, fail forward. It can be expressed as follows: I do not hesitate for a long time, kosyachit and move forward. This company understands that the biggest mistake would be not to try to go beyond the usual and become better.
If Facebook did not take all the risks, the company would gradually ceased to exist. If she had used only those methods that have worked for five years ago, it would have turned into Yahoo, Twitter or Myspace, and it would not be one of the largest and most successful companies in the world with a market capitalization of 362 billion dollars.
In the area of sales distributed aphorism: "Each new" no "one step brings you closer to" yes "." The more "no" you hear in one day, so much the better. This will mean that you have addressed to all to whom could appeal, and soon you will hear "yes." Train, get used to hearing different answers, and fear will pass. You move forward, it is inevitable.
2. Find the cause of your fear
What exactly are you afraid of? The reasons why we are afraid of a situation of risk, change and do something new, it is not the same. You're afraid to make a mistake because imagine the worst outcome, or because they are desperate to do everything perfectly? Or because you are terribly afraid that you will be denied?
If you plan to start your business, you can imagine that if it fails will lose everything. And what then? You run out of friends and family? You will not have a family any more? You are lost initiative and sunk due to which you are going to start a business? If you had the courage to start personal business, Then you are the type of people who dream of many employers to hire. You obviously will not be left without work.
When you decide to move forward at the same time you make the decision to continue to fight no matter what. And when you do, amazing things happen. The worst scenario that you can imagine, even smell will not.
3. Contrast the fear confidence
Confidence is a result of the decision, taking responsibility, and public recognition of this responsibility. Luck, as we know, the reward for courage. And for confidence.
World supports those who believe in yourself. Nobody wants to put a spoke in the wheel you are not waiting for when you stumble. Conversely, if you make decisions confidently and definitely surrounding necessarily respond and support you. Everything will contribute to your success. Events of interest occur, the necessary circumstances will, need the ability to appear.
4. proceed
Another reason for the fear of making a mistake is that the problem that we have to accomplish, seems too complicated and we get hung up on her back-breaking solutions. Look at Everest photos taken from the base camp. They are so amazing that rise to the top seems to be absolutely impossible. In addition, it bombarded the storms, there stands the cold -50 degrees, so it seems that a person in this place to do absolutely nothing.
However, hundreds of people each year go back to the top of Mount Everest. And most often it is not professional climbers, they are extremely physical preparation. It's just people who have a goal and dream. They all begin the same way: with the first step towards the top. small steps summarized, and soon you type such speed and power that you will not stop.
5. ignore the fear
Braves engaged in surfing in large waves, saddling a wave height is five-storey building. This aggressive monster with tremendous force that inspires horror. Do not be afraid of such waves is simply impossible. To counter the fear that can paralyze and cause the deaths of many of the most skilled surfers do not look at the place where the wave falls down.
All of us are afraid of many things. Some of these fears can and should take a look in the eye, and then tame them. But there are fears that can lead you to the grave, and with them it is better once again not to touch.
6. Challenge yourself
Engage in something that is not directly related with those areas in which you would like to develop. Have you ever wondered why different marathons and racing heroes have become so popular? People want to challenge yourself and learn what they can do. Thus develops willpower and drive acquired necessary to move forward.
When you manage to achieve some serious goals in one area, you know that you can apply the the same skills, the same perseverance and determination in order to achieve the desired in other areas. When you understand that by applying enough effortBy training your body and mind, you can run a marathon, you realize that many other equally complex tasks, you are also able to do.
Do not be afraid to make mistakes. Be careful not to be one year in the same place, which are standing.
7. Remember that everyone is afraid of
There is a common misconception that successful people have some extraordinary qualities and is not exposed to fear. In fact, they just got their way with the help of hard work, constant practice and take the necessary decisions. Their fearlessness - is a myth. And for many, this myth becomes a barrier to achieve the objectives.
In fact, courage is not the absence of fear. Brave people challenge themselves and go exactly where they will meet with their fears. Fear is quite normal, it is inherent in human nature. In fact, this is one of our defining characteristics. Fear - of us.
When the hero of "Game of Thrones" Robb Stark asks his father how to be brave when you're scared, Ned tells him that the only way you can be bold.
Brave people - it is not those who are not afraid of anything. They are the ones who are able to cope with your fear.