5 alarms about problems in the relationship

Relations do not deteriorate in an instant. This is a lengthy process of accumulating mutual insults, omissions, voltage. There are alarm bells that signal that in the relationship urgent need to change something. From this material you will learn what you should pay attention and how to solve specific problems in the relationship.

Signal № 1. Due to the permanent employment partners do not spend time together

The problem: not enough attention is paid to relations

One day, when people understand what business they like to do, they are totally immersed in the work. And they can not find time to just be with each other in private. Relationship because of that begin to deteriorate. People who are too immersed in their careers and spend a lot of time alone, forget what it is - to be a couple.

Solution: make time for a loved one

Talk with each other. Engaged in a common cause. Or try to take it a rule every three days set aside everything and devote time to each other, to go to a cafe or a movie, a walk in the park, visit the exhibition. And in general, the work should not take up all your free time, you may need to do time management.

Signal № 2. Constant carping and criticism

Problem: hidden contempt

When paired accumulated unexpressed negative emotions, he (or she) begins to see everything connected with loved ones, in a negative light. If you notice that you start to criticize your partner (or you) in an insignificant occasion - for example, annoys you, he / she chews the food - it means that your negative emotions get out of control.

Solution: figure out what is the root cause of irritation, and focus on this

The main question is whether you can get to the real cause of and understand what your relationship more - what you like, or that do not like. Ask yourself, do you see a couple in a positive or negative light?

Signal № 3. No support, when it is very necessary

Problem: Loss of confidence

The difficulty is that the loss of confidence is not always the result of treachery or betrayal. Often the problem is composed of a large number of minor details. Example: The husband complains about a problem at work, in that his wife replies: "You yourself to blame."

If at the time when you are most vulnerable, you do not get enough support, and such situations are repeated, you will become more difficult to open a soul mate. And to return the lost trust very difficult.

Solution: be aware of what's going on, and learn to talk to each other about it

Unfortunately, in our country, family psychology is not particularly well developed - in such a situation would do well to seek the advice of an impartial third party. For the loss of confidence is not necessarily followed by a break, but to avoid it, both partners must try to save the relationship.

Signal № 4. Partners do not discuss important things and ignore the existence of problems

Problem: poor communication

When partners understand that the relations in something not exactly succeed, they often avoid talking about the issue, and there is nothing good.

If you avoid talking about the problems, negative emotions accumulate, with most of you do not even notice: everything happens on a subconscious level. To pretend that everything is fine - a very tedious task, and as a result this can lead to tragic consequences.

Solution: talk to each other even in the uncomfortable topics

Break the ice and talk about what makes you feel uncomfortable. Share your thoughts about what you would like to change and what are the solutions to problems you see. Decide what you see ideal relations and strive for it.

Signal № 5. deception

The problem: deprived of attention partner

Studies show that the cause of every third parting - deception on the part of one of the partners. Happy people do not lie. This situation - another consequence of the fact that a person in a relationship do not pay enough attention, care. Cheating occurs when the relationship started up to chance and the lovers spend a little time together.

Solution: talk to each other frankly

Anyone who feels the need for attention, to tell about it, and the other partner - to take a step forward, if he feels the strength to change the situation.