3 reasons why you are still alone

If you suffer from the fact that just can not build a successful relationship, you may want to change something in their view of the world.

1. You do not respect yourself

The extent to which the surrounding respect you and admire you, in proportion to how much you respect yourself. If you take care of yourself mentally, emotionally and physically, other people will also endeavor to take care of you.

If you do not believe me, try at least a month to care for themselves. Exercise and eat healthy food. Many sleep. Hard work and pre-plan their lives. Communicate with people for fun, not for their own benefit. Give up bad habits. To speak openly about their thoughts and do not expect anything in return. Share with others just like that. Do not take rejections and criticisms to heart.

It's difficult. But if you want to build a relationship with an emotionally mature person, you yourself first have to become such a person.

2. You have unrealistic expectations

Some people can not build a relationship, because waiting for something from a partner, but are not willing to offer anything in return. As an example, imagine an unemployed balding man who spend days lying on the couch watching TV and while complaining that all the women who love him, not in a position to assess his mental qualities, and therefore reject his.

Other people are willing to contribute to the relationship, but also want to partner fully in line with their needs and absolutely justified all expectations. An example is the well-groomed young educated woman, which periodically starts a relationship, but parted ways with all partners. With one - because they have different musical tastes, with another - because he defended his PhD in philology, and it is impractical. And so on.

Understand that each of us has flaws. And those with whom we meet, too. This is normal.

Do not try to find a man without flaws. Look for one whose flaws are comparable to your own.

Learn to accept other people's negative sides and fight with their imperfections.

3. You do not know how to build a close relationship

There are people who at first sight are good in everything - smart, interesting, educated, beautiful, talented, successful, active - but still alone. They occasionally go out on dates and even meet with someone, but did not manage to build a long term relationship. In such cases, the solution often lies in the fact that they do not understand what is intimacy.

For a happy relationship requires a deep emotional connection between partners.

It is not enough simply interesting to spend time together, you must also be able to open up and feel the other person.

If your problem is the case, try to reconsider their view of the relationship. This is not just another line on your to-do list or summary. The relationship can not be measured objectively, eg in an amount of interest dialogues or conducted along time.

Learn to accept and understand their own deep experiences, because without it you will never reach the level of emotional intimacy with a partner, necessary for a successful relationship.