10 Easy Setup, which will help to become a good parent

1. Stay close

One of the most important truths - you can not be near the baby, thoughts staying elsewhere.

You can not play with the children in the dinosaurs and at the same time to think about business. This does not work.

You must be completely with your child. Adopt the philosophy of "no matter where I was, you're next to me."

2. Engage in joint creativity

With creativity a child learns the world, experiencing different emotions and learns to cope with fears. And also develops the imagination, creativity and sense of beauty. Try to do something together: sculpt, draw, cut out the shape, take pictures. Creativity - is all that is filled with beauty, inspiration and imagination.

3. Take care about the priority

That children have learned to appreciate different view and empathy, they must constantly hear from you, how important concern. And also understand that the world does not revolve only around them. Teach them to turn off the television and help around the house, to be polite, even if they are in a bad mood and not interrupt people during the conversation.

4. Love without reservations

Often, in order to teach the child a lesson, the parents deprived of his love: a bad score for the show their dislike for the broken phone left without sweets. Thus they show that love must be earned. First, the child should get out of the apartment to bring the diary with five, eat all the vegetables, but only then it can be a hug or praise. It is not right.

The stronger due to the support provided to the child, the lower the idea of ​​self-worth as a person.

Children receiving love with reservations turn into adults who underestimate themselves and constantly criticized. But lucky earned the absolute acceptance, grow more harmonious and confident personalities.

5. Do not forget about intelligence

Authors of books on education Daniel Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson writes: "During the development of the child brain mirrors what happens in the brain of the parents." That is, when you're refreshing your knowledge and learn to manage emotions, your children too are reaping the rewards. This means that the improvement of intelligence - one of the greatest and most generous gifts that you can make to your child.

6. Read and discuss books

Reading - an important stage in the development of children. Instill a love of literature will help the personal example. If your child sees you constantly with the book, he eventually also want to check out. But one example is not enough. Read books together and discuss the reading. So you can help your child develop speech and imagination, awaken in him a thirst for knowledge, to learn to think.

7. empathize with the child

Children learn empathy by watching adult relationships. Therefore, it is important to show an example of the correct relationship to each other. Be attentive to the children, the interests of their businesses and well-being: so you'll be closer to them, create an atmosphere of trust, of security and build up the desire to give the world good.

8. Expand the circle of care

Empathy requires practice - in the family and outside it. It is important to first teach a child to take care of loved people, and then - to empathize and help people unfamiliar. Show that you need to be attentive to those who are different from us, who are defenseless and weak. Let your child simple tips on how to act to comfort and support of others.

9. Hug more often children

Touching and hugging - this is not just nice. When we hug someone, oxytocin is released (it is called "hormone embrace"), and we feel a rush of love and tenderness. At Emory University even found a connection between touch and decrease stress.

If you embrace the children more often, they cope better with difficulties in adulthood. A toddler who deprive touches may be delayed in development: later start to talk and read.

10. Remember, perfection does not exist

Most parents want to always do everything right and reproach yourself for every mistake. Yes, to be an example - a lofty goal. But parents should show their children learn to overcome imperfection and difficulties of life.

If you reproach yourself for any mistakes, I just remember the words of Professor Brene Brown: "It is the ability to recognize their imperfections helps to inculcate in children the courage to be true compassion for yourself and others, and unity, which gives a person the true purpose and meaning life. "

Article is based on the books "Magic in the morning for the whole family», «Parenting heart», «hormones of happiness».

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