11 reasons not to worry if you have not found your soul mate of 30 years
Relations / / December 19, 2019
1. You have not lowered their own standards for the sake of public expectations
Especially tactless relatives may already be talking about you: "Yes, she's waiting for a prince" or "would find itself so someone how much you can sort out." But the compromises necessary to search, when the relationship is in full swing, and not the choice of the second halves. Unless you lower the bar (within reason) for a potential partner, you are left with a chance to meet someone who is right for you, and be with him, because you are happy, but not because it's time.
2. No one limits your financial freedom
You can dispose of the money as you see fit. There is no one to blame, you meticulously set aside every penny or descend the entire salary on something important to you, whether it's online courses, games or shoes.
3. You have learned a lot about people and understand what kind of person you need
Are you just barely realized at birth, what qualities should have your partner. We have to analyze what kind of people you are comfortable that their behavior is annoying and before which you can not resist. And in any studies the broader sample, the more accurate the result.
With age, the circle of friends increases, and with it the chance to find a person with whom you will live happily ever after.
4. Do you have time to become a better version of yourself
Relationships can stimulate your development and may slow it down. And calculate this in advance is almost impossible. Did you have time, motivation and resources, to fashion a better version of yourself. And if that did not work, at least you can not blame it on the partner.
5. You can put sexual experiments
Not all mad sexual fantasies people are willing to bear in bed with a regular partner, and that's fine. Many of the ideas in my head look a lot more attractive than they really are, and may cause a different range of emotions after the implementation - of the guilt and shame to the disgust and revulsion. Therefore, some things are better to try out a serious relationship.
6. No one stands between you and your hobbies
If you properly dispose of lonely evenings, you had the time to try different hobbies and decide what activities bring you joy. You can not attack other people to go to night raids in the computer game, go to dances, handicraft costumes for cosplay festivals.
7. You can travel
Single you quick on your feet: you do not need to agree on vacation, to compromise, to take into account other people's expectations. Alone you with great enthusiasm to make acquaintance traveling. And the budget for the trip plan is much simpler: you have to take into account the expenses for one person only.
8. You choose with whom to chat
You do not need to find a common language with foreign friends and relatives. And on a long weekend, you can visit his parents, without installing any prioritization and without arguing, in whose father's house to go to.
9. You will be easier to get away from the negative attitudes
You held a man with his own capital, opinions and boundaries. You have everything, and you are willing to be with someone for the sake of his personal qualities, not the functions that it performs. Even if your next relationship will not be happy, you will be able to get out of them with minimal losses.
Deprived of this possibility, many of those who started early in a serious relationship. After moving from her parents' house in common with partner nest, they just have not learned to be alone and very scared of this.
10. You've had time to think about whether the parent scenario fits you
You can rush into a relationship even at a young age and just repeat the parent script. But you have time to look to adults to look at a family in which you grew up, consider whether you want to live the same way, perhaps, to work out the nuances of the psychologist. You are now ready to build a relationship as you need, and not, as is commonly the parents.
11. Your friends are limited to one awkward issue
Almost everyone goes through a cycle tactless questions. It starts with, "When you get married / get married?", Followed by "When a child will be?", Then - "When the second?". You currently have plagued only the first of them, and you will certainly have learned to skip a question on deaf ears, or come up with some repartee.
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