"Do not aspire to something for show" 4 for advice on how to set goals
Motivation / / December 19, 2019
Do not do something for show
Over the last decade the number of people to run a marathon, increasedMarathon Statistics 2019 Worldwide by almost 50%. Only in 2018 around one million three hundred thousand people crossed the finish line in the world. Some of them just love to run, but many participate for other reasons. They want to become more confident, check yourself for strength, to achieve this ambitious goal. Marathon for them - a symbol of victory over himself, and proof that anything is possible.
But these great achievements have a downside. In the case of a run is postmarafonsky syndrome - a sense of longing, self-worthlessness and frustration that covers after the race. Harvard psychologist Tal Ben-Shahar (Tal Ben-Shahar) called it "a trap to achieve." In it you can get to reach any major goals.
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In addition, when we move to the goal, we in the brain reward system is activated. There is a feeling that we have achieved something. For example, a person only trains, but the brain is believed that the owner has run a marathon. And so the real finish causes less emotional than expected.
Nevertheless, popular culture continues to encourage all to set ambitious goals. We begin to think that is a great achievement to make us happy. However, this does not happen, if to seek some goal just for show. Instead, you can earn burnout and anxiety disorders. Strive to ensure that you meant something, not to what others feel cool.
Clearly define what is important to you
Company founder MetaLab Andrew Wilkinson (Andrew Wilkinson) uses for this antitseli. They help him to understand what to avoid in the work. Together with a partner they planned the failed company working day and they realized that they could not endure long meetings, frequent travel and densely scored schedule. Therefore, they spend a video call or the way customers pay to itself less frequently on the road, as well as assign no more than two hours a day in case rigidly scheduled.
Of course, not everyone has the necessary freedom and financial opportunities. In any case antitseli will help to understand the priorities and move to what will make you happier.
It is interesting that some people have never put goals. Among them, Jason Fried (Jason Fried), founder of Basecamp, which produces software. "The goal - it is something that disappears after her reach," - writes He in his blog. He sees the work and life as something continuous, it is not necessary to divide the intermediate steps (ie the target).
Build a system of actions
So, you have identified your priorities. Now focus on the system of the actions needed to achieve them. Because the goal only sets the direction, but the system helps to move forward.
For example, you want to write a book. Your system actions - this is when and how often you write, how you will organize your ideas, who will edit the drafts.
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"When you fall in love in the work process, not the final result, no longer have to wait to be happy - says entrepreneur and author James Clear (James Clear) in his book. - Are you happy always, when your system is working. "
Focus on small steps
To feel happy and held, it is important to see your own progress. Big goals are of little help in this: they are either too far in the future or bring with them postmarafonsky syndrome. Focus on small steps.
"Every year I spend a week in his hometown in Turkey by helping relatives to collect olives, - says entrepreneur Aytekin Tank (Aytekin Tank). - Harvesting vividly recalls how small steps add up together into something big. Each olive - this is just one drop, but after a week we recruit enough fruits per liter and liters of olive oil. "
Small but regular actions produce significant results in any area of ββlife. And bring more fun than volumetric distant goal.
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