REVIEW: "The paradox of passion. She loves him, but he did not, "Dean Delis and Cassandra Phillips

Love begins to fade, and the hope for a brighter future in the company's beloved dissipated like mist? This book will help to deal with the imbalance that occurs even in the most promising couples regain the passion and build a harmonious relationship.

Delis Dean (Dean Delis)

Clinical psychologist, professor, University of California psychiatrist, psychologist San Diego Medical Center. Author of more than 100 professional publications.

Cassandra Phillips (Cassandra Phillips)

Journalist, writer, critic and screenwriter.

You certainly can relate themselves to one of the three categories of people:

1. You are in a romantic relationship.
2. Are you looking for a life partner.
3. You are recovering from a previous bad experience.

harmonious relationship - this is one of the most important components of a happy life. But just as the harmony often seems unattainable ideal.

You can accept the fact that life is not perfect, and adopt emerging problems as an inevitable component of the relationship. And there are several options:

1. Convince yourself that love - a joy that is available only for the young.
2. To go into work with the head and remain proud bachelor.
3. To find a new partner and start all over again.
4. Become dissatisfied and irritable type of revenge in the comments to our articles.

And you can try to treat love as a science: study the laws by which it evolves to consciously move towards a harmonious relationship.

Many books have been written about love, Though mostly about unrequited. Many psychologists work hard to help all those affected by love. But most of them are the cause of the very person or errors in education that just becomes an additional cause for disappointment in himself.

Dean Delis and Cassandra Phillips treat the problem differently. Each, even the closest to the ideal of steam sooner or later becomes trapped in one - man or woman - begins to love the other a little more, and falls into the "subordinate position". occurs imbalance.

The paradox may passion unexpectedly found at any time. It can destroy like a new romance, and long-term relationships. It can be caused by various sources of imbalance: greater attractive force of one of the partners, objective circumstances, "gaming roles" or incompatibility of individual partners features.

Dean Delis and Cassandra Phillips, "The paradox of passion"

It is important that, faced with a similar problem, both partners suffer: slave - from a lack of love and attention, and lead - from a lack of personal space and remorse.

The book "The Paradox of passion" at first will help you define your role in the relationsAnd then make recommendations for work to resolve problems. Ideally, of course, we need the participation of both partners. But the most wonderful thing that even a one-sided work will help you to move the center of gravity in the direction of a harmonious relationship. You have the power on their own to return the love and harmony.

I grabbed a book on the second chapter, where the mechanism of occurrence of the paradox of passion. The authors did not try to find reasons to justify the children's injuries or fading feelings incompatibility of characters. Instead, they point to the point of occurrence of imbalance and argue that there is always a way out.

About format

The book is not small, but not heavy. The first part deals with situations that occur in life and lead to an imbalance (rapprochement, differences in the way the husband and wife's life, changing jobs, or social circle, having children). As examples are real stories.

The second part contains instructions on how to return the love and create an equal relationship.

Life hacking for those who do not like to read

If you want to quickly take action, you can go directly to the practical part. But it is important that you correctly identify their role in the relationship. This will help Chapters 3 and 5.

"The paradox of passion. She loves him, but he did not, "Dean Delis and Cassandra Phillips

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