The secret ingredient of great psychological resistance

Most of us think that you can temper the character, but after going through difficult life situations. However, according to psychologists, to develop this psychological endurance necessary opposite approach.

Some people have an enviable endurance and balance. Usually we imagine that kind of "hard nuts" hardened himself so that any difficulties that throws their lives, they bounce off the rebound.

If we consider the psychological endurance from this point of view, it is easy to imagine how you can develop the quality of it. Set a goal difficult to reach, leave the comfort zoneConstantly fight with them, then any difficulty will be uneasy.

But is it really? Many psychologists believe that the development of this psychological endurance necessary opposite approach. Do not try to hide themselves for a three-layer armor. All you really need - this is love and inspiration.

Survive the failure of dedication and enthusiasm will help

American sociologist, writer and journalist David Brooks (David Brooks) opened this topic in his column in "The New York Times." He wrote about the college students. Many believe that for the younger generation to learn to cope with life's difficulties, its members need to fill a couple of cones themselves and not hide behind forever took care of their parents.

Brooks, in turn, acknowledges that overprotection did not lead to anything good. However, in his opinion, young people have a negative impact not only the absence of complications, as the lack of purpose in life. That is the purpose of helping people to go through fire and water.

People who delight us with their resistance, is not really hard. They fervently and sincerely committed to their cause, purpose or loved one. Inspired by the dedication and help these people survive the failure to deal with the pain and betrayal.

David Brooks

Resistance has nothing to do with the fear of failure

Expert in the field of positive psychology Christine Carter (Christine Carter) expresses a similar view, leading at the same time more practical examples. According to her, we commit a blunder, simply trying to cultivate one's resistance. This approach too perfectionist, it is not associated with internal motivation.

Abstract desire to never give up and always be perfect has nothing to do with this resistance. What we really need to cultivate because it is the fervor and enthusiasm that enable us to survive even the most difficult times.

Christine Carter

According to Christine Carter, if you're a teacher and you have your children, and you want to instill in them a psychological resistance, the first thing you need to forget about what you want from them. Instead, focus on what inspires them to themselves, and keep them in this inspiration.

In other words, if you want to achieve the desired psychological endurance, first of all you need to find your true passion, purpose, mission, or true love.