How to keep yourself in the hands while communicating with an unpleasant companion

Unfortunately (or fortunately?), We can not always choose the people with whom we communicate. In some cases, avoid contact with people that we for some reason distasteful, we can not. This and civil servants in the same tax, the head of the kindergarten, which goes to your baby, sellers, managers and etc. The only thing that remains in such cases - a deep breath, count to 10 and keep yourself in hands.

Do not copy the behavior

Sometimes someone we do not like totally subjective reasons - it may be the tone of voice, appearance or odor. But sometimes people communicate with whom it is impossible to avoid, really behaves not the most dignified manner. And in this case, the important thing is not to stoop to his level. On the one hand, it is very difficult to do, because at the time people talk often unconsciously copy the style of conversation companion.

Never argue with a fool - people might not notice the difference between you.

When it comes to negative emotions, calm yourself is very difficult. The simplest example - it's rude when in transport - awfully difficult to hold back and not be rude in return. Always worth remembering that you need to communicate with people the way you would like to chat with you. A rude boors and nobody likes.

Be open to change

It is not necessary to stick the labels in the style: "This man is unpleasant to me, I do not want to continue to communicate with him" at the first meeting. All we happen not in the mood or too tired, or feel bad. Perhaps the next time you change your mind about a man on the diametrically opposite. People change and everyone should always have a second chance.

Nothing personal

What we think of someone, or someone thinks about us - all this is a subjective rather than an objective opinion. No one may be adored by all. For such people there is always the same amount of haters, as well as admirers. Therefore, each time thinking about what you are someone does not like you, you should not think that the person hates you, period. Maybe you are just too little to communicate? And this feeling is not very nice and productive dialogue it clearly does not work, and makes things worse.

In the same way, perhaps, the person who is in you resentment to tremble at the knees and sits currently in front of you at a business meeting, for someone else can be very pleasant and nice. And you just do not know its pleasant side. Therefore, we reserve our opinion to yourself and try to do so that it does not affect the outcome of a business meeting. No one is forcing you to be friends, right?

Turn a deaf ear jokes and severity

This is one of the most difficult moments - correctly respond to a joke or miss on deaf ears taunt. We all have different ideas about what is funny and what is - not very. If someone is one joke may seem completely harmless, for the other it can be almost deadly insult. And sometimes people specifically trying to get you out of himself with his jokes. Why give in to provocations and to go down to his level? Smarter just keep quiet.

Try to speak calmly and keep your body language under control

Much more important is not what you say but how you say it. When you say that it is absolutely calm, but it almost did not cry, you never no one will believe. Similarly, a person can easily notice the hostility to him by the expression of your face. Calm tone of voice, watching the hands and feet (that do not cross) and try to keep the expression Pockerface face.

Learn active listening

If you have already realized that the person unpleasant to you, do not focus on this and not scroll this idea in my head over and over again. Instead of thinking about the negative all the time, better listen carefully to what you say. By focusing on the essence of the conversation, you will quickly realize that it is up to you want, and quickly end this unpleasant conversation.

Keep track of time

Time - one of the most human of limited resources.

Rather, it is concerned with how to behave so as not to annoy someone. Time - one of the most human of limited resources. It is of course for all, regardless of status and money. Therefore terribly annoying when a person forces himself to wait for no apparent reason, but simply to seem important. Keep this in mind and do not make people wait and spend the most precious resource.

While talking with the man, remember that once you are able to control their behavior. And it affects the outcome of your discussions. Yes, sometimes we can not choose a companion or partner, but we can choose how to behave.