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Layfhaker publishes an excerpt from the book by Christine Hassler "Manifesto twenties. Who we are, what we want and how to achieve it. " Read, if you between 20 and 30 and you are sure that everything is wrong and it's not in this life.
Christine Hassler
Author, coach. It is engaged in psychological counseling on issues related to relationships, career, self-realization.
Only 20% of people over the age of twenty and thirty years younger than achieved what expected at this age. The remaining 80% believe that they are suffering a hangover from expectations. Such a condition occurs when something goes wrong, as we were, when we are not able to relate their expectations with reality, or when there is something unexpected (and unwanted).
To remove a hangover from the expectations of between twenty and thirty years, use the tips that will make your life at this age, more vivid.
1. Understand your own expectations. Think about what you expect from yourself and from life; determine what expectations you have borrowed from others.
2. Define your goals. Create and maintain a list of the nearest attainable, short-term goals, focus on them and not on the expected results or desires.
3. Proceed in small steps rather than great leaps. Every day, make a small step forward - do not try to get everything in the world, or do everything at once.
4. Stop compare yourself with others. Forget about the approach of "faster, higher, stronger." Pay attention to their own progressRather than on how things are going in the other.
5. Do not expect anything from others. Formulate your thoughts out loud, do not expect that others can guess. Be honest about what expect from others, but also be prepared to say goodbye to his expectations.
6. Praise and value yourself. Every day, express gratitude for life and all that you have. Do not wait until someone tells you what a wonderful person you are.
7. Stay at the moment, this live. You will avoid a hangover from the expectations, if you live here and now. Focus on today, stop to think in the spirit of "if - when."
8. Accept yourself as you are now!. If you feel the hangover from the expectations and take it. Do not resist and do not regret - from this will only get worse.
9. Look for the effect of "Eureka". Put emotion aside and learn from any mistakes. What life teaches you? In any event there is a reason.
10. Evaluate the feasibility of plans. Make a list of unpleasant events and expectations that are not fulfilled, and reflect how well everything finally came together.
11. Protect health. Fight depression with the help of exercise and a healthy diet, avoid alcohol, overeatingDo not abuse caffeine and sugar, give up too long sleep and aimless lying in front of TV.
12. Finish whining and self-pity. Take a hangover from the expectations, but it does not hang in there. Plan something enjoyable to get out of this state.
13. Be proactive. Take responsibility for your feelings and act to change them. Begin to instill healthy habits yourself. Focus on what you can do differently now, and stop endlessly think about the past.
14. Be thankful. Make a list of all that you are grateful for life. It can bring instant relief.
15. Be unselfish. It's simple. Do something for others, and cease to dwell on his own life.
Book Christine Hassler "Manifesto twenties. Who we are, what we want and how to achieve it"- an indispensable tool for those who are experiencing a crisis of living quarters. If you can not find his calling, to understand what you want, and have no idea how to achieve goals, be sure to read this entire book.
Told in her real-life stories and sage advice from the author to help understand which direction to go, more quickly to survive the troubled period and finally start getting real pleasure out of life in the third ten.
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