How not to overdo it with the early development of the child

Victoria Shimanskaya

Psychologist, author of techniques of emotional intelligence of children "Academy Monsikov».

The benefits of early development has been greatly exaggerated

today Statistics unpleasant impressive excessive demands of parents, lack of conditions for a free and casual games, the lack of attention and care from the adult side. As a result, we get the daily stress, and in the primary school - hourly.

A child is not physically able to perform its tasks, it is constantly faced with a demonstration of discontent, censure and even punishment by an adult. All this drives him to a nervous tension, which can lead to severe neurosis or even to childhood depression.

This approach not only contributes to the development, but on the contrary, a negative effect on health, natural biochemical processes in the brain, the development of cognitive and morphological structures.

It is a step back in the development.

Especially frightening for a child is stress time limit. And with him on a daily basis faced by most children in the lower grades. Equalization of all children under one of the standard excludes individual approach. The teacher expects from every child in the class of the job for a certain period of time, which can not all meet the children. As a result, the child is confused and intimidated by the consequences.

Fear is the predominant emotion in preschool and early school age - these disappointing results were obtained in studiesAlmanac "New research"Conducted by the Institute of age Physiology RAO led by Mariana Bezrukikh. And all because we forget: All children are individual differences in development can often reach two years. So, despite the fact that the child was eight, the development of his abilities may be at the age of six. And this is normal, this fact should be taken into account and continuously.

Requirements must comply with the development of

Mental activity and the willingness of the child to the cognitive processes affect the development of neural connections of the brain. And if earlier it was believed that after three years of this development is stopped, but now scientifically proven fact quite different: active the creation of neural pathways going up to nine years, with some areas of the cerebral cortex can grow up to 25 years old.

The man is constantly fed with new information that makes up new discoveries, can develop this ability until his old age. On this basis we can say exactly: after three is not too late.

To popular myth, that after three years late, it has no relation to the actual pace of development of the child.

Among the features of brain development should pay attention to the frontal area, which is responsible for the self-organization of a strong-willed person. This site is fully formed only in 9-10 years. Not knowing this, many parents complain that the child uncollected, he is not trying, restless. In fact, the answer lies on the surface: it simply is not ripe for self-organized activities.

Each of our requirement for a child must necessarily correspond to its stage of development. On the topic I can recommend a book Goldberg Elhonona "Managing the brain: the frontal lobe, leadership and civilization", there is the issue of disclosure is very detailed and wide.

healthy childhood formula

However, all of the above does not mean that a child does not need to be addressed. On the contrary, it is necessary to engage, but to approach this issue from a completely different side.

The only correct formula of early development that can create the conditions for a healthy and happy childhood, includes physical activity, the development of speech and work with emotions (EQ).

Physical activity

Physical activity, namely favorite sport, outdoor games, an active free play - this is an important moment in the knowledge of themselves, in determining the boundaries of their capabilities and management. So gain confidence in their abilities and capabilities.

speech development

speech development creates a basis for the possibility of learning to read. 4-5 years is necessary to talk with your child, read stories, to tell stories in pictures. Research in this field has shown that only 10% of parents regularly read a child. It is necessary to fix, easily and naturally to teach the child to express his thoughts and understand others' speech correctly and only then teach him to read.

Working with emotions

Third, but not least important part of the formula - emotions. This is an important part of our lives, and work on understanding and managing emotions helps us to achieve their goals, solve complex problems, to adequately assess the circumstances.

Emotional Intelligence (EQ) - is the ability to recognize their own and others' emotions, to understand the intentions and motivations of others, the ability to soberly assess the situation and respond appropriately to it. A child with well-developed emotional intelligence easier to find common language both with adults and with peers, he has the best academic performance, he is calm, confident and always positive.

5 true steps for early child development

Here is a very simple, intuitive and, most importantly, working plan of the five steps, adapted for the development of young children of preschool age. Each of these steps the child takes place in an easy form of a game, and every step is a solid foundation for the next.

1. Awareness. I feel

Awareness - an understanding of all the five senses. You can use the "Korobochka emotions" for the development of awareness. Take any small box and fold it in things that resemble a certain emotion. For instance, experience with the child the joy of all the five senses:

1. Vision: we experience joy when we look at the bright warm sun.
2. Hearing: chime sets us on a positive, joyful feeling.
3. Taste: the taste of chocolate ice cream or a loved one may be associated with joy.
4. The sense of smell: strawberry flavor.
5. Touch: stroking favorite animal also brings us joy.

This practice will help your child distinguish between the emotions and understand the feelings and sensations they bring.

2. Motivation. I want

Teach your child not to be afraid of anything new, but rather to seek the unknown emotions and experiences. Make a pleasant surprise, unexpected trips to new places and show the world the positive side. So the child will be able to open their own desires and learn to set goals.

Motivation is very important for the development of personality, namely our desires and goals motivate us to new achievements.

3. Self-esteem. I can

For the formation of self-esteem and confidence start by setting small achievable tasks. For example, to get out together in a room, or to learn how to ride a bike.

In this case, be sure to mark and try speaking all the success and abilities of the child. The creation of such small goals and achieving them will help him gain confidence in themselves, their abilities and capabilities. This means that afterwards he is not afraid to tackle more complex tasks.

4. Intelligence. I know

There is an incredible "Seven types of content" for the memories. The bottom line is that you choose any topic that is most interesting to your child, and together they open it from seven different angles.

Let's say your child is interested in dinosaurs:

1. Reading: find interesting literary adaptation of a world of dinosaurs. Arrange hour reading.
2. Drawing: draw with dinosaurs child or dense jungle in which they lived.
3. Modeling: blind by a dinosaur.
4. Movies: look interesting documentary or animation on this topic.
5. Theatre: connect your imagination and act out a scene with characters from the prehistoric world!
6. Poster: together create a large poster with the names and pictures of dinosaurs.
7. Paleontological Museum: thither, to assess the scope and characteristics of those distant times.

5. Self-realization. I make

Keep a diary of achievements and be sure to write down all the successes of your baby.

Help your child to practice the use of development of knowledge and skills. Implementation of the acquired skills in life will allow him to realize the value and benefit of the work done.

Just how successful and emotionally harmonious are our children, it depends on us. It is important to remember that the goal of parents - to teach your child to be especially happy. The pursuit of fashion and the desire to create a prodigy - this is an experience, with mostly negative. Just love your child, to care for it and appreciate that in the future he could also love to take care and appreciate their own children.