As the extrovert and the introvert get along

What is the problem

If ice and flame is not so different from each other as you are with your loved one, you might just belong to different psychological types. At the beginning of the relationship extrovert and introvert usually fascinated by each other. Their otherness rather common. But over time, because of this, there are difficulties in love and wonder how they are generally compatible:

• You want to stay at home together, and your spouse - to go to the crowded party. "Is it enough myself?".
• He believes that the need to discuss everything thoroughly, but you need time to think about the situation on their own. "He did give me breathe freely?".
• Are you in pain, when she said that she needed time to herself. "She was not telling?".

The easiest way to take the problems of misunderstanding on your account, or hang on the half label rights, which hard to communicate. However, this strategy is destructive to your relationship. That communication has become more open and fruitful, and love began to play with new colors, try to understand your partner.

How to cope with it

Learn how your partner used to recuperate

introverts derive energy from an conducting alone with time. Communication with other people saps their strength. This does not mean that introverts do not like to be in the company of other people, or they are shy. Just sometimes your efforts to hold an introvert with more time to deprive him of the last energy.

Extroverts get their energy by spending time with other people. When alone, they lose it. This does not mean that the extroverts in general can not be one or the company of others to them like a drug. Just chat gives them new powers.

See what your introverted friend immersed in reading? Give her the opportunity to enjoy the process. This is one of the lessons that bring introverts great pleasure.

Respect to the way your spouse restores energy, and you will notice a dramatic change in her mood and decrease stress in your relationships.

Choose one's occasion

You need to discuss something important? Pick the right moment, not in terms of your mood and the mood of your partner and psycho. Be particularly careful to do it, if you will bad news or discuss any sensitive issues.

If your spouse - an extrovert, then you need to discuss a lot of time. You can not just throw a couple of words on the go and continue to go about their business, putting himself on the conversation later. Extrovert wants to discuss everything properly and immediately. He will not give you extra time to think. Therefore, think about everything beforehand.

If your partner - an introvert, then he would need time to digest what you say. Therefore, you can use the opposite strategy: pre-enter a person in the course of the case, and later discuss with all the details.

Do not look for a problem in itself

If he goes into the garage, where you want to spend time together, it's not you. If she wants to talk, but you do not find in themselves no strength and desire to talk, the problem is also not in you. Just remember that once and for all.

Once you understand, you will cease to carry on partner aggression. Just let your spouse be recharged as it used to do it, then to enjoy a full communion.

Be willing to compromise

You can not demand from the partner, so that he is constantly under you was tuned. If you are an introvert, you can not bring a loved one to plan ahead for every conversation with you. If you're an extrovert, you should not try that in whatever was to pull out his half of its "shell." You do not work, deal with it.

Hard constantly to make concessions. Try to do it one by one.

For example, on Saturday extroverted introvert gives the opportunity to be alone with him, in order to accumulate enough energy for on Sundays. And on Sunday, the introvert will be at the festival an hour longer, so that it could more than half enjoy socializing with other people.

Appreciate the strengths of your partner

Remember: the impact of your second half makes you better. You enrich the personality.

If you are an introvert, I think, would have brought you so many wonderful Me, if your favorite is not an extrovert pulled you out of the house? Probably due to the partner you have made new friends. You may also pumped their communication skills and now less shy of others. A determination, openness, spontaneity and charm extroverts themselves can not but admire.

An extrovert can also assess the perseverance and tenacity of his partner, a deep and unusual perspective on complex situations. The soul is an introvert - a house with many doors. Opening each of them, you will be surprised and take a new look at this, it would seem, someone you know.

Do not try to convert each other. Your differences - it is an advantage that you can use to develop your relationship.

Yes, sometimes it will be difficult to achieve mutual understanding, but it definitely will not be bored with each other.

And your significant other also belongs to another psycho? Share life hacking, which you use to communicate with your loved one.