60 life hacking how to overcome fear of failure
Relations / / December 19, 2019
Jia Jiang (Jia Jiang)
Entrepreneur, blogger, author, founder of the company, which helps people to deal with the fears with the help of therapy failure.
1. Not everyone is ready to meet you. Faced with the refusal, have to explain the reason and try to get around it.
2. To negotiate with several people at once is much more difficult than with someone one. When asking for something, better communicate with the person face to face.
3. Try to laugh interlocutor, then communication is not exactly will go on rising tone.
4. When you are about something ask, it is important to appear confident.
If you give the impression of a knowledgeable person, you have a much better chance of getting a positive response.
5. If you are asked about something, but you do not have time to complete this request, offer alternative solutions to the problem. Say, for example: "Unfortunately, I can not do this because... I know some good people that can help you."
6. If at the time of failure, you will be so kind and friendly, you will not be possible to get angry.
7. Even if your offer is very attractive, you still can say no if you would call a convincing reason why the interlocutor must agree. The next time will have something to offer, be sure to use the word "because".
8. Do not forget, after the word "no" is always asking why.
Even if the person can not change the view it is always useful to know the reason for refusal.
9. The world is full of amazing experiences and the people about whom we do not even suspect because of its constant rush.
10. If before the voice request, you are very worried, then stop and take a deep breath. You will feel much more confident when you do not act slowly and carefully pronounce each word.
11. People tend to respond well to others. Do not be afraid to ask someone to do you a compliment and compliments themselves. You'll see, both you and the interviewee will become a little happier.
12. In business negotiations the first "no" should not be the end of the discussion. Very often, you and the other party can find an alternative solution. Always try to keep a cool head and not get hung up on one embodiment.
13. Marketing moves and persistence will not help you if you do not have the correct access channel.
Sometimes you do not refuse because of the fact that, or as you say, but because of the person to whom you say it.
14. If you feel that the person does not intend to continue the conversation with you, do not try to change his mind. And do not take it personally.
15. If you have something to offer, do not be afraid to do it. It is possible that someone is now just looking.
16. Whether you are offering customers a product or ask passers money for charity, always explain clearly what means will be used.
17. Humor - it's good, but do not overdo it. Clumsy or inappropriate joke can cost you dearly.
18. One of the most effective ways to deny someone - is to turn the conversation to another topic.
People most love to talk about themselves and their interests.
If you have a conversation the interlocutor, you can avoid conflict.
19. Sales is important to know your customers and their needs. When a client has made it clear that he needed and what is not, do not try to impose their views.
20. Of course, representatives of the Service Customer shall have the right to say no to a particular request or hesitated before agreeing. But without hesitation uttered "yes" and additional efforts will delight the customer and make him come back.
21. Before you ask for something, express your respect for the man. Just do not fawn and try to manipulate, try to be sincere.
22. Do not be afraid to offer individual services that he renders himself. After all, if someone each day preparing food for others, it does not mean that he refuses to lunch.
23. During any negotiations always keep in mind not only the main, but the secondary target.
People do not like to say "no" twice in a row. So, if you are denied the first request, perhaps to settle for second.
24. People prefer to deny not directly but through intermediaries. Therefore, if possible, always lead the negotiations is the one who makes the decision, not his subordinates.
25. Whatever you were trying to achieve, perseverance - this is the key to success.
26. Remember that your request for the other person may be associated with the risk or some obstacles. Offer something that will reduce or eliminate the risk of obstacles. For example, if you want to get a job offer to work a week without pay. If you want to sell something, offer the customer the first 10 days to use the product for free.
27. Try to turn on the service request into a call. For example, he said: "Most would not do that, but we would appreciate if you can help us." Only still let them know that you are asking about the service is that it does not seem fraud.
28. Do not settle, if you are not sure that will be able to fulfill his promise.
The golden rule of customer service: "Promise less, do more."
29. Inactivity is much more frightening than the action. After all, if we aspire to something and get a failure, then we try to get better.
30. Neglect - is a form of denial. If you to treat someone with disdain, do not be surprised that as a result of the man you reject.
31. Before you ask about something, try to establish contact with the person and find common ground. This is one of the oldest and most effective methods of communication.
