What you can not talk to a man
Relations / / December 19, 2019
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Women love to talk. Especially men. But, if it is absolutely honest, sometimes to this wonderful lesson, us girls, it is better to stop. How do you know when the beautiful ladies better to just smile and say nothing? What topics are better and do not affect in a conversation with the opposite sex? That's what I decided to talk to men. Below - some thoughts about their everyday concerns.
Beautiful ladies, follow a few simple rules and you will have all chances to become the ideal companion.
Rule number 1. Former - this is not a topic for discussion
Cute girl just take that for your family well-being will be much better if the subject of the former and so will remain undisclosed. And please, let's not intimate details.
If you speak disrespectfully about her ex, then this man may have more than one reasonable question: "Why are you even met him, if he was so bad? Me too, so you're saying if we leave "Or even worse:" What if the former proved to be right, that left you? "
If we begin to sing the praises of the ex-boyfriend, it can cause a suspicion that you are still thinking about it. Remember how you feel when your boyfriend again mentions his ex-girlfriend. Remember the old refrain: of the dead, or good, or nothing? So, we introduce into circulation a new truth about the former better than nothing at all.
Rule number 2. Do not get smart, especially if you do not understand the topic
Not to behave arrogantly and perk up in dealing with men. Generally you should not consider ourselves better or more interesting to others, regardless of their sex. Especially comical looks, when she really in something does not understand, but arguing about it with the foam at the mouth and with a view of Anatoly Wasserman. Obviously a failing strategy.
More young people do not really like it when a girl is strongly trying to talk to them about a topic in which the man himself is not very strong. Especially when the man made it clear that it is not necessary to discuss it further, but she does not stop and presses. Young people should feel good fellow and a girl, without even really realizing it, can sometimes put the boyfriend in an awkward position.
By the way, the question of the awkward position: do not ask a man how much he earns. Especially if a woman earns more and strongly want to emphasize this. This extra knowledge will not help anyone, you once again for this is not praise, it just will make mischief in your already fragile relationship. Attention to the question: why do you need the extra problems?
Rule number 3. No need to talk enthusiastically about the other men in the presence of his
No cheering others, not yours, men and their talent is natural, but do not need to do it demonstratively in communion with his. In another admiring compliment your man will immediately see the catch, even if it is, in general, and not, as you speak positively about successful comrade age of your grandfather.
It is not necessary with the puppy dog enthusiasm and a touch of worldly regret to tell how well done the husband of your friend. The young man immediately feel that you admire someone bigger than them, and may even think that you have it with someone compare not in his favor. Nobody likes comparisons. Such an alignment is contrary to the understanding of your partner's world, where it is the sun, and you Earth revolves around him.
Rule number 4. His family - his castle
In no case does not respond negatively about friends and loved ones of your men, especially his mother. Even if it is objectively terrible sense of tact, style and tasteless soup. Do not tell your man that all his friends are programmers - terrible boring. Please leave your opinions to yourself. We lived once before, and without you here, too, will cope without you.
Extremely delicately need to comment on the appearance of your partner, especially if you feel that you need to make some adjustments. Remember how badly you perceive criticism. And a separate item - hobby your companion. If your guy in his spare time likes to solder or artistic jigsaw to cut, it is not necessary to say that his hobby is useless. Believe me, he did know. Man besite not in vain.
Rule number 5. Do not talk hints
My favorite place since I myself often this sin. I like undertones and always considered them to use their strengths. Disappoint: the men do not understand the hint and did not catch the midtones. Moreover, young people nervous about the lack of logic and expediency in the conversation. Ask specific questions, rather than endlessly alludes to the fact that it would be nice if the moon was in conjunction with retrograde Saturn in the night.
Often the girls want to be a mystery, and so succeed in this, that they do no one ever guesses. I wanted to tell the girl that she had in mind - a mystery. It also needs to talk about what you want, not on what you do not want to. Build your speech at the creation, rather than on the negative. Peace for everyone.
Rule number 6. Set aside the details
You do not need to tell the guy, how often do you go to hair removal, Botox injections do, or consult a cosmetologist. let's leave health issues and care for the very private conversations. The less you know the better you sleep.
And please, remember the rule: less unnecessary information. Do not torture your man with unnecessary details. Leave the stories of a long way to marry your cousin's aunt for her friends and does not overwhelm the hapless boyfriend stories institute wandering uncle's best friend. Gossip, hours of stories about the fate of friends and distant relatives - this is not what he wants to listen to your man. He is interested in his woman, not hundreds of thousands of friends in her neighborhood. Take as an axiom.
Rule number 7. Public humiliation - it is bad
Men do not like to laugh at them or make fun of a girl in a public space. In general, under any circumstances. Men like women who are on the people of their kings, but not henpecked husbands without their own opinion.
Men - very fragile and vulnerable beings. They need to treat very carefully, before you piece goods. Omniscience, sarcastic, dismissive attitude towards others crossed the dignity of any lady looks. Even if it is very witty jokes, and, as they say, on the topic of the day. From this all the girls run away and it will just enjoy the fellowship with you.
Rule number 8. Silence is gold
Winston ChurchillDiplomat - a person who will think twice before you say anything.
Always remember this. Smile.