8 rules that can not be broken on the first date

The first date is a bit like a university entrance exam or a job interview. Of course, we are not talking about the main event in your life - all the fun is just beginning. Nevertheless, the successful first date - a sort of badge that gives the right to continue the game and get to the next level. To make a good impression, try to follow a few simple rules.

Rule №1. It is not necessary to get drunk to the loss of pulse

Moderate amounts of alcohol - a great primer for any peace talk. The key word in this sentence - in moderation.

Of course, in life there is a place different stories. Sometimes successful joint buster on the first date becomes the key to a happy and strong relations for years to come. However, this development - rather exception to the rule.

The reality is that if your companion (or satellite) had too much on the first date, and behaves as cheeky monster, you would not want to find a better companion, even if the person in front of you a large and dazzling soul. Inner beauty, you can simply do not have time (and then do not want) to see behind the veil of drunken revelations that seem to be relevant only to the speaker. In fact, they are ordinary drunken delirium.

Rule №2. Do not be rude to the taxi driver and did not flirt with a waitress

On the first date leads us often desire to please his companion. As a rule, in a society of who we nice, we behave a little differently than usual. We hope to make a good impression and gain approval.

But that first meeting did not last enough to comply with the basic rules of politeness is only in relation to his companion. Often a conclusion on what you actually can do in communication with others - waiters, cloakroom attendants, vendors, taxi drivers and other people who were close to this point.

Even if in relation to his companion you behave like a London dandy, any rudeness toward staff could be seen as a litmus test, indicating your natural bad manners. The same applies to girls. Even if you are languid beauty with a smile of the Cheshire cat, it is not an excuse and not a reason to be rude cloakroom.

Another notoriously bad strategy to date - to flirt with other people. Believe that your companion (companion) expects to provide tokens you him (her), and not a man at the next table and the waitress taking an order.

Rule №3. Do not talk only about yourself - ask questions

Date means not a monologue, but a dialogue. Any conversation presupposes feedback. If your interlocutor speaks only of himself, he does not ask any questions, and has already managed to present to you my detailed biography describing childhood diseases, adults allergies and deficiencies best friend - perhaps this says about his obsession with himself (or banal self-interest), and more about the complete lack of interest in your person.

A date for such a satellite, as well as any meeting, - the ability to find free ears. Decide what suits you and what does not - only you. But I would not want to waste my time wasted on someone who just wants to be listened to.

root of the problem may lie in a total mismatch temperaments in elementary or lack of interest in front of the person.

Rule №4. Do not bring the conversation to the former

Rich past - a good source of topics for conversation on a first date, if you do not come on a slippery path discuss former affections. The theme of former general delicate, and many couples have not come to a consensus about whether to discuss their past relationship.

If this issue is still possible to debate, then start talking about your ex on a first date - mauvais ton. In the long term, this tactic quite a failure.

If you speak disrespectfully to their former, the interlocutor may be several reasonable question: "Why did you do with him were, if everything is so bad?". In addition, the description of the tragic painful break hardly do without the flood of negative emotions, that on the first date do not need you or your companion.

Rule №5. Do not come on a first date in the company of a friend or a friend

It would seem obvious: if you are invited to a meeting, it is understood that you will come one or another. Nevertheless, half of my interlocutors admitted that their lives have been cases where the kind of girl come on a date not one, but with a friend, and welcome young people came to the meeting in the company a few friends.

Life - an interesting thing. Perhaps your destiny - just not the one who asked you out on a date after the fleeting love, and his friend, suddenly found this evening in the same bar. But if you are invited to dateIt is expected that the meeting will come just you. So if you want to continue the party, and to be invited to a second meeting, you may want to keep an army of friends to hang out without you.

Rule №6. Do not spend all meeting buried in the phone

We live in a changing world of gadgets, where smartphones defeated our attention completely occupied consciousness. But the romance first date suggest that you give up this incessant need and not to be missed for the phone at the slightest hint of vibration.

Imagine that you are invited to interview the girl, and she was fascinated only by the fact that checks chats in instant messengers, puts Huskies in Instagram and reading other people's statuses on Facebook. Not very nice, is not it? All this, as well as any urgent matters can wait a couple of hours, when at stake is your personal life. At the meeting have their limitations, and if you decide to go to the big sports, then play by the rules.

Rule №7. Do not behave like a freak

Recently a friend of mine in paint telling me about a memorable encounter with a cute girl who is on the first date has proved to be a bit of a strange hand.

The bar girl constantly ordered shots of tequila and soak obscene jokes. Then she started to unbutton his shirt and the guy said that in general, is ready to go "fun."

Surprisingly, the guy was not ready for such rapid developments. He ordered a taxi to go from the bar, as the girl was almost under him in public. In the taxi lady in every way showed that it is ready for everything, and now, but for some reason my friend politely to her He refused.

Girl scared angry, began to insult him, struck on the cheek. As soon as the taxi stopped at his house, she went out with a guy and proudly stated that just does not give up and will not go away.

Maybe for someone this girl's head - a real dream, however experience has shown that not all guys want such a development on the first date. Consent of the parties can only be reached by mutual consent.

Rule №8. Do not talk too much and do not beg for gifts

Do not take a first date as the last chance to speak and be heard. It is not necessary to fill up the interlocutor their problems and complex storylines of the lives of your friends and relatives.

Interesting conversation implies a fascinating stories, but do not put your interlocutor in a situation where after the first date, he knows about you too much.

Another important point - it is not necessary to demonstrate their consumer entity soliciting gifts and ordering in a restaurant all the most expensive.

First date - not the last chance to break away, not an attraction of gifts and not a demonstration of available benefits. This is just an opportunity to meet and get to know each other. A man who feels that he saw in it a cash cow, run away faster than you can think about the second date.

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It would seem that we have listed quite banal and obvious wisdom. However, not all the rules surrounding know, and if they do, they do not always comply. And in vain!