7 sure way to please a guy
Relations Educational Program / / December 19, 2019
Joseph Fanelli (Joseph Fanelli)
Psychotherapist, lecturer, specializing in matters of sexuality and relationships.
1. Speak, not to mention
Even before you start up a conversation with a guy, your body will tell him a lot. And the first thing he said - as you are physically attractive.
It's not only in the beauty. If you are tight and well built, so they are able to give birth to healthy offspring.
Another important aspect - if you show an interest. Hung around his neck, of course, do not need to, but subtly hint that the man has a chance, it is very desirable.
This is proved by the two tricks. First, blink more often, because we naturally begin to do so when excited. Second, a little lean in the direction of the interlocutor: it is also a non-verbal signal of interest.
2. Be like him
We like the people with whom we have much in common. Therefore, your task - to find common ground with the pleasant man. For example, you could pass on the love of music, or if the common interests of a few, try to feel the fact that he likes.
At the beginning discover the easiest way to show the similarities - use chameleon effect.
Try to take the same position as that of a man, imitate his movements and gestures, use words and phrases that he includes in his speech.
Be accurate and synchronous copy is not: it is too obvious. Try to anticipate the movement of the person or in general to repeat them after a few seconds.
3. Keep in mind
The more often we see a man, the more we like it. This is confirmed by science. In one study,Proximity and Peership: Bases of Balance in Interpersonal Attraction student dormitory residents were asked to assess their attitudes towards their neighbors. It was found that boys and girls liked more by those who lived near: in the next room or the next floor.
In real life this means that if you are a guy and visit the same place (university courses, gym), then you have more chances of his sympathy.
If you We met by chance, Say they would like to continue the dialogue. Just do not chase a man: it is rather scare away than attract.
4. Share a secret
StudyPersonalistic Self-Disclosure and Attraction: Basis for Relationship or Scarce ResourcePublished by the American Sociological Association, argues that the revelations signal of confidence and willingness to enter into relations. If one is not talking about himself, then it translates the opposite.
Hence the conclusion: in order to establish with whom a connection, you need to be disclosed.
This should be done gradually. First, share the information surface: where you grew up in a family, what kind of music I enjoy listening to. Then move on to more personal topics: what are its goals are, what influenced your becoming. Just be careful and do not tell the whole story of life at the first meeting.
5. Make him worry
It is knownSome Evidence for Heightened Sexual Attraction under Conditions of High AnxietyThat in situations involving the release of adrenaline, the surrounding are becoming more attractive. This does not mean that you need to drag a guy on a roller coaster. But to make it a little worried it will be useful. Alternatively, try to compete by playing sports or a board game, or watch together creepy thriller.
6. Make it a fan of hugs
During hugs the body oxytocin is released, which increases the feeling of intimacy. So cuddle with a guy you are interested in at the meeting and parting, at the time of joyful moments and just.
7. Find what makes you happy
In the end, it all comes down to the fact that interesting people are interested to be together. So do not waste time to lure someone into your network, and look for case, which will cause you to burn. Happiness and enthusiasm in themselves attractive. Be the one who emits them.