How to be a good friend for a man in depression

If you yourself have never suffered from depression, you probably do not understand all the fuss about this disease. Why suddenly all appeared depressed?

But, believe me, it is impossible to fully present this condition. Depression - it's like an unwanted guest who fell like snow on its head and is not going to leave. It robs you of power and creates chaos. Depression does not care that you have a job. She did not care that the sink had accumulated a mountain of dishes and garbage is high time to throw. She greedily absorb all your time and all the power. In general, not the most pleasant time.

So let's talk about what you can do if the loved one is suffering from depression.

1. Helping business

People in depression need all the same as the rest. Food, water, a million dollars in small denominations - all as in all. But it is difficult to get these helpful things when it seems as if his head stuffed with cotton wool.

Yes, empathy and solidarity - it's wonderful, like the flowers and touching little notes. But sometimes the best thing we can do for the other person - to come to him, throw things to the laundry, bring meals and tidy up a bit.

2. be patient

People do not know is depressed, how long will this state, and irritation on the part of friends only aggravates the situation. So take it easy. Sooner or later, the depression will pass.

Believe me, your friend is much more difficult than you can imagine. Try not to rush it and do not ask what's going on in his head. Just look him in the eye and say, "You're a strong person. I am here, and I'll help you get through it. Soon you will feel better. "

3. Do not carry rubbish

The most idiotic things that you can only say:

• You need to eat a healthy diet and doing physical exercises.
• Why are you sad?

If your friend is acting strange, and you can not understand why, think about the all-knowing Google. In the web you will find detailed signs explanationAlthough it would be better to consult a doctor.

Do not bother your friend with questions about what he feels. Do not force it to convince you that depression - a real and serious disease, which is not a bit like a small inflow of sadness. He does not have time for this. Now he is busy only his illness.

Depression treatment only delayed because of the condescending attitude on the part of others. In such a situation it is impossible to feel comfortable.

Therefore, depression is so necessary to the friend said, "Do not have anything to hide. This is a real disease, but you can not blame her. Maybe you want a piece of apple pie? Here you go. Very tiny piece. Very tiny, right? You see, a lot better now. "

4. Do not forget about yourself

Do not become a hostage to the emotional state of another person. So no one will be easier. Do only what you can do. And nothing more. Do not lose their strength, trying to make sure that they were your friend.

Your well-being is also important. And if you become a nanny for a friend is depressed, it is only exhausted themselves.

At times, people in depression simply can not be a good friend, which, of course, can upset you. Then take a break. Understand that if you take care of business, it does not mean that you are throwing your friend. He'll still loves. Just now, it is too hard to put it into words.

Do not react to his attacks. Unacceptable behavior can not forgive a man just because he has depression. You do not deserve abuse, so do not be afraid to say directly if he goes abroad. Even if not immediately, then at least when the peak of the depression left behind.

5. Help stick to good habits and proper daily routine

Breakfast you need every day. Walk in the evening is also a great idea. Green tea can help. Everybody needs water. The medicine should be taken as written in the instructions. It seems that this simple and obvious things, but they become extremely important when one is fixated on depression and did not notice anything around.

Man in depression need help is with such small things, because they seem to him quite undeserving of attention.

Suit and polite reminders and scored Cupsaw messages like "So what, you drink WATER TODAY? And look at the photo of the French Bulldog who eats donuts. So cute". Such gestures can work wonders and help your friend get back to normal life.

When the fog clears and people will be able to look at your life, will not be seen to plunge it in horror because of how it all started. And if suddenly you yourself will find yourself in trouble, you can be assured: your friend will never forget your support and will respond in kind.