How to find a normal guy

Warning: spoiler

Friends, this is not an article of applied nature. There are no specifics, and step by step instructions how to find happiness. Article - reflections of the author with no claim to originality and genius. Low expectations - the key to a restful sleep. :)

Introduction

My friends were divided into two camps: while some are eager to share the experience and give wise advice on how to get married, while others sigh, that in this world does not remain normal men.

You know, if I do not personally know these thoroughly beautiful girls from the group of frustrated, you could safely assume that they overestimate their own worth or do not leave the chance of a normal guy. But it seems that it is different.

Maybe some girls simply do not tend to notice those men? We fall in love in the wrong, and then they themselves suffer and cry at night. Yes, of course, in life there is not the simplest situation. But, to be honest, it always takes two to tango: There is no such that someone is guilty one.

Where can I find a normal guy

Well, okay, once you have taken and grown. I understand and accept that you like pompous asshole. But then, you get tired of it. Any drama, even the most ornate, sometimes zadalbyvat and want something normal and present. And then there is a reasonable question: where and how to find a normal guy?

If there was some sort of magical place, a kind of Plato's caveWherever hid all normal men, probably, the girl would have been lined up in the queue pohlesche than rags new collection of H & M with some famous designer. Maidens who have completed courses guru Paul Rakov female practitioner would necessarily brought there by special buses, and all the broken hearts were sent to forced rehabilitation.

Alas, such a concentrated male power has no place. Or I do not know about it. It is clear that all the key life meetings always take place completely random and unpredictable. But here a simple practical question: whether that's possible to increase the probability of an artificial way?

Girly thoughts aloud

I went to the people (in the Telegram) and wrote her friends, to tell where they are at all familiar with and are looking for non-random connections. The reaction of the girls was ridiculous: from "Well, that's fine also communicated, An, then begin" to "very difficult question. I never normally have not met. " Summed girlfriend, who wrote: "Oh, Anh, normal guy - an endangered species."

Among the most popular answers to the question, where to meet normal manIf very lucky, featured university, work, clubs, garages, sports clubs, friendly parties, bars and cafes. One friend suggested that Romeo can safely watch in any kind of intellectual fashion tusah, although the girl admitted that she "does not work."

Places vs life hacking

To be honest, I myself put under serious doubt the concept of a place to meet. I think it's all because of the unprecedented series of caves with unmarried and promising. So I was wondering, is there a certain life hacking on this subject, not tied to a particular space? Then I asked to share the insights of those who have already found him.

So, what can help to meet a normal guy?

1. Dream to meet him. Disappointed and do not expect anything

It is very important to live with the thought that somewhere in this vast world is bound to have OH with whom you're having fun, comfortable, free and fun as friends. In this case, there is no idealization of the world. We all fall in love is always in the wrong, and many girls are afraid of falling in love is stronger than the guys. In life, perhaps, everything comes when released. I am disappointed in everything and stupidly score, not waiting for anything.

Typically, shoot just the most amazing stories that are not even sure that he will call back after the meeting.

In general, you just need to believe that one day you will meet someone with whom you can be yourself. Those who love your friends. With whom next to breathe easy. And if you have already met, he will not let you go (read: do not let it for anything). With particular emphasis on the fact that it is desirable to cherished meeting around frustrated and do not wait. Just live, and there, staring, and the prince on the horizon.

2. Visualize

If you do not know where are you going, you might end up somewhere else.

The main idea: to find something, you need to clearly know what we are actually looking for. Say, visualization - a real working thing.

So girls, you need a good tune to the right of Zen and to the person with whom you want to be, what you want as a result of it. Imagine all the important qualities of her spouse, but, more importantly, not the reverse, that is, without the particle "no". For example, if you want high-brunet, ask high brunet, rather than "not blonde of medium height, the main thing that is not very low." Show quality, without negativity and denial. And then write it all on a piece of paper and send the message of the Universe, which is definitely not let you down. Yes, probably, it will take some time to search for a Man dreams. But Moscow, you know, was not built.

From important: not to be confused in the testimony, the girls! We ask the same, say it out loud, and then the universe will get confused.

More life hacking: it is sometimes useful to ask friends to introduce you to someone, well, to check the spell. The main thing is not to her friends: it does not work. That guy friends.

3. Do not be afraid to take the first step

It's funny that there are two diametrically opposed opinions on this subject. One friend (married, with a son) has long called on everyone and I score on social convention and said that in fact in her life situation, the first step is done, and no what does not regret. Another friend (not married, no Man) recently concluded that all of its first steps in what good has not resulted.

I have no personal significance record the first steps to judge their success. But I confess that I myself have always been afraid to take the first step. It seemed that if the guy does not do it myself, then perhaps he did not have. Why should I propose that it is not potentially need? My mother always told me: "Never ask for anything, everything will come themselves." So: do not give.

Girls, maybe you're just like me, you live with the philosophy itself proud heron, and normal guys do not even catch up with what they might like us?

4. Register early as Tinder

Do not forget that a lot of guys just suffer the question: where to find a normal girl? And, as my statistics of fellow men, many quite normal dudes logged in Tinder for general fun. But what if you're just the same one with whom not only fun, but also happily ever after?

And here you namechtala, navizualizirovala, I realized that the first step - it's not dumb. Come on, act! Next, to the barricades!

And yes, I would myself did not believe, if the number of stories, "met in Tinder - happy together for 2, 3, x Year" among my own friends did not grow exponentially. Important: Tinder - this is an example of easy ways namutit goodbye. No matter where you find them, it is important that you go to them all.

It asks the question: Could it be something normal of online dating? My answer to the American uncle of my friend Christine, recently wrote on my Facebook wall and instantly liked by my friends:

No comment.

If you do not ask - you do not get

My ex-boss, which I am eternally respect and love, once told me: «Anna, if you do not ask - you do not get». It works with everything in life and work, and relationships. Q: But how it will be perceived? And then I remember not a madman Chatsky that a long time ago wondered, "Who are the judges?". An occasion to reflect? In the end, nobody remembers how it all began, and the facts and fantasies in my head still mixed.

Anya, I read to the end, now I've got everything goes?

My answer: depends on you. Generally, this is the best answer to all life's questions. Do not thank.

Universal secrets of happiness, I think not. Perhaps most importantly, you need to understand myself: all the time. And fortunately too. Needless to come, girls.

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