10 mantras that will make your life better

Once known lecturer in psychology and author of the best-selling M J.. Ryan heard about the unusual way of self-development, which is used Tibetan monks. The idea is to repeat himself short aphorisms, help counter the negative thoughts and undesirable behaviors.

The idea really liked the writer. As a result, she came up with their own mantras and to describe them in book "Changing Habits".

How it works

Do you know why it is so difficult to get rid of bad habits? The fact is that usually we act on autopilot. Your consciousness is not involved in the process, when you get angry and take it out on others, once again putting off an important task or give in to the pessimistic mood.

The only way to change such behaviors - learn to recognize their own feelings, thoughts and actions. You feel that is about to make a wrong move? Stop, think and make yourself to go the other way. Repeat this pattern over and over again. Over time, it will form new neural connections in the brain that are responsible for healthy habits. The same mechanism of the autopilot starts to work for you.

One-line slogans offered by Ryan, will help to achieve these changes. An important condition: do not try to use multiple phrases. Find a suitable mantra you in critical moments mentally pronounce it. Perform each exercise for as long as the mantra is not "vestsya" in your mind. Then get down to the next one.

Which phrase will help

1. This man - my teacher

The repetition of this mantra - a very simple way to get better and build relationships with others. Treat each person as a teacher. If you're being angry, then it gives you a chance to develop several important qualities: kindness, patience and self-control. You are able to benefit from any experience. So why waste your nerves?

Focus not on others, but on our own reactions.

2. Anger - is simmering fear

Remember these words, when you feel that are ready to burst into an angry tirade against acquaintances, friends, colleagues or relatives. You will be able to better control his emotions, if realized, for your irritation, usually hidden fears. We are afraid to miss the chance to disappoint others, to lose sight of the goal, to achieve the desired, to waste time... Continue This list themselves.

Not understanding the true causes of his anger, the person loses self-control, and ultimately only exacerbates the situation. Understand yourself and quietly share feelings with other people. Such an approach is much more effective rage outbursts.

3. Walk through life own way

Us from an early age told that we have to do. There is nothing wrong with that, because the child will need to follow the rules for the sake of security. However, there is a side effect: as adults, many of us are afraid to follow your desires and continue to be guided by a variety of "must". We are afraid to stand out from the crowd and disappoint others.

Similar installations paralyze, preventing accept challenges and achieve success. That is why it is important to occasionally remind yourself: "I have to go their own way."

4. Only I am responsible for your reactions

You often blame other people that are experiencing negative emotions? Then you will come in handy this sentence. No one is responsible for your anger, irritation, sadness. Yes, people sometimes do things that may annoy you. But once you decide how to react to certain circumstances. Feeling inflated, say a simple mantra, calm down, and then proceed. Otherwise you run the risk of losing self-control and do something destructive.

5. Talk and listen equally

Very useful mantra should remember more often at home and at work. If during intercourse, you usually say the long monologues, to interrupt the talker and does not give anyone a word in, be sure to take this phrase note.

In fact there are two reasons. Firstly, your excessive talkativeness certainly annoying others. Second, giving up active listening, you deprive yourself of the chance to learn something important and lose the ability to understand other people.

6. Believe in the goodwill of others

You will be easier to live and communicate, if you learn to see in the other a priori goodwill. When we are not satisfied with the behavior of a person, we tend to think that he purposely trying to harm us. Similar conclusions are rarely correct.

As a rule, people are too self-centered, and why they had not come to build against someone evil plans. Angry, you make the wrong conclusions about the intentions, thoughts, nature of others. It can ruin any relationship.

7. Thoughts wider than the "either - or"

"I can either stay on the unloved and decent living, or do what I like, but could barely make ends meet. " Something like that you probably uttered yourself or heard from acquaintances. The phrase itself creates a sense that the situation is hopeless. In fact, people often limit themselves to two options, but in fact there are many more.

Learn to think big. You can always come up with at least seven ways of solving the problem.

8. Think positive

Pessimism - it's just a habit. The more you notice the bad and betrays a sad thoughts, the more negative emotions are experiencing. Do you want to be happier? Learn to tune the brain on a positive wave. Capture all the good that is happening to you. Think about how to change your life when you will achieve your goals. Remember pleasant moments. Believe me, once you turn into a veritable optimist.

9. When all the priority - not a priority means nothing

In today's world, the ability to detect priorities It is incredibly important. You never have time to answer all calls and letters, to respond to all requests, to cope with all the orders. And if you try, you will lead yourself to fatigue and stress, with none of the problems do not perform as good as they could be. The conclusion is simple: to make only the most important things, not sprayed on trifles. Surely in your diary is what can be deleted or postponed for later.

10. We only need to take the first step

People are tightened with the intended works for different reasons. Sometimes we stop the fear of failure. And sometimes procrastination is related to the desire to have a clear plan "completely": we fall into a stupor, because we can not calculate the entire sequence of actions, especially if we undertake an unfamiliar task. The decision in any case, one thing you need to do the first step, he leads you to the second and forth. Say this mantra and focus on the most is where you should start.

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Such mantras - converters habits. Use them in everyday life and see how it will change for the better.

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