4 things that should be remembered future father
Relations / / December 19, 2019
Afraid to become a father - is normal. You will never be ready for that, yet the wife did not give birth to a first child. It is the unknown. This instantaneous rearrangement of the daily routine and periodic lack of sleep in the first six months. This change in the working rhythm and disputes with childless peers and superiors on what is primary for human - work or family. This slap on the back and lament the parents: "Just become an adult." It's family night vigils. But if you know about some things in advance, you can make life easier for himself and his wife.
1. Take care of your child's mother
Your wife needs support before, during and after childbirth. Pregnancy - is a sickness in the first trimester, aches in the back rest of the time, periodic trips to the antenatal clinic with analyzes and psychological readjustment.
Spouse may begin to fall apart or you declare that you smell bad. Unless you're lucky, you will be on the "strike" the whole nine months. Remember, this is temporary, be forgiving and patient. During pregnancy turn into a bit in the "parent" for women: follow her whims and bring home goodies.
Stay close during childbirth. Optionally present in the most crucial moment. But if doctors are not assigned a caesarean section, the delivery process is likely to be long and tedious. After them, a woman must rest, and with or without you - is she decides.
After delivery, some mothers say in social networks only with a lot of funny emoticons and exclamation marks. Be aware that they are likely to dissemble.
Approximately 15% of new mothers suffer from postpartum depression, which must be fought with the help of a specialist.
BabyCenter highlightsThe baby blues. a separate category of the baby blues - a melancholic state of a woman, like a postpartum depressionBut less pronounced. Baby blues may last for two weeks after discharge from the hospital, and at this time of your care is especially important.
2. Not Retrieve your lost over trifles and do not ask what's for dinner
A condition similar to the baby blues can start and father. This is a time when you can not just pick up and go to the bar to drink beer, because you have to bathe the baby, feed, if artificial feeding is practiced in the family, more and more carefully get out and actively help around the house.
At this time, it is better not complain, because it is unfair to the child's mother, who probably wants to put you on the spot.
Home invisible front tires as well as your work, so that the duty phrase, "What's for dinner" better yet forget. Some women do not like it at all.
3. Learn from mother
Role as a responsible father will give you a progressive element in human evolution. Mothers love their children, because their relationship is formed on an instinctive and hormonal levels. You sure your child really like, but perhaps not immediately.
And while you're trembling ASSUME unknown creature on your hands and do not know what to do with it and how to put learning from his mother soon. She held the blow still in the hospital and something he can. Empathy and affection quickly do their job.
In addition to the ability to swaddle, change diapers, to lure and lull you will need a desire to do it all, or at least the awareness that without your wife can not cope. too, will have to get up at night.
4. sometimes relax
When will take the shock of self-awareness in a new role, and will be time to rest.
In the first three months child more like a big pub, which is why it is necessary to feed, swaddle and to shift to the other side. At this time, it is desirable to sing songs, strum something simple and quiet guitar or just stand by and be touched, but sometimes you can afford to relax.
Gradually, the child will require more attention. 7-8 months, children begin to crawl, and then you remember the first few months of calm.