How to behave with a foul-mouthed

How to behave in a conversation with a foul-mouthed, and so that the conversation is not ended on the negative?

Without a mate is not this man's conversation.

Many of us have absorbed this proverb literally with their mother's milk. However, for many mat it has been and remains a real irritant. How to behave in a conversation with a foul-mouthed, and so that the conversation is not ended on the negative?

First of all, it should be understood that communication with the impregnation of the mat - it is a conversation on a particular level of convergence. If a person in a conversation with you began to use obscene words, then he either wants to get closer and be with you "on the same wavelength," or he will threatens. The second option will not be considered, consider first.

If your co-worker, a neighbor, or even a business partner in a private conversation start using the mat in the conversation - so they are trying to force you to close, friendship forever fellowship. On the one hand, it is good - because people trust you and they like you, but on the other hand, many swear in response to just unpleasant.

Tell them you can not swear on religious grounds, or on your home planet is not accepted.

First of all, do not assume that a person who uses foul language is offensive. I often come across people with the strictest moral and ethical principles, skolonnye use in private conversation rigid mot. Just for many mat - an essential part of everyday speech. Excuse foul-mouthed, and do not hold a grudge against him. But, of course, you should alert the person, swearing loudly in the street or at other people.

Secondly, if you are really determined to avoid in his speech obscene words, then do not let them eat at all. As soon as you make at least once in the conversation obscene turnover - and that you have no other way but to talk to the foul-mouthed language which he understands. Believe me, there are several ways to avoid this:

• Replace all the obscene words on the heavy but decent analogues for which you do not feel ashamed.
• Tell them you can not swear on religious grounds, or on your home planet is not taken - to include fantasy and come up with something.
• Gently slide rails on business or a serious topic - is unlikely they will be as easy to use the mat, as in the story about losing your favorite football team.

Still, you should not speak directly to man that the mat in communicating unpleasant to you or make a remark to him - uses foul language will regard it as a personal insult (of course, you're in fact called him uneducated and uncultured).

However, the best way to not slide into a dialogue on the mat consists of two components:

• with people who are important to you and that you value adhere to the distance in the dialog,
• and on the other foul-mouthed just do not talk.

And you will be calm and linguistic happiness :)