How to respond to verbal provocation
Relations / / December 19, 2019
If you were to ask what the hell is inherent "generation zero" would just named one: intemperance in words and assessments. Destructive vocabulary, mat and excessive aggressiveness against even the slightest deviation from your ideas about the world and "correctness" - just the tip of the iceberg. A verbal conflict provoked the web to ban or to make a victim of trolling; in real life - to attract the attention of others to you, expose you to a source of conflict or simply banal to obtain a basis for the use of force to you.
On the Internet and in the offline life you provoke aggression and violent reaction quite often. How not to fall to the level of the one who provokes you?
1. Pause for a moment and appreciate the essence of the dispute
99% pointless provocations in its form, but clearly focused on the fact. The one who provokes you, it is important to achieve the release of your aggression: so he will be able to control you, and direct your behavior and emotions on a channel that you want this person or group of persons. Fear, rage, hatred, misunderstanding, loss of a sober assessment of the situation - that is necessary for people who provoke you in chat or in the personal verbal communication. Do not give them a reason to turn the tide in the direction that suits them. If the essence of the dispute lies in the banal "Heitinga for fun" - can not hope to find in such a provocation rational.
2. Always continue to communicate politely and quietly
It is seen from personal experience that the transition to the higher tone only wind the interlocutor. But communication with measured, confident and unhurried tone conversely makes "high-handed" and slow down the rhetoric.
3. Do not insult the interlocutor, even if it offends you
It is especially important when dealing with those who are ex-officio and physical strength is superior to you. For police officers' response rudeness "- an excellent opportunity to write out a fine, you shut for 15 days for" disobeying "or apply special means to you. For the crowd of street punks - a reason to not just take away your wallet, but also strong and brutally beaten. There are situations in which the self-preservation instinct is to prevail over the desire to achieve justice in the world. In addition, the dispute in the language of the illiterate / ill-mannered person - this is a sure step "to step down" and not a way to prove their superiority and conquer the opponent.
4. Do not argue about politics with strangers / strangers
Disputes about politics - generally a thankless. The dispute is with complete strangers or casual companions / companions at the club threatens to escalate into a fight, or be a cause for deliberate provocation from the various "people in uniform" (in some countries and the near and far abroad on a par with last accusation "Dissent" and "propagation of false values," even happen much more likely and faster than the usual desire to wave their fists in the direction political "opponent").
5. Do not say / do not write that will not be able to do
Internet has accustomed us to the relative impunity: hiding behind avatars, nicknames and properly configuring privacy their profiles in social networks and online services, we now and then does not resist the temptation to become personal with complete strangers, teach them life, the brains - and some, especially the "talented", manage to even threaten physical violence interlocutors in random comments. Remember that this "impunity" - relative.
6. Any begun business / phrase bring to its logical conclusion
The threat of a court or of an insult for the unreasonable demands and valid claims - for all this must be held responsible. Okay, when such liability incurred by someone else. Worse, if this role is inadvertently find yourself yourself. So do not tell, do not ask and do not promise to do anything that is not really going. Even on the Internet. And it's not that the screenshots do not burn.
7. Health is always more expensive
And in a particularly complex and "running" cases of verbal provocation, when in front of you - not just internet troll or street bully, and people with clearly inadequate manners and ideas, I recommend not to forget a simple rule: Better seem a coward for a mentally ill person, or geek, than to suffer or even lose their lives because of the ridiculous desire to "prove" anything to people who are at odds with the head and the objective reality.