How to ignore the negative comments on the internet

Have you ever heard the saying "empty vessels make the most sound?" So talk about minded people who are louder and more all have expressed their opinions, and in fact do not know anything and talk nonsense.

Proverb is old, but does not lose relevance: the one who loudly expressed their opinion or even tries to impose, as a rule, not very smart or talented to this day.

Immediately to warn that we are not talking about all the negative comments, but only of the most "high-profile" unfounded attacks.

There are negative, noadekvatnye comments, which can be answered with whom you can work. Man after solving its problems thanks and apologizes. And there are just moronic comments: "nonsense," "rubbish" or "author moron" - such a bath, because they are no reasoned.

Tanya, SMM-specialist Layfhakera

The brighter a person criticizes skepticism and waters any material, louder than his negative comments, especially empty this person. This applies not only void on the ground of intelligence (it can even be quite intelligent and well-read). This can be a void in place of the heart, the emptiness in his soul, a void or emptiness in the life of on-site self-esteem.

The loudest comments, most violent and rude of them do not because the man really has a reason to add them. Rather, they sound as proof that the commenter is unhappy, and the material becomes a target, in which a person discharges the clip of his hatred and dissatisfaction with life.

These trolls are found in reality. These are people who are trying to disrupt the seminar or public speech, fill up the speaker negative comments and just get on.

And of course, there are trolls and personal life. Among friends and acquaintances come across people who can blame your lifestyle and direction of development - in short, everything that you do and have done.

While their views may be quite flat and one-sided, they can behave with hostility by some absurd reason, even if you are not familiar and not very often communicated. So how do you do with all of them? First of all - do not waste your time on them.

The main mistake - a reaction to the negative

People who have not yet learned to cope with the negative comments, sensitive to them and believe that they bear for them some responsibility.

In this case, one sees that the comment illogical and unjustified attacks, but can not do anything with it do - he a bad mood, he continues to ponder a comment or an unpleasant conversation in reality. In general, he spends his time and mood, believes that somehow has to react to it.

A thought: "What have I caused such a reaction a man?", "What's wrong with me?", "How can I make such a reaction does not occur in the future?".

In the end, a person can come to this conclusion: "All right, but I'm wrong. It's my fault". After which the person is trying to avoid a series of scathing remarks and conflicts. In other words, thinking about how not to provoke people to new negative comments.

Trying to please all in a row, you'll just spend more time on the work that otherwise, to strong criticism the public without looking back, would make twice as faster and better. Do they worth your time? After all, you still will not be able to please the trolls, moreover, they do not really interested in the quality of your work.

Waste of time and attention to the trolls unjustified

Of course, you pay the trolls and their statements more attention than a calm and neutral feedback. This is because they are louder, sharper and rougher. You begin to respond to their comments, ready to answer more thoroughly than if the answer to the questions and comments in a peaceful and benevolent tone.

In general, you are wasting their time and energy to pay more attention, but the trolls do not need. They do not need you to thoroughly and competently answered, do not need proof of your innocence. Whatever you write them in an attempt to prove their point of view, the answer you will get only the negative comments and new portions of bile.

So do not waste time on them at all, or, at least, do not spend more time than the rest of the comments and feedback.

Comments not deserve more attention because it is a loud, harsh or rough. That does not make it more important and significant.

Moreover, these comments mean even less than the others. Their text is dictated by the inner emptiness of the commentator, but what do you care to empty of people?

Here are seven tips to help you get rid of the influence of negative comments and a waste of time. So what should you do to stop paying attention to them?

1. Understand that loud does not mean an important

Sometimes loud comments do not mean anything - they are empty. Therefore, they deserve less attention than the other, or even do not deserve.

2. Learn to see the difference between good advice and useless noise

Throughout life we ​​are given a lot of advice, but it does not mean that you have to listen to each of them. Before you take the advice and reflect on it, to determine if the board goes to your worldview does not contradict your values ​​and help there to achieve their goals. If all three questions you answered "no", you can safely throw out advice from the head.

Cease to worry very quickly when you realize that the picture of the world in his head the evil commentator will never be the same with yours. It remains to give him a chance to speak, and if he comes to direct insults and go to the person - to ban it. And so we have the freedom of speech.

Alex Sexton

3. Deliberately shift the focus on the right people

Instead of paying attention to "loud" people just because they are sharper and more aggressive than the others declare their opinions, consciously focus on people whose opinion really matters, commentators, knowledge and experience you useful. Before you respond to a negative comment, look who just left him. It will help to understand and react, it is worth paying attention to it or not.

Someone else's opinion is subjective, and I appreciate, from whom such comments. If it's just an accountant Kate, manager or welder Peter Kohl, it does not hurt; if a specialist or an expert in my field, it will be grustnenko and even unpleasant.

Tanya, SMM-specialist

4. To realize that the "right" people can be quiet

There are people who support you, help and encourage, but do not seek persistently to draw your attention. You can not ignore them, because they do not express anything sharp and critical, that catches the eye and makes nervous, but their support can greatly help you. Find such people among its commentators and turn your attention to the screamers and the trolls on these people.

5. Apply the rule of "99: 1" while interacting with loud people

If, for life, you often have to deal with trolls, use the rule "99: 1". Rather than give them most of their attention, leave only 1% for the isolation of constructive criticism, if any, and the remaining 99% dedicate to people who praise and endorse you or talk about the shortcomings in a friendly and relaxed manner, really wanting help.

6. Use praise to move forward

It is possible to develop on the basis of criticism or, conversely, on fertile soil of praise and encouragement. When the development process starts criticisms you constantly correct their mistakes, and when comes in praise, you are evolving on the basis of their inner strength, gain more confidence in currently. So focus on the positive feedback from their materials and activities and use the principle of "99: 1" for the praise and criticism.

7. Remember that empty people deserve sympathy

Always remember that the loud and angry comments are left empty people, so we can only feel sorry for them. At the same time you are not to blame for their emptiness and you are responsible for it, so do not deal with them and let them into your life.

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