Striptease of soul, or why we confide in the Internet

Today, a chance to learn that a friend bought a new car, the above Instagram, than having a beer at the bar. Not only see each other rarely talk on the phone. Social networking will tell who got married or divorced, moved in all directions, the child who went to school... People generously share intimate experiences with the world. Why it happens? And whether it is necessary to judge a man by his profile of "VKontakte"? We discuss in this article.

Internet was conceived as a channel for receiving and transmitting information. But quickly became a communication channel. By exchange of views Learn to create "micro-worlds" in MySpace, Facebook and other social networks.

A few years ago the question "Do you have to VC?" It was normal. Not today. Of course have! If you do not own, the fake web page, but be sure to have.

According to VTsIOM, the Internet in Russia enjoys 66% of adults (!) Citizens, ie more than 76 million people. 90% of them are registered in the social sphere.

Social media and email and instant messaging has changed the nature of communication. Including attitude to lies.

Everyone lies!

Dr. House is right: in one way or another, but all are lying. Everyday. It would be logical to assume that most of all lie on the Internet. You can remain anonymous, put on any mask.

Tricks of social engineering and phenomena such as Astroturfing - more proof of the fact that the Web is full of lies.

But if you ignore the fundraising for the salvation of the imaginary sick child and messages such as "Do not spam! Jobs do not hit lying - salary of $ 30,000, "it is absolutely different picture emerges.

On the Internet there is no sincerity. Frank, honest with himself a person can only be in a personal blog with closed access from everyone. For everyone else, will be broadcast an image that the person intends to meet.

Tanya Abrosimov

Professor of cognitive psychology and communications Jeff Hancock (Jeff Hancock) spent study honesty in social media. The result is surprising.

According to Hancock, the man was not lying for no reason. If he does, that:

• protect myself;
• benefit.

But the monitor and the distance, according to the professor, not a reason to lie. Why?

There are (at least) two reasons.

1. Speaking it appeared much earlier than writing and, unlike the latter, is available to all. Hence historically sacred attitude towards him, fixed on paper or in another form. Sovrosh aloud - half do not notice half soon forget. Write the truth - will remember for a long time and can prove it.
2. Social networks - is not just a status, photos and posts "about anything." These are the people who create them and read. More often - close people. Whom you will be in front of their relatives, friends, colleagues, if sovrosh? Social responsibility and morality increase the level of truthfulness.

From this we can conclude that regular users in social networks often still speak the truth. hypertrophiedBut the truth.

I - version 2.0

People are willing to spread in the photo network and talk about their husbands and wives, children (even newborns), pets, home... Just look at how caring my husband - he prepared my breakfast. Like! And how cute my baby - that he scat. Like! I'm in great shape at 35 - though me to face a new dress? Like!

I can not understand it. But I think there are two possibilities. First, when people use the albums on social networks like cloud storage. The second - is psychology. People want to get a positive evaluation of others.

Tanya Abrosimov, SMM-specialist Layfhakera

We decided to look into the psychology and turn to the question, why do people organize a "striptease" in the social sphere, to a professional.

Self-centeredness and vanity

There is a type of personality - hysteroid, or demonstrative. Such people tend to be theatrical. Activity on social networks allows them to constantly attract attention. They are confident that we are obliged to give to the world the "rich inner world."

Laiki and positive comments to amuse vanity of such people. They do not tolerate competition, so banyat everyone who admires them.

Isteroidy - actors like to try on different masks. So I Mean Girls, but I hostess / Here I am an athlete, but I'm on a steep wheelbarrow.

Anna Kutinova

Substitution of concepts

The second reason is a personal deficiency. Self-doubt, lack of stability problems in his personal life - all these people trying to compensate through social networks.

Woman, uncertain in their appeal and value, can be seen immediately: her 1679 photos, many albums, status a la "I was hard to find but easy to lose," and so on.

Man unsettled in life and obsession with success, too, is simple to calculate. In his tape only good news, business tips, advice, how to achieve success, and so on. He believes that if the world is not perfect, it is not worthy of love.

Couples demonstrating in social networks "idyll", as a rule, far from it in life. Mutual sincere feelings do not need publicity. On the contrary, people try to hide from strangers that they hold dear. If a man or woman constantly says "I love you" on the wall of a partner rather than to say it personally, it means that there is no contact between them. In relationships it is important not relevant as such, but the status of "love in such and such" or "married to so and so."

Anna Kutinova

Thus, social media wishful thinking:

• in insecure increased self-esteem;
• losers "approach" to the dream;
• and unhappy in love get the illusion of a strong relationship.

Social networks greatly affect self-esteem. Man builds the image, makes an effort to maintain it, adds all new and new content. Of course, he expects a positive assessment of their efforts. If a person is approved, self-esteem grows. If not the expected reaction - falls.

Tanya Abrosimov, SMM-specialist Layfhakera

Recognition of others, of love and attention to a moderate extent necessary for everyone. Even self-sufficient person will smile when he saw a nice comment under your photo. But social media, this need often becomes exaggerated character. Individuals with fragile self-esteem hooked on huskies and comments, both on the drug. Such people do not love themselves and do not see its value. Harmonious human huskies and comments are not needed.

Anna Kutinova

Effects

What causes such revelations in social networks? To perpetuate the psychological problems and more and more destruction of real interpersonal relationships.

The text never give emotions of interpersonal communication. Hence innuendo, innuendo, and other "under-".

Tanya Abrosimov, SMM-specialist Layfhakera

You can forget how to communicate. Cease to be themselves, be spontaneous. After all, the web, you always have time for you to ponder the message to customize it for your image.

But the biggest danger is not in the virtual roles as such, and their transfer into real life.

Anna Kutinova

Life is not vlogs, it can not pause or rewind. Advisers in "my world" will not help you to reconcile with her husband, or, for example, to find the girl. While you laykaete and repost, extra weight you are at home saved mess, and friends become friends.

At the end of the request. Write in the comments how you feel about the mental striptease in social media? And do yourself to be frank with your friends and followers?