What to do when you enrage people: advice from Leo Babauta

Leo Babauta

Author blog about self-organization and productivity of Zen Habits, writer.

Do not try to change the behavior of another person, change their attitude. Perhaps many will resent it. Why do I need to change something in yourself, when you get tired of someone? Because that's how you'll be happy with anyone.

I am trying to change everyone you meet, you setting yourself up for disaster.

Imagine that the entire surface of the earth is covered with broken glass. You can try to close it with something from above, to quietly walk, but this is not feasible. It is much easier to put on shoes. This applies to communication with annoying people.

Note that angry. Notice how your mind convinces you dislike for the man. You start blame it think that's wrong with him, why he behaved so unceremoniously.

Such thoughts will not help you. They only frustrate and complicate relationships with others. Let them go. To calm down, follow these three steps:

1. Recognize that you do not like how this man behaves. Are you unhappy with the current situation. But since you reject a part of reality. Be open to everything in life and do not reject anything.
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2. Imagine that you are standing on the bank of the river and want to change the direction of its flow. You just upset because it's impossible. Now imagine that another person - this is the river. Wishing that he has changed, you just upsetting yourself.
3. Try to see and take it for what it is. Look at it as an ordinary man with his suffering, disabilities and habits. Some of them irritate you, but it's perfectly natural.

Be open to everything. Do not reject the other.

Try to see every man with his sufferings and love it for what it is.

It will change you. You will learn how to build relationships with other people without judging them.