3 exercises to overcome the obstacles on the way to a dream
Books Inspiration / / December 19, 2019
Upgrade your life, and not yourself - that's the main piece of advice for those who want to become happier. Writer Barbara Sher has developed a step by step plan that helps people to find their own vocation and to live as they like. Here is some useful advice from her book "It's time."
Barbara Sher
Life-Coach, author of several best-sellers on how to find the talent and live happily ever after.
Deep down, every person about something dream: to write a book, learn to ride, travel around the world or start their own business. Even if your dreams have not yet acquired the form and have only a vague outline, they are still there. From these desires can not be avoided.
There is only one true happiness - to live as you like.
Barbara Sher, "It's time"
The book "It is high time"- just how to get their secret desires to the surface, to remove the obstacles in its path and achieve your dreams. To do this, Cher has developed special exercises to help restore order in his life. Some of these tasks, you can now experience for yourself and see whether you fit this technique.
Exercise №1. Get rid of trash
Before you put things in order in my thoughts, clean up around you. Trash that fills the living space, distract you from more important things.
In the trash there are several varieties, each of which must be fought in a special way. To perform this task, take a notebook and pencil. Sort out all the accumulated junk category and proceed to clean up the house.
kind of stuff | How to get rid |
It trashes "It was a good idea." Old films, drawings, tutorials and all those things that you have not touched for years, but hope to someday use | Assign yourself a deadline. Write down all the "good ideas" and in front of each item set date. If the appointed time, you will not use the thing, take it in the trash |
Trash 'too expensive to throw away. " Once these things are pricey: the old tape recorder, designer hat drives. It's a pity to throw, because they paid for them | Do good. Give stuff to whom they really need. Give read books in the library, movie discs - to the hospital for rest rooms. Let your things bring joy to people |
Trash invisible. All sorts of little things that you cease to notice: the old batteries, broken glasses, worn-out shoes. Those are things that just never needed | Dispose of ten items. Spend most general cleaning always lazy. Work out pinpoint strikes: once a week, once a month or when you remember, get the 10 items that can be thrown out. And bring them in the trash |
Things that we hold for someone. Trash, which belongs to your relatives and friends: letters, posters, clothing, silly souvenirs. Want to throw, but uncomfortable | Return the things the owners. Ring up close and ask what to do with their things: the return or throw away. If they do they need, call the date until which you are going to keep them. then throw |
Favorite things, which can not be disposed of. Dear little things like memory: special books, magazines, photographs, pebbles from the beach. Features, by which heat the soul | Do not dispose. They remind you of the lived years. Do not throw away good memories and store them |
Exercise №2. Look for useful information
You know what the dream would like to implement, but have no idea how to do it. So, we need to carry out research, to fill the lack of information and to consider concrete steps. Here are a few ideas where to find useful information.
1. Dream and obstacle
Cher divided so simple and effective way to get valuable ideas that you'll wonder how you used to own this never occurred.
You have to do: to tell everyone who podvernotsya arm about his dream and difficultiesWith which you are faced. Talk to friends, family, random passengers. That's all.
It is in this form: first, the desire, then the barrier. For example: "I would like the Himalayas, but I'm afraid to go until you talk with someone who has been there." If you talk only about the goals, it is likely that you will begin to discourage. But if we talk about the obstacles in the listeners wakes up instinctive desire to help.
2. Conferences, symposia, exhibitions and shows
If you see an advertisement for a free conference on the topic that is close to you, do not hesitate and go there. Do not be afraid to be at ease. There you will meet like-minded and interesting people who can ask questions.
If my eye catches the announcement of something, at least indirectly related to the scope of my interests, I will definitely go back.
Barbara Sher, "It's time"
not be able to communicate at exhibitions, but you can make useful notes to yourself. Master classes - to try to do something with his hands. At events for professionals - meet the real experts in their field.
3. Treasures bookstore
Another place where you can pick up useful information - Department of educational and reference books in any bookstore. But buying it is not necessary for this book.
To start scroll publications on the topic you are interested. See what publishers produce books on your topic. Celebrate what ideas and chapter titles are repeated from different authors. General points - this is usually the most important information.
Exercise №3. Overcome resistance
Every time, when they decide to change, you take up a new business with enthusiasm. And then something happens, hands down. Before overcome the reluctance to continue, we need to understand what you're dealing.
To live life to the full, you need to do what he likes. But the object of love can not be selected, it is possible to find.
Barbara Sher, "It's time"
What forms can take resistance
- "I'm too busy." It's a feeling that favorite cause no time. Very popular excuse. But just think how much you would have had to do if I had not been sitting around on the Internet.
- "I'm just lazy." Leni does not exist: you can do anything, it would wish. Once your laziness is selective, it is not laziness, but something else.
- "Maybe I do not want to." Sometimes the mere fact that you want to achieve, prevents you set to work. After all, it is a serious stress - and suddenly will not work. Your brain is trying to protect you from severe emotional distress.
- "The interest was gone." Boredom - is also a manifestation of your care. If before the interest was, but it was gone, it is necessary to figure out how to turn it on again.
- 'Cause time, fun time. " If you think that first you need to do things to do, and then do a hobby, something to your favorite activity may not remain temporary. Increased responsibility we justify their unwillingness to take risks.
As the internal resistance of the bypass
If the item from the list above, you know yourself, you are faced with internal resistance. But do not worry ahead of time, because it can be bypassed.
Workaround №1. The absolute minimum of work
If set to work, perform it on the conscience: work often, but slowly. No need to shoulder the burdens. So you stop their attempts in the first week. Work on tasks in small portions. Then, the internal resistance will not disturb you.
Workaround №2. you can not win - join
If the internal resistance does not allow you to work even 15 minutes, do not have to force yourself. Straightened up to his full height and say, "I do not want and I will not!" This is an important point - to establish a genuine protest. Be the master of the situation, not the downtrodden victim. After a week of protests internal resistance will not dare to disturb you.
Workaround №3. Create external memo
Constantly remind yourself of the goal. Hang stickers. Put in a wallet card with their plan. Write notes in notebook and reread them, when there will be free time. A reminder of the goal should always be to you as a smartphone or keys.
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