How to feel confident in any event

A large part of the people - the Introverts, for whom communication is psychologically painful procedure. They experience discomfort from multiple views, the need to speak out publicly, requires them to "informal" behavior.

Others, however, easily tell jokes, natural smile, radiate confidence.

"I am not born with charm", "What do I do?" - Admit you're familiar with this way of thinking? Unconditional willingness to accept a loser? Thereby abdicate all responsibility and all the heavy burden of the risk and the possibility of failure.

Courtesy, etiquette, morality - these things paint very well how to behave at a public event the average person. They pave his path, on which he gladly run through the gray, no one had seen a mouse. But in the run time, it will be eagerly looking around at the surrounding supermen charisma and charm, to which he, unfortunately, was not destined to join.

Courtesy, etiquette, morality - these are the things that you should remember if you want to prove themselves.

The first and the only thing that matters - it is confidence.

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No, we do not want to say that you should spit in the face of public opinion, to climb naked on the bar, sing a song and crack disgruntled bartender on the head with a bottle of whiskey. Simply, these concepts should not be restraining barriers, makes you doubt your actions and vacillate.

They make you to be afraid of failure, because of what and there is a feeling of uncertainty. People often are afraid to cross the threshold of what is permitted, and therefore can not be solved no matter what. Believe me, these boundaries exist only in your head.

Self-confidence is very important at events. This is the magical cloak that makes a person a superman. It works wonders and is almost entirely responsible for the formation of such concepts as "personal style", "image" and "charisma».

But confidence - this is not something that can be developed overnight. To create the inner core, it takes time. However, most people do not take any steps to achieve this long-term goal. Why? Because one is sure that his character was given to him by nature, and it can not be changed. However, many psychologists sayYour Personality Can Change (and Probably Should). That a person's character changes throughout life.

Where to start

1. Play a successful person. Imagine that you are an actor, and your role - confident person. You just have to start behaving as if you have no doubt in their actions.

Feel confident and perfectly imitate it - two of the same things in the eyes of outside observers.

As for you, then start playing the role of a decisive person, you will gradually begin to feel and behave accordingly. Of course, it turns out to be not at once, but with practice and skill will come.

Do not be afraid of what your role can become a comedy - is also commendable.

2. Always to establish eye contact. Even with people you do not know. Do not walk with his head down, look people straight in the eye, do not hesitate to it. Eye contact unconsciously or creates a sense of intimacy, or a sense of competition. In any case, this technique - the easiest way to stand out, not saying a word.

3. Constantly communicate. Even if you do not know anyone. Forget about her smartphone - a lifesaver shy people (better leave it at home). Take yourself by the scruff, drag to the first comer, put a smile on your face and a cheerful start to the conversation. Then start up the conversation itself. And if it does not, just walk up to another person.

4. Do not be afraid to make a mistake. "And if I do something wrong to say?", "If I fail poshuchu?", "If I do not understand?" - forget about these thoughts. Even if you do something wrong, the real impact will be far less terrible than you imagine. Attitude to what is happening as a test. Over time, you will feel that you require less and less effort. In your actions will be the very natural, you've always dreamed of.

5. Smile and have fun. At the meetings, there are people that are the gravitational centers of communication. Around them constantly crowded with enthusiastic interlocutors, they themselves laugh and have fun talking about everything. Do you know what distinguishes them? Skill enjoy from happening. This is - your main task and the final goal.

Once you can play the role of a confident person, you become confident. When you become confident, you will calm down and will no longer be afraid of mistakes. And then on your face will be a genuine smile, and you will shine around the aura of friendliness and sociability.

Take care of the appearance

You have to look good. But remember: the visual sense of preparing yourself for the meeting is not to please others. All this is necessary to improve self-esteem and maintain the necessary determination.

attire should match the type of event that you are visiting. But that's not all: Choose clothing that is in trend. Even if you ignored all his life fashion, try to wear something atypical for himself. Clothing, which you would never have dared. It should not be too bright, but should allocate you from the crowd.

You will immediately notice the psychological effect: light uncertainty soon be replaced by self-gratification through rushes toward you interested views.

Shower, deodorant, decent clothes - these things are meant by default. However, there are some nuances that are very important to consider. Perhaps they will seem obvious, but a huge number of people forget about these little things.

Advice for Men

1. Make a decent haircut.

2. Get rid of the unibrow.

3. Do not forget about your hair in the nose.

4. Tidy beard and mustache, if you have them.

5. Trim the nails.

Tips for Women

1. It is not necessary to go to a party without braAs flashes of light can make the tissue transparent.

2. If you do not know what to wear, remember that skinny jeans paired with a nice blouse - always a good option.

3. Never wear clothes that you feel uncomfortable.

4. Do not forget that the line between "sexy" and "vulgar" is very thin.

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Whatever memorable you go left about yourself, you can completely put on him the cross, just not leaving the party. If you are at a party, never leave the last, but do not rush to take leave.

Try to read the signs of fatigue in the eyes and gestures hosts. If you realize that they do not finish off the meeting, your public statement of resignation and will urge others to follow your example. The hosts will be only grateful.

Regardless of whether the event is formal or friendly, before leaving be sure to talk with the owners or organizers. Even if the latter are busy entertaining other guests, politely intervene, thank them and say goodbye.

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«Introvert"," Social phobia "," misanthrope "- all these labels that exist only in people's minds. It is not necessary to limit yourself artificially created concepts. There is nothing and no one more unpredictable, absurd and capable of change than a man. The main thing - to constantly expand our comfort zone. Over time, you will succeed.