Looking through the disadvantages of communicating vaccine shortage

Thank you parents, teachers, TV and even social networks - we have learned very well to judge other people, hang tags and decide who is worthy to communicate with us, and who let him go forest. Each risk buy a lack of communication and miss so many wonderful people, or just people who have something to give.

We live in a society, and every day we meet many different people, acquaintances occur regularly, but half of them at once falls into the "dustbin". Each person uses different selection criteria, which are learned in childhood: evaluated appearance, social status, manner of speaking. Later comes the time for bad habits, character traits, life aspirations.

We form their social circle of those people who seem to suit us, rejecting anyone who does not fit the picture of the world. Such a view is quite rational, but it does not mean that it is - the best and the only right.

As he wrote in Hesse's novel "Siddhartha" in every human being is the Buddha and the murderer, meanie and shirt-guy, libertine and puritan.

Each person can say standing idea that wants to embroider the silk on the pillow, and while it does not matter what it looks like, how to talk and what to do in life.

Here are some common misconceptions that can prevent you to diversify your life interesting dialogue:

1. It looks bad

Despite the fact that all nod sagely in response to the "appearance - not the main thing", it is the first judgment of the person depends on his appearance. What is particularly frustrating many at this level and remain. There are people who are suffering the beautiful clothes and flawless appearance, and someone completely indifferent to it and do not care about what you will wear.

Seeing tasteless dressed man, or a man in a dirty, crumpled clothes, you can not know almost nothing - it can equally well be poor, alcoholic, creative individuals who do not care for clothing or person who was not able to wash and iron clothes. Thousands of variations, and no conclusions.

Someone who looks nice, you can enjoy as a work of art, but to build conclusions about his welfare, interests, life - is just silly.

For example, several well-known personalities, which met on the street, many would have thought that they were homeless.

2. He is a strange

Everyone has some kind of strangeness, and what you feel familiar, it may be surprising or even disgust from other people. What to do, we all grew up in different families, in their little cells with their law and order.

Some oddities, preferences, and little "insanity" - all these people are suffering, and if a person has some of his pens, it does not mean that it is "abnormal". In the end, the notion of normality heavily blurred.

If, again, refer to famous people, many of them had their own bizarre troubles. For example, Winston Churchill changed every night, bed linen, and the hotel ordered two beds, and slept in them at a time, at midnight. Albert Einstein did not wear socks, even in the most solemn occasions, Ludwig van Beethoven did not shave, believing that it brings inspiration. You can continue for a long time, but the essence is - strangely nothing say.

3. Do not know how to communicate

There are tons of good manners, which help people to be agreeable, but observe them, of course, not all. For example, when dealing accepted to look into the eyes, it should be clear and understandable, a letter - without errors. However, if a person does not fulfill all the above, it may not mean anything.

For example, Jean-Paul Sartre could not look people in the eye, it seemed to him that he was petrified. However, many would certainly not refuse to talk to him.

Hans Christian Andersen wrote with terrible grammar and spelling errors before the end of his days, confused punctuation. However, who can say that he was stupid or poorly written?

4. Bad habits

No one can say that alcohol or drugs - it's good, well, almost nobody. But this is not a reason to reject the person. Of course, there is more and more difficult, but if other people's bad habits do not threaten to break your life, why not?

For example, several writers: Edgar Allan Poe - washed-alcoholic, suffering white fever and even died in a drunken stupor, Ernest Hemingway, can not imagine life without daiquiris, wine and viskarya. And, perhaps, it is not necessary to list the actors, poets, writers, artists, musicians and politicians, taking different kinds of drugs.

I cite the example of celebrities because society has recognized them as normal and not have to talk against thousands of people with them. Nevertheless, if they did not become famous for such habits, many would not even look in their direction.

See how children

Children are sincere and honest, they do not care about status and they will not force myself to chat with someone who they do not like. What if we try to see people as follows: without templates and frames, just like people. No matter what a person is dressed, the way he talks or writes what his habits and strangeness.

But if you remove the usual selection criteria and take everything a man is then to limit your social circle?

Very simply, if you're curious, fun, free, or just have a good, continue to communicate.

You can get from this world much more - after all, everyone teaches you something as well as you.