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Perhaps every man at least once in life parted with his second half. Well, when it occurs by mutual agreement: both partners have cooled together, feeling burned out, was love. But it also happens that one of the couples decide to terminate the relationship on their own and becoming the second before the fact. This sudden decision is a shock, pain, hurt, fear, and a bunch of other negative emotions, which must somehow cope. In this article, we'll show you how to survive the separation, pull yourself out of this state and move on.

Write a letter

Parting - a very unpleasant process. In the farewell discourses always talked a lot, but not everything. After necessarily is still a lot of things that I want to explain, express, but the train had already left. In crisis situations, psychologists recommend

to keep a diary and splashes down on paper all the negative thoughts and emotions, and not to hoard them in yourself.

You can keep a diary, but you can write a letter to the person who left you. And it is not printed on the keyboard, namely write pen on paper - this is a very important condition.

Another important condition: the contact name for the person. Express all that pent up, blame, resent Retrieve your lost. Importantly, do not keep these emotions in themselves. Tell us in this letter everything that did not have time to speak at the meeting. If you are angry - said this, if sorry about something - ask for forgiveness.

Get rid of the negative, it is not necessary to drag him along through life. After all, if negative emotions do not pass somewhere, they will stay with you and will push, pull back.

Give yourself time

The hardest part after breaking up is not something that you remain alone, but that you remain alone with all your happy memories of the joint. Every thing, street, tree, bench, lamppost recalls the joint walks and time spent together. And what memories are, and the reasons for these memories not around, brings great pain.

With this pain is useless to do something, it should be easy to live. And this takes time. Give yourself this time. As long as necessary.

You can rush different ideas, stereotypes and fears: it is necessary to urgently find yourself someone else, because the time goes by; it is time to start a family, and you have no one; if you do not hurry now, in old age will remain alone, and so on. Chase those thoughts away. Everything has its time, and now is the time to let go of past relationships.

Allow yourself to live your life

Forgive and let go - what psychologists are advised to move on. Sounds logical and simple, but it is very difficult in real life. It will take a lot of time and emotional energy.

If today you are not willing to truly forgive someone, at least allow yourself to not look back to live their lives. Stop to go to the page of his former partner in social networks, read tweets, watch photos in Instagram.

By doing all this, you, at least indirectly, to continue to participate in the life of a person, mentally to be with him. Of course, up to a certain point, it can help to cope with stress, but then he will pull back. It will be easier when you consciously stop doing this and start to live my life. Do not cling to the past, the better to think about the present.

Change their ways

To stop living in the past and feel oppressive pain of happy memories, fill my real interesting events and new acquaintances. To do this, you need to change your habitual way of action, and perhaps even the environment. Try to do something never done before. Go to the master class, write a song in a recording studio, go to the section of the martial arts. New experiences, new emotions, new people will help to expand your world. Explore the new hobbiesIt's really exciting.

Be with people

In any crisis situation, the support of family and friends is invaluable and irreplaceable. So do not give up when the family pulled you a helping hand, do not go in yourself to grieve in solitude and mourn their fate.

Be with people. Talk with them, laugh, walk, meet. Be open to the world and not locked up in his close little world.

Try to look at your situation is not the victim's position (which I lost due to terminate the relationship), and with a winning position (I got benefited from this). Do not get hung up on the negative, better turn their attention to the positive aspects.