32. Do not forget that people endowed with the authority in the first place all the same people. They are guided by the same rules as everyone else. Behave with them naturally, otherwise you can get not only a failure, but something worse.
33. In most cases, interpersonal interaction, including during the negotiations and transactions, you will be calmer, if you know that the other person is on your side. Confidence will help you achieve the desired.
34. If you are a business, do not be afraid to test their ideas into practice and receive waivers customers.
You can see if your product is good only when it is in the hands of customers.
35. Sometimes a request may be so strange that you just automatically denied. Therefore, before you ask, explain why you need it. And if you still say 'no', do not forget to ask why.
36. No matter how heavy or had a conversation, try not to give in to negative emotions. Only then can we expect a positive response to the interlocutor.
37. When someone explains the reason for the refusal, referring to the third party, or organization, try to separate it from the interests of the organization. Just do not put in jeopardy the interlocutor with the third party.
38. Fear often makes us deny ourselves even before we reject others.
39. No matter how difficult, frightening and absurd may be the situation, always ready to help practice. If you stop the fear of rejection, just practice getting in failure. When you again and again will be provided in an awkward situation, your fear will soon disappear.
40. Remember the words of Bruce Lee:
Bruce Lee, actor and directorIf you always put yourself in the boundaries of what you can do, physical or any other, you can just as well be dead.
This applies to work, morality, for life.
41. We are afraid of failure, because when they feel insecure and disillusioned. With this fear will handle the so-called failure therapy. Having been refused in response to minor requests for you, you get used to this feeling and learn to not be afraid to ask for what is truly important to you.
42. During the negotiations, we must listen to the other person, not to his own thoughts.
43. Robert Kennedy once said, "Some look at the constitution of things and think," Why? ". I dream about something that never happened, and I think, 'Why not?'. " We all have to ask ourselves often: "Why not?".
44. With difficult not easier to cope alone, and in the group. Support and encouragement of colleagues sometimes help a lot more than personal courage.
45. If you are refused a place, it does not mean that you and your request is not worth attention.
Sometimes you just need to make a request to another location or to another person.
46. If your request is unusual and daring, first proposed to do something similar yourself. This is a great way to make contact with the person and start interchange principle.
47. Knowledge can be obtained from books, master classes and classrooms. But this knowledge is transformed into skills only in practice.
48. No matter how noble your goal, always think first about their actions, rather than on the results.
49. Always offer to help.
50. When you are dissatisfied with something in your life, try to turn the situation to their advantage and to receive from it pleasure. It will help to cope with a bad mood.
51. You can weigh the long pros and cons, debate and wait for the right moment, but you will not achieve anything until you begin to act.
The only way to get rid of fear - is to look into his eyes.
52. If you live in a big city, or work in a tense area where you have to often face rejection, consider it as an advantage rather than a disadvantage. It's motivating to work on yourself and achieve more.
53. Everyone likes to learn something new. If your request to mention information that will help the other party to fill the gap in knowledge, the chances of a positive outcome of the negotiations may increase.
54. Finishing their studies and entering the professional world, we often start to live as if our lives are planned out in advance. We cease to commit impulsive acts, and enjoy life. But this is wrong: the spontaneity makes life more colorful and vibrant.
55. All human beings are curious. If you want to interest the interlocutor, ask him questionsThe answer to which he just wanted to know.
56. Do not focus on the results that you can not control.
It is better to think about what you can change. About their actions.
57. Absolutely all experience fear., You need to reduce the fear of impact on us in order to achieve mutual understanding. When we are not afraid of ourselves, we can help others overcome their fears.
58. Disclaimer - this is something like a lottery. If you try again and again, and you can win.
59. Sometimes however you try and however much practiced, you still will not be able to completely get rid of the fear of failure. Just do it in spite of his fear, and, most likely, you will not regret.
60. Main life hacking: focus on their business rather than on someone else's opinion.
Due to the so-called spotlight effect we are afraid to commit extraordinary acts, and to take risks, because we believe that others will notice our quirks and failures and condemn us. But in reality, no man has care of us. And even if someone and express your opinion, why it should worry us?
In a world of billions of people and billions of views. Constantly worrying about what others think, we inevitably begin to adapt to their expectations or, even worse, by our understanding of these expectations. As a result, we will live a mediocre life.
So try not to focus on yourself, focus on your business and help others.