7 exercises that will help improve self-esteem

"I am no one will ever love," "I'm too stupid to understand this subject," "I'm not strong enough to achieve this goal." If you periodically pronounce himself these or similar phrases, then you are likely low self-esteem. And it certainly prevents you achieve success and live a full life.

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Self-esteem, you can use seven simple exercises.

1. Refusal of negative thinking

We often are conducting a negative internal dialogue, do not notice it, "I do not get," "I'm too lazy to achieve something," "I'm too ugly to someone like it." All these thoughts strongly influence our attitude.

The exercise is to write down all the negative conclusions about themselves that you are having. At the end of the day to read them and turn each into a positive thesis.

Instead of "I do not get" - "I know how much, and I can learn this." Instead of "I'm too lazy" - "I have achieved what I have, and this is already done." Instead of "I'm ugly" - "I have a lot of people like me."

Repeat these phrases every day for a week. Soon they will begin to occur in your head by themselves.

2. Parenting a good attitude to itself

Re-read the negative thoughts, recorded during execution of the last exercise. Imagine that all of these things says about itself close person - the best friend or family member.

Think, what would you say and write these words. Tell me what you see in this good man, what his qualities make you respect. Tell me that you love this man.

Show love toward others is often much easier than to himself. When you "assign" his thoughts close to people, you will become easier to see the big picture and realize that say such things yourself ugly, rude and generally wrong.

3. Getting rid of the guilt and fear

Within a few days, write down all the fears and sources feelings of guiltThat do not give you peace of mind. Then select those that are repeated most often. Maybe you feel guilty because they miss trips to the gym, or due to the fact that the one who forgets to call relatives. Or are you afraid that you will not be able to achieve some goal.

Select one item from the selected and write for yourself permission. For example: "I have the right to miss a workout," "I have a right to be forgetful" or "I have the right to fail."

Put this solution, where you will see it often: the monitor, the refrigerator or next to the bed. The next time when you will have to hold down the fear or guilt, take a look at the note - you will feel better.

4. Adoption of its features

Almost every person has traits that he does not like. You know perfectly well that you in itself is not satisfied, Whether short stature, overweight or bald.

Make a list of these qualities, and write thanks to each of them. For example: "Thank you, my bald head, because it helps to spend less shampoo", "Thank you for my growth the fact that I can sit comfortably in any car, "or" Thanks to my stomach for what endured my child. "

Some of your features you may not like it, but they make you the way you are. Attitude to them can be changed. A love themselves much more useful and enjoyable than an ever be discontented.

5. The study of its history

Comparing yourself to others inherent in our nature. Social networks have simplified this task: people post there that is best in their lives, and can often seem that your reality is much duller.

To get rid of this feeling, it is useful to make their own history. This can be done on paper or in digital form. Since its birth remember and write down important points in your life. Such that the road to you personally, and not those that would have impressed others.

Perhaps, the first slow dance became a real event for you, or do you remember an acquaintance with the work of your favorite writer. Add to and difficult decisions - is also important milestones. For example, withdrawal from the hated work or move.

Refer to this timeline each time you begin to feel that in your life there is nothing interesting. You will see that have been through a lot, and it will increase self-esteem.

6. The study maps of their skills

This exercise will allow to better understand ourselves and understand what advantages you already have and what you need to develop to achieve the goals.

Make a list of their fundamental attitudes, beliefs and traits. Then - a list of the skills and strengths that have appeared in my life. Separately, list your goals and dreams.

Then start to form a tree of these items. You can just draw it on paper, to make applique or use a computer. The first list of points (fundamental beliefs and installations) will be roots and trunk. Second (quality and skills) - branches. A goal and dream - leaves.

7. Creating the intention for the day

Once you understand what habits and setting you want to buy or change, it is useful to create intentions for the day. It's enough in the morning to choose an aspiration that will bring you closer to the desired result. For example: "Love yourself, even if I am lazy", "Be patient with yourself and others," "Do not fear change" and so on.

When you have chosen a plan, write it down somewhere and re-read during the day. Over time, you bring up a desired quality.