How to deal with a sociopath
Relations / / December 19, 2019
Who is a sociopath
Sociopath - a person suffering from antisocial personality disorder. Such people do not have enough empathy, the ability to understand the experiences of others and emotionally react to events. Therefore sociopath does not accept social norms and rules, constantly violates them and does not take other people's feelings.
Due to the high intelligence and disregard for the rules of sociopaths make the best criminals. And while most are not engaged in anything illegal, sociopaths - potential manipulators, ready to use people for their own purposes.
Layfhaker already told in detail, how to get to the core of a sociopath. It should be wary if the person:
- at the beginning of communication it was charming, but gradually begins to dictate to you;
- lot and often lying, no problem writing stories on the go;
- lives without friends, family, does not tell about the past, but is surrounded by admirers;
- prone to sudden outbursts of anger and aggression;
- He tries to isolate you from society;
- narcissistic to greatness mania;
- He likes to manipulate others to achieve their goals;
- able to keep icy calm in stressful situations.
How to communicate with him
Better, of course, does not communicate. If you understand that before you a sociopath who's going with your help to achieve the desired, then the best time to give up the communication, than to suffer.
Easy to say but hard to do, especially at work, among friends or family.
Rate risk
If you are suggestible person, easily amenable to a stranger influence, or you lack confidence, try to keep communication to a minimum. The more you have weaknesses, the better you manage. It is these people are victims of manipulation.
This does not mean that you need a sociopath pointedly avoided. Just try to keep less common cases.
Think of yourself
Sociopaths as victims of non-self-chosen people who are inclined to obey instructions. The best way to protect against a sociopath - confidence and independence, its position and the ability to think. The more self-sufficient people, the harder it is to control, so these sociopaths do not like.
To understand who you are and what you strive for, it may take years. Learn new and communicate with different people and listen to another's point of view, but do not take it at once. This will help to develop independent thinking.
Learn self-confidence. It is difficult, but necessary.
Call smb.'S bluff
That is, do not feed the troll. If you do not lead to manipulation, and then drive you interested - sociopath quickly bored. Stay calm in communication, do not go to conflict.
Do not tell the person that he is a sociopath
So you have it, or angry, or provoke. And it may well be that sociopathic their behavior is not aware of. Do not show that saw through it. Remain courteous communication.
Do not succumb to his charm
Sociopath knows how to charm and knows how to present yourself favorably. But this is not a reason to forget about who is in front of you. Remember that the flow of compliments lies some kind of trick.
Seriously, do not be. Sociopath can veer stories to evoke sympathy and compassion, can prove to be important. It is normal for him, but if you believe and lead, you risk becoming a victim of manipulation in the future. Yes, it's not very good, yet a person is not guilty of sociopathy and mental disorder. But you something out of it will not be easier, right?
Finish a difficult relationship
If you recognize the manipulator in its partner and its behavior is poisoning your life, try as much as possible to end the relationship quickly. The more you pull, the more difficult to get rid of a sociopath. While feelings may be strong relationship with a sociopath is often life miserable. Take a closer look: maybe it's just your case.
Just do not confuse sociopathy and indifference.
I would like to hang a label on someone who hurt you or behaved selfishly? Perhaps this behavior there are reasons why a person has committed a mistake and repents. Sociopath not mistaken, he is going through and will do so again - when he was needed.
Independently complete relationship with a sociopath is not easy if you have already fallen under his influence. Enlist the support of friends and relatives. Prepare to be that the sociopath does not accept failure and will be ready for the reckless actions of your attention.
warn other
It is not necessary on every street corner screaming that you have calculated a sociopath, but general family and friends sometimes should warn, especially if you see that someone has fallen under the influence of the manipulator. Help the victim to understand the situation. Of course, you do not need to drive away a sociopath with a gun, but does let the situation to chance is not worth it.
Do not be afraid
After all that has been said and written about sociopaths, it's hard not to hit the paranoia and start to suspect all around. But do not write in this category of people with a nasty character. And do not think that every sociopath you use and destroy.
As already mentioned, have a high intellect of a sociopath, so many people understand that their reactions and behavior unusual. And not all go to the dark side: many even ask, what if found signs of a dissocial disorders.
With a sociopath can communicate, work and live, especially if self-esteem is normal.
And do not try to convert anyone. Re an adult is unrealistic.
Think with your head, do as you see fit, then you are unlikely to become a victim. Your confidence and knowledge will help sociopath perceive you as an equal, not as a means to an end.
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