We believe that among our readers a lot of people who are open to dialogue, who travel a lot, so certainly there are those who have who happened once the love of life, which is marred only one problem - with a loved one have shared thousands kilometers. Sometimes it seems that such a relationship is doomed to failure, but we think differently and find a compilation of tips on how to maintain and develop a harmonious relationship at a distance.
1. Try as much as possible (preferably every day) to communicate with the help of SMS-messages, phone calls, Skype and e-mail. It is important to constantly keep in touch and to occupy an important place in the daily life of each other.
2. At the very beginning of the relationship to ask each other important questions to make sure that you both expect from them the same. Decide who you are to each other, you're dating, or just friends who are happy to meet, when they are in the same city, or you are engaged. Perhaps one of you thinks that you're ready for the wedding, while the other is not ready to declare such a serious relationship. Yes, these issues are awkward and difficult to define them, but they are necessary in order to avoid misunderstanding and resentment. It is possible to discuss whether the ready any of you move to another city for a wedding and living together and discuss what each of you are looking for in a relationship. Stating at the beginning of his goal, you can help themselves and the loved one to act according to your wishes and dreams.
3. Distance Challenge and do with some things. Think, for lovers, who live next to each other to spend most of the time not to talk, and for some time together. And from a distance it is also possible, for example, look at the same time one and the same program or movie, play a game of network, cook dinner, talking at the same time on Skype, sing the same song in karaoke or read the same book.
4. Communicate in all possible ways. Since you can not see each other every day, it is important to maintain an emotional connection. This does not mean you have a long talk on the phone in the evenings. Exchange short messages with the help of instant messengers. Write about their small victories, joys and problems. Ask for advice from each other. But the e-mails to write better more thoughtful and lengthy, so that your loved one to see what you think about it, and spend some time to write this letter. Write love letters romantic. Send small gifts, flowers and cards for no reason. The number in this case is less important than quality. And, of course, try not to forget important or even very important, but your overall choice. Better just to put yourself reminders about each of them.
5. Remember the benefits that provide long-distance relationship: You can spend a lot of time with friends and family, you do not quarrel because of domestic trivia (like the fact that a bottle of shampoo is necessary to close), each of your meeting is full of emotions, you do not tear it out on favorite person, even if you thought he made a rude letter to you, you can think a little before you write rudeness answer. You may read the letter several times and analyzed, you will realize that there is nothing offensive in it there. And most importantly - remain far apart, you keep your individuality, unlike couples who live together and spend together almost all his spare time.
6. You must have a common interest and need to discuss them constantly. I enjoy collecting stamps? Discuss the emergence of a new unique instance in your collection. You both like to ride a bike? Synchronize and ride at the same time, and then call and share emotions. When you devote time to your overall hobby, you will remember a loved one.
7. Do not try to control your partner. As long as you are both interested in the relationship, you will support them. But as soon as one of you decides that his relationship is not satisfied, or simply in his life will be different man, the relationship ends, no matter you live 3000 km apart, in the same city or in one room.
8. Do something for each other. This does not mean that we should throw everything on the altar of relations. But perhaps there are some things that you've always wanted to do, but you do not have enough motivation. In this case, you can start doing it for the sake of your partner. For example, the slightly tighten the shape or improve their culinary skills. At the meeting you will be pleased to show off to each other with their achievements and we can discuss how difficult it is given to you some points.
9. Discuss your joint plans for the future, to know what you are moving to understand, for what you are trying to and are experiencing difficulties and relationship problems at bay.
10. Remember that many things get better with time, and the relationship gets better and warmer. Hopefully.
11. More common. Relations can not develop harmoniously, if you communicate only by phone. Use every opportunity to see. Plan regular visits and strictly adhere to the plan. Only a clear schedule will help you maintain the relationship.
12. One of the easiest ways to destroy even the most perfect relationship - it is poison them distrust and jealousy. When you start a long distance relationship, you should be prepared for the challenges associated with them. You have to be a priori confidence in the honesty and innocence of your partner. If your loved one has gone to a party with your friends, do not need to arrange after questioning why he I did not call when he came home, threw no SMS, why lingered so late in the morning, and why not take tube. Do not think that the relationship put the usual life on pause. Do not give up fun, meet friends, enjoy your life. However, to maintain a balance, it is not necessary to be absolutely naive and blind eye to the obvious facts, who talk about changes of your partner, but do not spoil your nerves and his excessive suspicion.
13. Keep a positive attitude, do not let yourself for a moment to focus on the negative aspects of relationships at a distance. Yes, you are away from your "konfetochki", but you can pay more attention to the work, hobbies, their interests. In addition, such a relationship makes you constantly inventing new ways to communicate, they reveal your creative side, which has a positive impact on all aspects of life. Your positive and will be transferred to your loved one, you will feel the support of each other.
14. Give your loved one some personal trinkets that he will be able to carry around and touch her in a difficult moment, and feel your warmth. Such lovely things give a sense of happiness and make you think about you.
15. Harmonious relationship - is hard work. It is important that both partners understand this and try to the good relations that must be built on a solid foundation of trust, understanding and commitment. Do not forget about reasonable expectations. What about what we talked about in the second paragraph. And from time to time again to ask each other questions in order to understand what has changed, and if you lost more interest in each other.
16. Make your own list of the foundations on which to build relationships, and sign up for them. This is a common goal, on which you will work together. What could be on the list? Well, for example, to accept each other for what is; try to be honest and trust each other; to seek a compromise; seek spiritual unity; talk openly about their problems and dissatisfaction in the relationship.
17. Remember that you have all the same relation. And you have to support your loved one. If he got into trouble, if he has a problem, you have to do everything to be close at this moment, at least, you should always be in touch. After all, if all your adversities you will overcome it alone, then why do we need relationships?
18. You think because you rarely need to remove both the opportunity to be alone together can be more useful and fun. And yet it is very important to be attractive to each other, a sense of excitement eventually comes to naught if you do not maintain it.
Any relationship - is hard work. Long-distance relationship - work, which is difficult in a few times. But surely every one of you will be able to tell at least one story about a couple who have long been happy, despite the fact that the lovers are separated by thousands of kilometers. We hope that this article will help those who maybe started a little tired and discouraged. Think positive and be happy!