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Money: golden cage
"Trick or Treat".
What would you do if someone pointed a gun to you in the ribs and said this phrase? I think that most would prefer to part with the wallet. The threat of effective, because we appreciate our a life higher than the money. Or not?
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Penny W. I worked 70 hours a week and was considered a successful salesman, but it was not. She says:
After reading books like The Poverty of Affluence ( «The poverty of abundance") Paul Wachtel, I realized that I was not alone in feeling that "something is passing me by." I started to talk to people, and it turned out that many feel the same way. By purchasing a comfortable house full of all kinds of household appliances, I often thought, "Is that all?" Do I have to just work run - up to the point of exhaustion, and then be thrown out of retirement - let the wind accumulated savings and waste the rest a life?
- Carl M. always I loved music, but his life was spent mostly on the work related to the processing databases. It all was well, that's just disappeared hope that the music will take place the main thing in his life. He was not sure he knew what it means to be a man, and so diligently to acquire all the attributes, which could, in his opinion, help to become so, and waited to see what they themselves give meaning to his life. Carl graduated from college, got married, became a good specialist, got a good job, bought a car, took out a mortgage the house and regularly cut his own lawn. He did not feel like an adult man - on the contrary, it is not the feeling that he was trapped.
- Diana J. quietly hated her programming job. She carried out her duties to a minimum - so much so that it was not for that sack. She had all the attributes of a successful person - a sports car, a house in the suburbs, but they do not offset the boredom assailed her at work. Diana was fascinated by travel, are recorded in several clubs, but nothing could dispel the depression that dogged her during the week. Eventually she came to the conclusion that one can hardly count on something better, until the work deprives her life meaning.
Many of us They love their workBut not everyone can honestly say that it fully satisfied. Ideal working life challenges, creates a passing interest. It is sufficient ease to leave room for fun. Suffice friendly relations, to promote the exchange of ideas. Ample opportunity to focus on and provide high performance. Enough working time to get everything done. Enough time to feel rested. Enough attention to feel like a fit. Enough jokes to have fun. Enough money to pay the bills... and then stay a little longer.
But even in the best work has shortcomings. Life is coming to the equator, and suddenly you find that you are living in accordance with the wishes of the parents. Or even worse - 20 years plombiruete patients teeth because one 17-year-old man (my God, it really was you?) I was once thought to be a dentist - the best thing in the world. We get used to live in the "real world" - a world of compromise. Despite all the talk about the fight for the lead by the end we were so tired of the day, that dream just to get to the couch.
Nevertheless, most of us believe that there is a way to live a more meaningful and full life. People, which will be discussed in this book have found that this method does exist. Can lead productive, meaningful, appropriate our lives - and at the same time enjoy all the material goods. There is a way to balance the internal and external life, working life result in line with the family's needs and internal needs. At task to make your life so that you feel more alive, there is a solution. You can arrange it so that the question "Trick or treat" you could say, "Thank you, I take both."
We do not live, we move slowly to death
Nevertheless, a great many working people - both genuinely love their work, and those who barely tolerate - there is no real choice between money and life. Almost all of their time, except for allotted to sleep, Subordinated to the task of making money, but in life there are only a few free hours.
Imagine a typical employee in almost any industrial city. The alarm rings at 6:45, our hero gets up and included in the day's race. To take a shower. Wear professional uniforms - for some it's a suit or dress, for someone - overalls for physicians - a white robe, for the builders - jeans and a flannel shirt. Breakfast, if there is time. Do not forget travel and portfolio (or a box of breakfast). Get in the car and go to meet the daily punishment called "rush hour" or squeeze into jam-packed train or bus. Depart working hours from nine to five. Meet with your boss, a colleague, were sent to the department by the devil to lead you the right way, with the suppliers. Talk with clients / customers / patients. Appear constantly busy. To hide their mistakes. Smile, yielding a completely unrealistic task deadlines. Sigh of relief when hemorrhoids called "reorganization" or "downsizing" - and simply dismissal of the staff - goes to someone else. Substitute the shoulder when the workload increases. Keep track of time. Argue with your conscience, but with a smile, agree with the boss. Five o'clock in the evening. Rather, once again in the car and on the highway or train (bus) at a reduced rate. Finally at home. Talk with the spouse, children or roommates. Dinner. TV. To go to bed. Eight hours of blessed oblivion.
And this is called life? Think about it. Do you often meet people who have the end of the day more energy than at the beginning? Are we come home after the main lesson of his life more enthusiastic? we flew out the door, and hyperactive refreshed, ready to spend a great evening with family? Where does all that energy, which theoretically should overwhelm us?
Perhaps the definition of "slow death" is closer to reality? Does not it, that we just kill themselves - their health, relationships with people, the ability to enjoy and wonder of life - in order to work?
We sacrifice our lives for the sake of money, but it is invisible, because what is happening very slowly. Whitened temples and give to the waist are the same milestones in time, as a convenient location, personal secretary or permanent contract. As a result, we can get comfort and even luxury, which always dreamed of, but the mental inertia will keep us in the given framework of the "nine to five". In the end, if you do not work, how to spend time? Dream life make sense and perfection with the help of work faced with the reality that prevails professional politicking, boredom, constant fatigue, and fierce competition.
Even those who love their work and believes that making a worthy contribution to the development of society, it is still recognized that there may be a happy and fulfilling life outside of "nine to five". A man can do what he likes, without any restrictions and time limits - and do not be afraid of being fired, and join the ranks of the unemployed. How many times have we thought or said, "I would do it differently if I could, but the members of the Board of Directors / Zero Association would like to do it that way." On how much hope we will have to give up for the sake of work and acquisition opportunities?
We believe that we have - it is our job
Even if from a financial point of view, we could refuse to work without bringing joy and contrary to our values, that from a psychological point of view, to be free is much harder. It should take its own identity and self-esteem apart from work.
Work has become a major source of love, devotion and a place for self-expression, displacing the family, neighbors, community relations, a church and even friends. Consider whether this is so in your case.
Remember how you feel when the boss asked, "What are you doing?" Answer something like "I do so-and-so." Whether it fills you with pride? Or you feel ashamed? Do not you want to answer: "I just _____" if you do not justify your own expectations? Do you feel superior? Or, on the contrary, you feel inferior position? Get out there on the defensive? Does the truth? You do try to come up with any exotic definitions for "invasion of the brain" to boost its own status?
Have we reached the point to judge the self value of the amount of payroll? By what criteria do we secretly evaluate the success of former classmates, sharing stories on the reunion? We are interested in whether or not they are living life to the fullest, whether its true values in life? Or prefer to ask questions about where they work, what position is occupied, live in what area, what kind of car travel and what college to send their children? After all of the above - common symbols success.
As well as racism and sexism in our society is characterized by a caste system based on the method of making money. We call it "dzhobizm" and it permeates our relationships at work, in the office or even at home. Otherwise, why should we assume women are homemakers second-class citizens? Teachers or people with lower social status than doctors, though they are much better to the ever rebellious students than doctors - to the sick and dying patients?
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